A sort of psychology question

Have you ever come across someone... or perhaps you are someone, who is very intelligent and educated, yet identifies as a baby/little in private? Do you think there are people who find their 'little' side a refuge, enabling them to face the rest of life?

Apologies if I haven't framed that too well. I hope you all know what I'm getting at.

I find myself pretty smart and identify as a little. Hehehehehe. It's not just A's and B's in college, but using my imagination and being very clever in life.

Love,Megan

I don't do little/age play, but I'm a sub, and that's a different role than I am in professionally or within my family. I can't say that it enables me to face the rest of life, but I think it is a refuge in a way. I can let go of making some decisions and trust my Dom to tell me what to do and look out for me.

When we first got together, I was in a bad place mentally because of an abusive marriage. I didn't care much at all about myself and didn't take care of myself like I should. He valued me, and in making me stop taking chances and start taking better care of myself, I started coming out of the bad state of mind I was in.

I can still slide into it sometimes when something bad happens, and when I make a negative comment about myself, He talks me back up again. He reminds me that the reason I'm thinking that way, usually blaming myself, is because of what my ex did. It's not happening as often as it used to, and I'm even finding that sometimes when I start thinking that way, I can talk myself back up.

He also helps me remember to do stuff that's not part of my ordinary routine, and He holds me responsible if I do something like running through a yellow light. (No, that doesn't happen often anymore!) Plus, we just have fun sometimes, like talking recipes and dogs. I value that friendship because it also helps me in real life even though I'm not in my sub role or mindset at the time.

@Chester89 That's a nice story, nice to know he helps you so much. 😃

@caresabouthealth Thanks.

Hmm, seems a couple of posts vanished, including one of mine. How odd.

I know a few littles and a couple of them that I know quite well are very smart ladies!

@chester89 you explained that beautifully and hit so many points as to why I identify as a sub and feel that draw into the D/S dynamics.

@Daniel98, while I do not identify as a little and I dont even think I could role play as one I do crave that feeling of being cared for, taken care of etc. ( all the points Chester mentioned) I am attracted to that dom/daddy/authority figure and need, crave the “guidance” .

I most definitely am intelligent and have no problem being in charge in every day life.

Like Chester, years of a bad marriage have made me lose myself and I have many self destructive habits like not taking care of my health or making myself a priority because I don't think I am worthy or that I think I don't matter.

It's interesting because when I have had girlfriends I spend a lot of time urging them to look after themselves. Nothing is more important than your health I say. Do they listen? haha Best to all.