How intense / all-consuming is your fetish?

Wasn't sure where to post this question, hope it's OK here.

My cardiophilia and resus-fetish have been with me from an early age, since before I was old enough to even realise it was sexual feelings they were stirring in me. And they are an absolute integral part of sexual pleasure for me. And so very intense - the level of arousal I can reach from simply reading a short piece of related erotica, or looking at related pictures, chatting online with a fetish-buddy or watching a video is just incredible.

Which is all well and good, but I sometimes feel like it's just too overwhelming / all-consuming. I can honestly say I have NEVER cum without having some element of heart / resus fantasy in my head. Never - neither on my own nor with a partner. Even when I was first discovering masturbation as a young girl. And the craving I have to meet up with a like-minded person for cardiophile / resus sex is like a constant nagging ache. And it all just seems to get worse (ie. Intensify) as I get older.

Are there any others who feel the same about their fetish(es), or do others find it easier to keep their kinks in a box and not let them take over their entire sex life?

My fetish is buttock injections and it both intense and all-consuming. Getting shots in my vulnerable bare bottom from beautiful nurses really turns me on, as does watching or even just hearing about attractive young ladies getting them back there.

I used to be absorbed by my kink but now im more a spectator

My kinks are an important part of my life and sex life with my husband. We enjoy them tremendously but they are only a part of our lives.

You can see my profile introduction for all the important parts of my life.

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=member;u=1927

It's too much to re-write! 😁

What fetish. I'm just misunderstood

I can get off thinking about a lot of things. My little fetishes are usually pretty sure fire though. They blend in with other things and my brain does a lot of hopping around until it can hook into something and ride it home.

Looking back objectively, I would say I have been progressive at continuing to bring my fetishes to the next level. Sometimes it is a slow process, but eventually opportunities present themselves. I just try to stay open to possibilities, and I've found that at some point, things do happen.

I can easily walk away from this site with all the nonsense and never look back. And some day I shall do just that. In the meantime I need some oddball humor to keep me amused.

@Tillie it is interesting how zity stops becoming as much of a place for fetishes and more of a community as you grow with it, or it grows with you.

Tillie, for what it's worth, I would miss you if you left.

Every community has its nonsense.. I tune it out and enjoy the people I've grown to love and care about.

Doc

Tillie, for what it's worth, I would miss you if you left.

Doc

Ditto !!!!

Sometimes I have similar concerns. When I'm alone, exam role play images and stories are what I automatically go to when I want to get off. And my memories of past role play exams stand as some of the best sexual experiences of my single life, so it's hard to shake that. And I think I feel guilty for having a side to my sexuality that doesn't involve my partner (only because he's not into it).

I have no one to enjoy my fetish with. It is much easier to keep it "in the box". I would love to let it out!

I dream it, play it and live it daily by consulting with all my play patients !

@SwitchableSusie,

Susie, I feel the same way!

Are my fetishes an important part of my life? Hell Yes!....If I had to give them up would it be devastating? Hell No!

I try not to fret the small stuff. I take what I need and leave the rest. I know once my husband is back in the ring, I'll fall back, regroup and get ready to rumble. Yessir Buddy!

When I was younger, sure things might have gotten to that point. However I'm older and I've had time to think about what it is I really want out of my fetishes and kinks. I don't want them to consume my life in ways that causes me to become dependent on them. I want to be able to switch out and handle life when problems occur. I want to be able to forget but I don't want to get lost in my obsessive need to be cared for. It would make things easier but life is not about being easy. I often think about what my kinks or fetishes might do if I allowed them to take over and to be honest part of me wants that but the other part knows it's not how things should be. I enjoy being an adult and I enjoy being me even if I see some flaws I do not enjoy. I would not want my life to change into some uncontrollable concoction of kinky bliss even if that does sound awesome.

My foot sock and shoe fetish is a real problem for me. I look at people's feet and shoes are taking sniffs when nobody's looking and stolen socks and shoes

I'm 45, male, and have never been sexually active besides masturbation, and, during my 15th year of life, several quite intense kisses from pretty girls, which I fantasize about to this day. I attribute my inactivity to a mix of my disability and having moved around so much. Both facts of my life have contributed to social maldevelopment, which contributes to sexual maldevelopment.

So, I have no one to talk to in real life about my fetishes, but they do tend to be consuming. I am medically retired and have lots of time to engage with social media and other research tools to explore my fetishes. And I do on the daily. It's a fixation. Do I think it's unhealthy at times? Maybe. But sexuality is a huge part of me, and that in and of itself is not wrong.

When I masturbate, the girl in my fantasies will ALWAYS have a medical mask on for immunosuppressive issues or allergies/sensitivity. The only time she would take it off is to kiss me or fellate me. Any orgasm I give her, she will be masked. So I think I'm pretty similar to you in needing my fetishes to be a part of any sex play (f I got that right).

I think I'm also like you in that it would be 100x better to have a partner that not only fully understands my fetishes, but wants to explore them with me. Ageplay as Clara with a satin mask ('tis the season, and the year, for this). Or maybe she wears footed pajamas to bed, and needs to also wear a half mask cartridge respirator to keep her lungs safe. Or a catholic school uniform with plaid skirt and matching mask, with sweater tights as well.

It's really agonizing at times. I'm an Atheist, but my favorite depiction of a heavenly place after we die is one with 72 virgins, even if that phrase was misinterpreted. 72 young housekeepers, all in masks, some in footed pajamas or Clara gowns, and some in school uniforms.

My love and need for anal toys and anal play is very intense. The feeling of having my ass being penetrated and stretched is truly amazing and my need for it is strong. Some years ago I was so obsessed with getting bigger and bigger plugs inside me that I came close to damaging my hole. I am not talking about really huge plugs either, at that time the biggest was about 2.75 diameter but I advanced to that size way too quickly. As soon as I got a plug in for the first time I went way to quickly to get the next size up in. It got to the point where when I got the feeling that I had to go, If I didn't get to a bathroom right away I was at risk of a accident. After having a accident I stopped using plugs and toys all together for a few months. Thankfully everything went back to normal. When I finally started back up with my toys I had learned my lesson and took things very slowly like your suppose to. Right now the largest plug I put inside my ass is about 2.9 inch diameter and even though thats more than last time, since I went slow everything still works fine. I may eventually advance to a full 3" but I have no intention of going any larger than that. To all those into anal stretching, Enjoy the stretch but remember to always take it very slowly..

I'd say that my fetishes are pretty intense in that I always think about them. If I were to group them in a more general fetish for the purpose of this post, I'd say that I very often think of making women submit to all sort of anorectal torments in various positions. With everything going on this year, I've had slower moments libido- and thoughts-wise, but yeah, my thoughts usually go back to this theme before long.

Just what is my fetish... considering all the time I spend here on Zity, based on that; my fetish is Zity, 😁

It's not all consuming, but it gives me pleasure and takes my mind off life's problems.. Thank you Webby - much appreciated for this one-of-a-kind forum!

Fetish?

What fetish????

Most have been in check.. one that I occasionally feel guilty about .. is my anal play. I'll go thru times where I go crazy, and then there are times where I put the toys away.. out of little guilt or shame. But I can't stop. It's weird the other kinks.. ball stretching, pumping, and saline infusion.. no guilt. I'm assuming it's the anal fetish and being a male. Not sure why, the fiancé knows anal is a easy button for me .. and loves it controlling me with it. Any words or wisdom or thought?