Do you have feelings of dominance as you hold his cock and "make" him cum ?

Knowing your hands on effect is the direct cause of making him ejaculate, does it make you feel dominant as he helplessly cums as a result of you masturbating him ?

Or perhaps even if you gave manual stimulation to a woman to make her cum.

Then, have you ever wanted to take it a step further and tie them up before masturbating them?

I don't feel dominant when I jerk off a man or a woman.

I look at it as doing something fun for both of us.

If I didn't think it was fun, I wouldn't be doing it.

If we are in a scene, I tie them up first, bring them just to the point of an orgasm and then I like to leave the room. 😈 If anything, I have the feeling of dominance when I DON'T let them cum.

I've never felt " dominated" by a woman masturbating me, nor have I ever consciously felt "dominant" when manually stimulating a woman. Or at least I would say " dominant" wasn't really the word. A sense of leading the activity at that time would be a more accurate description, as to say you feel dominant has a connotation of domination where there is a dominant and a submissive.

Masturbating someone is not by definition an act of domination. Some people might link sex acts such as masturbating another with domination if that's what they are into, but personally I don't feel that way.

I don't feel any 'dominance' - when I have a man's cock in my hand, but it is fun, intimate, and something I love doing. The only thing is - that when I get my man's cock to the point of release, I take the cum in my mouth. It's something I love to do - but I don't feel like there is in dominance to it.

I like giving my husband a hand job some times when we are in the bath, if we do not fuck. I just enjoy doing it for him and he enjoys me doing it. It does not make me feel dominant, I do not think giving a hand job means being dominant. What has tying up got to do with it? 😮 I think a step further than giving a hand job is giving a blow job.

On occasions when my husband comes into my sewing room or the kitchen while I'm working and says, "OK baby, it's time to jerk (or suck) me off" I guess HE might feel dominant although it can't be much of a dominant feeling because I always agree to do it unless I'm at a critical point in what I'm doing.

I know he likes that because its an orgasm he doesn't have to work for!

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Amethyst said

What has tying up got to do with it?

THAT'S where it really can become an act of dominance, and for me its where I usually decide to get them worked up and then walk away denying them their orgasm.

I know, I'm mean. 😁

Man, Susie - I don't know if I want you to sit down with my wife and give her plenty of ideas or stay far away!

Man, Susie - I don't know if I want you to sit down with my wife and give her plenty of ideas or stay far away!

Most things are a double edged sword. 😁 😁 😁

It's a very interesting question, because generally I would think that the person getting stroked would be the dominant one, especially if they're asking the other person to give them the hand job. However, I've found out that when you are restrained in some way, and someone else is then doing the stroking, then the roles seem to flip and they are truly dominant. The stroker is totally in control, and they can adjust the speed and intensity to their liking, not necessarily to yours. They also get to decide if and when you will actually get to have an orgasm.

Most times when I've been restrained (for example strung up with my wrists and ankles on spreader bars, or spread eagle on a St. Andrews cross), it's accompanied by a good amount of genital fondling and stroking. Sometimes I'm edged (right to the brink of orgasm) over and over and over again. Other times they do that for awhile and then finally finish me off. My point is that in those scenes, the one doing the stroking is definitely in charge.

I never felt dominated by anyone masturbating me unless I was tied up.

If someone was masturbating me, I always thought they were doing something that I liked and I was happy about having them do it.

I really do not see this as a D/s issue! I suppose if bondage were involved it might be, but I've never thought about being masturbated by a partner or doing mutual masturbation as D/s. If it is, then thank goodness for D/s! LOL!

I don't feel any 'dominance' - when I have a man's cock in my hand, but it is fun, intimate, and something I love doing. The only thing is - that when I get my man's cock to the point of release, I take the cum in my mouth. It's something I love to do - but I don't feel like there is in dominance to it.

I've mentioned this before but my gf when I was in the army couldn't keep her hands off my joy stick. I asked her why she she liked doing that so much and her answer was that it made her feel powerful. When she made me come I couldn't stop it from happening and she liked the expression on my face as it progressed to finally coming. I was so in love I didn't mind her watching my face as I came. I was happy to do that for her. She never mentioned anything about feeling dominant other than the fact that the squirt was going to happen and I had no way to stop it without preventing her from stroking it.

Can you feel dominant if you are doing something the other person wants and enjoys?

If we are in a scene, I tie them up first, bring them just to the point of an orgasm and then I like to leave the room. 😈 If anything, I have the feeling of dominance when I DON'T let them cum.

@SwitchableSusie, that is just downright evil.

Yep, I've thought about it. YOU, are definitely evil. 😮

Can you feel dominant if you are doing something the other person wants and enjoys?

I think if you are in a position to be able to make someone have an orgasm whether they want to have one or not, like in a bondage situation, or if the mere weight of you body pins them down, or if they have no means to stop you, and you will "force" them to have an orgasm, I see their body as being in your hands and at your mercy.

@SwitchableSusie, that is just downright evil.

Yep, I've thought about it. YOU, are definitely evil. 😮

I have practiced and perfected my craft! 😁 😈 😁 😈 😁

I certainly do not feel dominated by a woman when she strokes me to orgasm. It's actually a wonderful feeling of sharing.

Jerking my sub off is not about dominance. It is more about the pleasure he is getting from what I am doing to and with him.

But . . . it can change if I stop and don't allow him to orgasm when he has been circling the drain for quite sometime.

Of course, one who runs the game is dominant. This is happening in every job. I especially love when I'm in charge. I'm leading almost always. I determine when we will. I decide where we're going to do it. I decide how to do it. I determine when he or she will enjoy it, and when not. I like watching him or her when orgasming and cumming.

For me this is similiar like the “ feeling dominant when giving an enema” thread.

I feel zero dominance when I have a mans penis in my hand. I am pleasuring him which in turn gives me pleasure. I can indeed decide to keep him on edge, prolong or speed up when he organsms and that can be a huge ego boost but I don’t feel like I am dominating or that he is submitting to me.

We are enjoying each other in a sexual way and essentially pleasuring each other.

It gives me great pleasure knowing I can get my guy aroused, and bring him to an amazing orgasm. It gets me aroused making him moan and then cum.

Exploring him and finding those special spots and certain techniques that get him breathing heavy ....oh my !

Feeling dominant or not when holding a man's penis is all a matter of INTENT.

If your desire is to give him pleasure, I don't see that as dominance. If you are jerking him off with one hand and sticking a box full pins into his ass with the other, I can see a greater feeling of dominance.

In a medical scene or setting, if I am being masturbated by a doctor or nurse, male or female, I feel somewhat submissive. I know I could get up and walk out, but I'm letting them do that to me for some reason.

If I'm getting a handjob from a woman outside of a medical situation, it all depends on how she plays it. If she gets aggressive and wants to slap it around a bit, or tie it up, or just go fully to town on it, well then she's in charge. I'll beg her to stop or just keep my bitch mouth shut. If she wants to play innocent and shy, then I'll shove her hand down my pants and tell her exactly what she is to do until she begs me to shoot my load all over her. I really like making them tell me where on their body they want me to shoot it.

It took a long time for me to get comfortable letting guys beat me off, and at first I was only comfortable doing it in med-fet games, and only with my girlfriend present. I'm now able to enjoy it without the medfet part but I do still enjoy other people being there, and I prefer to be fully nude, but I do feel 100% dominant. I'm letting this guy beat my big dick off in front of his wife, or my girlfriend, or some strangers at a party.

I'm pretty tall and pretty built, and in ok shape generally. I'm no athlete, nor a model, but in a small group of people, the odds that there would be another guy there who could believably, physically, dominate me, if we wanted to play that way, are slim. I wouldn't know where to begin.

On the other hand, I did spend most of high school begging girls to touch it, so I'm already pretty comfortable with that dynamic.

If I'm just having a pleasant erotic time with my partner and I'm getting her off from using my fingers or tongue or penis, I just feel joy like I'm giving her the pleasure she wants. But my exes and I were both almost always switches, and I especially liked her giving me submissive enemas as her sub. But she also loved getting them from me as my sub. In that case when she wanted to be the sub, and I was masturbating her say with my fingers while she was filling with or holding her enema, I would definitely feel dominant. Especially because I'd frequently remind her what she had to do to earn her orgasm as the sub, including certain volumes for certain hold times and doing some tasks while holding, plus some other kinks to add to her arousal while temporarily withholding her orgasm(s). We both really enjoyed those "enforced" D/s enema orgasms.

Eric

Not at all. When I beat a man off, it is because I love his penis and want to enjoy watching it go through successive stages of stimulation until he shoots off a load of semen. It only makes sense to do a good job so you see the best possible ejaculation. I want him to tell me how to adjust my technique to satisfy him. Likewise the men and women who beat me off want to worship my penis and see it stimulated. I give a lot of instructions, which I expect them to obey, regarding lube or dry, tightness of the grip, length of the strokes, and locations of stimulation. I am the dominant one when receiving a handjob.

I feel dominate when I tell somebody else to masterbate me and they do it