WOMEN: Do you consider blowjobs sex?

Recently at a cigar social the topic of blowjobs came up. Opinion among the cigar servicers present was divided. Some of the women thought giving a blow job would be sex to them, while others did not consider a blowjob to be sex.

When asked the reverse question, they all thought getting eaten out was sex.

Where do the Zity women line up on this topic?

I've renamed the thread to make it more obvious that the question is aimed solely at women.

Yes, I consider blow jobs sex. If sex organs are involved, it's sex.

I am probably going to get a lot of crap for this but here goes.

I dont think of giving a blow job as sex but I do think of it as a sexual act.

Same goes for receiving oral.

To think of giving and receiving as two opposites acts is just silly.

Maybe this is old fashioned of me but I only regard vaginal/anal penetration of a penis sex.

If you are using a toy/fingers/tongue to achieve orgasm with someone I consider that a sexual act not sex.

Now as far as same sex couples I have to stray a bit from what I consider sex and sexual acts.

I know I am a bit warped....go easy on me with this one lol

The "what do you feel sex is" has been discussed in other threads.

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=35741

TECHNICALLY, and I don't give a rat's ass what the newfangled dictionaries say, sex is ONLY penis in vagina. Neither the anus nor the mouth is a sex organ/organ of reproduction. "Anal sex" and "oral sex" are misnomers. Anything else you do to play with your sex organs alone or with other people is masturbation or mutual masturbation and that can take several forms. Is jerking off, "hand or finger sex"? I don't deny it is an intimate activity.

Therefore a blowjob is NOT sex but it is sexual activity--a form of masturbation whereby another person applies stimulation.

I was going to write what @SwitchableSusie just said.

Isn't it a form of sex. Called oral sex.

A blowjob isn’t sex, it’s a kind of sexual activity.

Not really sex but just playing.

I think we're toying with words. Does a sexual act = sex??

Bridgette said:

Maybe this is old fashioned of me but I only regard vaginal/anal penetration of a penis sex.

If you are using a toy/fingers/tongue to achieve orgasm with someone I consider that a sexual act not sex.

Now as far as same sex couples I have to stray a bit from what I consider sex and sexual acts.

Susie said:

TECHNICALLY, and I don't give a rat's ass what the newfangled dictionaries say, sex is ONLY penis in vagina. Neither the anus nor the mouth is a sex organ/organ of reproduction. "Anal sex" and "oral sex" are misnomers. Anything else you do to play with your sex organs alone or with other people is masturbation or mutual masturbation and that can take several forms. Is jerking off, "hand or finger sex"?

Others (below) do not regard blowjobs as "sex" -

If you include vaginal and anal penetration as sex (per Bridgette) - why not oral penetration?? By this def'n, Men can have sex with men - anal, but lesbians can't have sex?? Sounds like a lot of others define sex as male to female vaginal intercourse - ONLY. That's more consistent.

Whatever, regardless of how we define it, sex and sexual acts go hand in hand - or mouth to mouth! I don't draw a distinction - sex and sexual acts are ALL good.!!

No I don’t. They’re intimacies but they’re not sex. When I was a teen a blowjob was what you did when you weren’t ready to have sex but wanted to keep your bf happy :-)

Perhaps I should have posed the question differently.

What I was wondering was the distinction made by some women between the intimacy of penis in vagina AKA sex, and the sexual act of giving a blow job.

To some of the women at the gathering if they were to give a blow job they would have to be receptive to sex with that person. To others there, they may suck a cock but not necessarily be willing to have PiV sex. They did not see BJs as intimate as the sex act.

@gwhap, “its all good” YES! Yes, indeed ?

I did not touch base on gay and lesbian sex as for me it gets a bit complicated to define as per my personal distinctions.

Do I consider gay and lesbian sex actual sex acts ? Yes, but dont ask me to explain lol

IMHO I think it is about what the lady thinks is more intimate,a penis in her mouth or in the V.

For me I have not given many blowjobs or had sex with many people but If I loved someone enough to try and have sex with them then I love them enough to do a BJ.

I would not give a BJ with someone unless I loved them enough to try to make love too.

Peace,

Caz

Que the tape of President Clinton saying-

"I did not have sex with that woman."

😃

Well, we needn't ask his opinion on the matter then ... ha ha ha

The thread is asking WOMEN

WOMEN: Do you consider blowjobs sex?

@switchablesusie That is a clear-cut definition to say "penetrative sex with penis in the vagina is the only sex." It sure does seem like that though. Lol on saying masturbation would then be called "hand sex" if blowjobs are considered sex. You have a very valid point to say a blow job isn't truly sex.

As far as I am concerned, if I am interacting with my partner in any form of sexual activity, regardless of what kind, it is sex.

As far as I am concerned, if I am interacting with my partner in any form of sexual activity, regardless of what kind, it is sex.

Hmmm ... yes, but that is circular reasoning. Interacting with a partner in the form of sexual activity cannot be anything else but sex.

For me If I am in bed with a guy and we are naked and kissing, licking, penetrating etc. I consider the blow job sex.

If I am on my knees in a back room or coat closet with a guys pants around his thighs its really not sex to me. Im not saying I might not be enjoying it, but its more like a favor or a prerequisite for me getting something else I want.

If I am on my knees in a back room or coat closet with a guys pants around his thighs its really not sex to me. Im not saying I might not be enjoying it, but its more like a favor or a prerequisite for me getting something else I want.

Boy, I wish I had known girls like you when I was young. It usually felt as if being allowed to hold hands was a privilege akin to intercourse and something to be ever so grateful for ... ha ha ha

Giving a blow job is, for me, is an intimate sexual experience between me and my sub. It could lead to an orgasm, if I let it, or just bee done for a tease.

Either way, it's an intimate sexual experience for both of us.

Some ladies are more open in thought. But to me, if you perform an intimate act such as a blow job or eating another woman it is sex. You are giving the other person sexual gratification. Now if anyone is adding the totals. My sisters' girlfriend and I say it is sex and my sister says it isn't. Of course when I caught my sister masturbating when I was 12 and she was 14 I learned then that she was not a virgin. She told me all. She liked the taste of a guy. Later in years I gave my boyfriend a blow job and it tasted bitter and to me was gross. I was told maybe he had something bad to eat and I should give it another try. I did give it another try and the same thing. He was squirting something that tasted bad in my mouth and he loved it. I can remember the first time having sex with him. It again sucked. As soon as my hymen broke and he was all the way in he had an orgasm. It was over and done all in like two minutes maybe a little longer. I did not have an orgasm because he was done. Now with the roommate, I had at the time was another story. We had some guys over who had booze. That is all we wanted was some booze. We were not old enough to buy it. It was in college. So the booze started getting low and the guys had been flirting with us the whole time. We told them we were lesbians. They didn't believe us and said they wanted to watch. So we started kissing. I mean really hot wet kisses. We told the guys that was all they could watch and they were bummed out and left. She and I had a buzz and we started talking and one thing led to another. Next thing I know we were in bed and she gave me great orgasms with fingers, tongues, and toys. So I think that is where I base my ideas on.

WOW! The "Zity Women", have already said a mouthful on this, but I guess it's my turn to spout off a bit. I just hope I don't choke and wind up regurgitating anything that was already said...

Blowjob = a penis goes in my mouth. I am profoundly aware of it being there and generally requires that I encourage said penis along by sucking and stroking it, as well as perhaps its accessory package. Probably if I'm in a good mood and said partner has been "interesting", I will also swallow semen or at the very least let it dribble seductively from my mouth. (Note: If that happens it's only to give you the illusion that you dropped a huge, veril load in my mouth when in reality you either (A) tasted horrendous, or (B)Weren't swallow worthy, or (C) Didn't in fact leave a decent enough load to bother swallowing, or (D) Any combination of the above. Hmmmm... lemme think? Yeah! This qualifies as sex!

Play safe!

@Tabitha32 That's the thing women understand it isn't just one orgasm and they know how to please the other woman in a way a man cannot because she herself is a woman.

As for me, it is the same as sex. Agreed with MissStress it’s intimate between two people (the couple for me)

Isn't it a form of sex. Called oral sex.

A blowjob ISN'T sex. It is oral MASTURBATION.

.

Not really sex but just playing.

Exactly!

This is asking women what their opinion is on blow jobs being or not being sex. There is no right answer just personal opinions.