The Psychology of Anal Stretching

I'm not sure if there is already a thread here somewhere on zity that addresses the psychology of anal stretching. But what is about anal stretching that drives us? I like the fullness and pain (good pain), but it's like sometimes the thought of using large items 3"+, multiple toys, fisting consumes me. I search it out on the net and I'm constantly looking for others/videos who are into the same. Have any of you given this topic much thought?

Maybe it's one's competitive nature that makes them a size queen (I'm no pyschoproctologist). Weight lifters always want to lift more, runners want to run faster longer, thrill seekers take more and more risk - always pushing the envelop. I'm sure there is an initial "size" satisfaction. Pencil doesn't do much, 1.5" is pretty nice - then it just takes off from there. Or, my thoughts might be complete bullshit!

I think there is no need for competitive nature - the fact is that it feels good, and after a while you need something bigger to feel that goodness again... That's the way I got to use toys of the size I would never dreamed of. But this hobby is getting really awkward and expensive...

YES! Afternine, I agree about the expense but more so about the awkwardness. I'm at that 3" mark and I have my big toys in a lock box. My girlfriend has seen and even used my 2.5" dildo on me, but I think once she see the 3" chubby I just got a few weeks ago, she might be taken aback. Looking at it myself scares me and I can't believe I can take it, but I can. But yea, awkward for sure!

Yes, sometimes I see a huge dildo in a porn movie, and then I realize I can take that size easily.... and I consciously try to slow down the "upgrades". I'm in sub 3 inch category, but the toys I lookup on the net already look ridiculously large.... Sometimes I scare myself, too 😉

I feel exactly like Proximo. I love the feeling I get from inserting large objects in my ass and feeling it stretch me with each stroke. I keep stretching wider only because I am addicted to the incredible feelings I am getting as well as the ability to recreate those feelings over and over again. Along with that I watch more and more guys and girls stretching their asses to the limits and it just adds to the fun.

As far as stretching I have been able to insert a 3.89" wide dildo into me, but ONLY if it was soft silicone whereas I have only been able to insert a 3.5" PVC dildo in otherwise. Until I reach my limit I will slowly continue to attempt larger dildos. And yes, it does look crazy to see my collection as of now. It looks like I am building a small army. LOL

I will also rotate through my Bad Dragon dildos and Squarepeg Toys because each gives me a different feeling and pleasure. It does not seem to matter that some are smaller in girth or shorter as long as each one gives its' own pleasures. And not playing with any of them for 3 or more days just makes it more fun when I start back.

Well I can remember getting started with household items that were cylindrical that for the most part varied in diameter as small as 3/4" to about 1" like the bumpy handle on one of those over-sized umbrellas, or a cigar casing and deriving immense pleasure from there insertion.

But I know from that point I wished to increase the size to see if it would in fact bring me greater pleasure.

There was a faze of 1 to 1.5"-the small cucumber, hot dogs moving on up to a kielbasa. Around that time now some 20+ years past a girlfriend reamed me with her favorite hard plastic 1.5 X 10" hard plastic vibrator. A revelation to be sure. For quite a while vibration slowed the expanding universe. I thought I was about to die with the first 1 3/4" X 7" dildo I inserted. But I got accustomed to that as well. And then added rotation and vibration.

I hit the 2" diameter mark about 15 years ago and still to this day I'd say I enjoy it as a warm up to other toys. This year I got rid of all the really inflexible dildos and replaced them with softer and more flexible ones made from either silicone or PVC. This year thanks to the folks of Zity I found the beloved butt plug and own several that range from 2 to 3" in SS, silicone or glass. I'm not looking for more that 3" diameter presently as I've found out my sigmoid doesn't really like anything beyond 2.75" but when I first discovered I could go deeper this stretching and depth together have been amazing. I feel like now I have pelvic and tailbone as the limit and all the equipment returns to factory after playing.

I think it's about 2 different things in tandem...

1) It feels good.

2) Wanting more... more!... more!!...more!!!

One does have to be mindful of one's limits.

I was just revisiting this post. I initially posted this in Oct of 2018, and here I am in July of 2022 and I'm still stretching my ass to its limits. At this point I'm over the 3.5" and can hit 13" deep with large toys. I often tell myself that I probably should stop, but then when I play, I'm like, “f@ck this feels so damn good, I never want to stop!”

Any updates from you all?

I think the main driver for one wanting to stretch one's anus to its limits is masochism. My pleasure comes from submitting to the ravager of my orifice, and from being desired in return. I don't think it's pleasure from direct stimulation, because if it's too large, it can be painful instead. And competition does not drive me, because I don't compare my "anal capacity" to others.

In a sexual situation, desiring--or at least tolerating--the penetration and stretching of one's orifices is only natural, because....how else is mother nature going to get two individuals to engage in the penetrative sexual intercourse so necessary for the survival of the species?

I love it when my orifices are ravaged and stretched by my loving partner, because I know that it is an affirmation of his animal desire for me, and this more than makes up for the soreness, aches, and sometimes bleeding after the "violent" sexual act. Reason says I should stop doing this because it can't be good for my health, but instinct usually wins.

I think the desire to be anally stretched, and broader masochistic drives, are a legacy of our evolutionary history, when sexual intercourse likely involved violence of males against females. Think bands of cavemen or hunter-gatherer males raiding each other and stealing females for sex, like chimpanzees do. The submission of one's body to violent or painful penetration and feeling sexual pleasure from it may have been advantageous for reproductive success in our ancient past. But hey, it could be worse, like the traumatic insemination of female bed bugs, or the sexual cannibalism of praying mantises and spiders.

It's such a primal instinct that sexual masochistic drives are present in both men and women today.