Medical professionals with MedFet

My own thoughts and another post here got me to thinking about medical professionals with a medfet kink. For those in the field, how do you handle things on your job that you use sexually in your private life? You know ethically you can NOT get excited while treating a patient, nor can you subject them to ANYTHING for the sake of your sexual interests. I would think its a constant battle in your head.

I would LIKE to think that every professional, AND PARENT, can put aside their personal kinks to do the right things for those they care for, but I’ve read things here that don’t concur with that. As a parent I really thought about keeping MY interests away from my kids. Rectal temps are not needed anymore, technology has advanced. I only used 1 tiny enema on my 2 yr old son because of his discomfort. And I can’t imagine doing things to my children just because I found that i enjoyed them sexually.

So, to nurses and doctors, how do you handle this internal conflict of interest?

This has been thoroughly discussed many times over the years.

Work is work and play is play.

How does one distinguish between work and play? You suggest that sexual desires can be compartmentalized, switched on and off situationally. Base urges don't situationally subside. You can resist the urge to act upon those desires, but they still exist.

@sensei1980 said

How does one distinguish between work and play? . . .

Are you serious?

Play time is fun time.

Work is in a hospital, medical office or accident scene; the other is at home, a hotel, a medical dungeon or some other play place.

At work people come to see you for a medical problem needing treatment, in the other, people see you to play and have a good time.

Medical situations at work have real life consequences involving infection, disability, death and disease and I can assure you diseased bodies are not fun to play with.

If you couldn't figure that out on your own, it's a good thing you aren't in the health professions.

Oh my god, are we we talking about this again? As a practicing emergency physician sex is the last thing on my mind. What is mostly, is anxiety. Did I get it right or did I miss something? Plus, sick people are not attractive. As for the routine patients, it’s like flipping burgers. It’s work and it can be drudgery. If you think I’m thinking about sex you’re truly delusional.

Liquidsky, THANK YOU for the flipping burgers line.

Now I can say the exams are as exciting as squeezing fruit in the food store to see if it's ripe!

If you think I’m thinking about sex you’re truly delusional.

Maybe for most of you. But there are exceptions. Does the name Larry Nassar ring a bell?

I'm sure the vast majority of doctors are able to separate work from their deviant sexual thoughts and fantasies. But there are plenty of examples of docs who have abused their patients to satisfy their sexual cravings. My sister, a pharma rep, recently lost a client (and doc lost his license) who was convicted of giving pelvic exams and pap smears without wearing gloves.

Yeah hard to believe we're bringing this up again. The original poster is not a noobie, his profile says he's been a member for ten years, so I'm sure the multiple previous discussions on this topic aren't new to him..

I will pose a question to the original poster: what do you do for a living? Do you lust after your co-workers or clients?

How does one distinguish between work and play? You suggest that sexual desires can be compartmentalized, switched on and off situationally. Base urges don't situationally subside. You can resist the urge to act upon those desires, but they still exist.

Holy crap. I don't HAVE to distinguish between work and play. They are totally different. I didn't invest ten years of my life and $400,000 so I could "play" doctor. You have absolutely no clue, and to be honest with you, I don't mind insulting people like you when they come out with crap like that. You're an idiot if you think that the doctor you're seeing is lusting after you (or your wife, kids, or parents).

Every few months some idiot starts a thread like this, and all of us who actually provides medical care explain, defend or try to enlighten those that think it's all about sex. I'm tired of being nice. Grow the fuck up.

docinny45 said

Holy crap. I don't HAVE to distinguish between work and play. They are totally different. I didn't invest ten years of my life and $400,000 so I could "play" doctor. You have absolutely no clue, and to be honest with you, I don't mind insulting people like you when they come out with crap like that. You're an idiot if you think that the doctor you're seeing is lusting after you (or your wife, kids, or parents).

Every few months some idiot starts a thread like this, and all of us who actually provides medical care explain, defend or try to enlighten those that think it's all about sex. I'm tired of being nice. Grow the fuck up.

It's too bad I can't give TWO likes for that one.

Maybe for most of you. But there are exceptions. Does the name Larry Nassar ring a bell?

Do the names Bernie Madoff, Ivan Boesky and Charles Ponzi ring any bells?

Some people are ruthless to get pussy, some to get money.

There are a few bad apples everywhere.

I venture to say people's lives were ruined by Madoff, Boesky and Ponzi.

Larry Nassar just embarrassed some people and made them angry.

There are exceptions to everything. Basically this thread is overblown, repetitive and boring, so it needs to be closed out.

... I can’t imagine doing things to my children just because I found that i enjoyed them sexually.

So, to nurses and doctors, how do you handle this internal conflict of interest?

You pretty much answer this question on your own. Just as you "can't imagine," so those of us in the medical profession "can't imagine" the type of "conflict" you suggest... it doesn't exist. I concur with what the other medical professionals have said here: sex is simply not on my mind, or a part of my emotional disposition, at work. There is so much more to what we do than the isolated fetishes one might have. As SwitchableSusie points out, there are "bad apples" in every barrel, but by in large, medical professionals are just that: "professionals." We are there to provide healing services and care, not exploit people for our own sexual gratification.

There are a few bad apples everywhere.

Of course. But I dont think Boesky and Madoff saw naked women with their feet in stirrups all day long.

I'm sure the multiple previous discussions on this topic aren't new to him..

@docinny45 True, I didn’t do a search first, and I should have. Any mod can feel free to close this out and delete or whatever.

I will pose a question to the original poster: what do you do for a living? Do you lust after your co-workers or clients?

I have nothing to do in the medical field. Lust is a pretty strong word, but I certainly notice an attractive coworker, like probably everyone else does.

You're an idiot if you think that the doctor you're seeing is lusting after you (or your wife, kids, or parents).

And that’s great - it’s what I believe of the VAST majority of medical professionals. I was never accusing medical kinksters of bringing their kinks to work. But you DO deal with human bodies so its very different than the rest of us who might do accounting or something for a job. The bad apples out there are horrible and justice should be served.

I guess when I read here about people at the rear doctor, telling TRUE stories about rectal temps and things, I wonder 1) if it’s true, and if so 2) was that Dr possibly doing something they shouldnt have?

And that goes for parents too. When people here say how many enemas they give their kids, I wonder, if THEY didn’t have an enema fetish, would they have given their kids enemas? And rectal temps for kids old enough to hold one in their mouth... into teen years? If the parent DIDNT have a rectal fetish, would they be doing that?

Every few months some idiot starts a thread like this, and all of us who actually provides medical care explain, defend or try to enlighten those that think it's all about sex. I'm tired of being nice. Grow the fuck up.

I really wasn’t accusing nor thinking ‘its all about sex.’ If it doesn’t even enter your mind when treating patients then you are the true professionals I figured you were, and that answered my question.

Larry Nassar just embarrassed some people and made them angry.

@SwitchableSusie Sorry, but that is really a disgusting statement. You can’t dismiss child sexual abuse.

Seeing how it has been pointed out that this thread is redundant, I think it can be closed or deleted all together.

Just to put this out in the open, yes, we do have an appreciation for a healthy, beautiful, well toned, muscular body, but when we're working, WE'RE WORKING.

When my daughters or I have our GYN appointments, I know my gynecologist ISN'T thinking, "HEY, HEY HEY, I'm going to see Susie (or her daughters) spread wide open" when he sees my name in the appointment book.

I so wish the medical people would not get so mad when this topic comes up,

I don't think this thread was meant to imply anything bad about the docs and nurses here.

It is the ones that are not here with bad intentions that worry me,

Peace,

Caz

I guess when I read here about people at the rear doctor, telling TRUE stories about rectal temps and things, I wonder 1) if it’s true, and if so 2) was that Dr possibly doing something they shouldnt have?

This question brings up a memory for me, and a few thoughts as well. When i was in my twenties (long before i was a healthcare professional), i went to a doctor to be tested for an STD. As part of the exam the doctor explained that he would have to do a rectal digital massage of my prostate before i urinated into a specimen cup, apparently to check for prostate infection. He was young and good looking and i had to pretend not to enjoy it (i hadn't told him i was gay). It went on for some time, and He explained it was necessary. At the time, i just accepted what He told me as part of it, but after time i began to suspect He was going above and beyond the call of duty.

The truth is, i don't really know. Something that does occur to me in this discussion is how much of our own kinks we might transfer onto the person performing the procedure or intervention? Those "TRUE" stories might involve some extrapolation, or simply the subjective feelings/thoughts of the "patient." i can certainly see how that could be the case with my own story. Even though i was embarrassed, it never entered my mind that the Doctor might be doing anything untoward at the time. It was only later, as i thought about it that i wondered. But if i am being honest, i have to take into account my own kinks and feelings and also question how much of that might be wishful thinking on my part.

Mashie has nicely addressed this issue. She enjoys both giving and getting buttock injections but clearly distinguishes between work and play. As a nurse, her sole concern is treating the patient and she tries to be as gentle as possible. In play she admits liking to make injections as painful, frightening and embarrassing as possible but she would never enjoy doing so to a real patient. The only similarity between work and play seems to be that all shots go in the bottom.

My sister, a pharma rep, recently lost a client (and doc lost his license) who was convicted of giving pelvic exams and pap smears without wearing gloves.

Maybe he was trying to tell if the fruit was ripe.

Do you lust after your co-workers or clients?

Sometimes I do, but I don't act upon my desires. Still, they do exist.

If you couldn't figure that out on your own, it's a good thing you aren't in the health professions.

I guess that chefs are never enticed by an appetizing meal when they are working in a restaurant. Furthermore, I wager that they never feel hungry at work because they are surrounded by food.

Base urges are not situation specific. You can't turn them off and on based upon the situation. You can resist those urges, but they still exist.

I highly doubt it makes any difference to their practice for many reasons including but not limited to;

Its one thing to have kinky play exam but i am sure assessing a patient for disease/ pathology is different.

The fear of litigation.

A routine is exam doesnt take long like a play exam its far more busines like.

Like everyone at work they want to go home on time and have another 30 patients to get through.

Simple fact is context is everything. In play i enjoy spanking my wife and she is free to return it. Doesnt mean that if daughter earns a smack or two its an exciting event in fact i hate to do it and a very happy how rare it is.

Look at it the other way,how many ladies here love play exams but the real thing isnt exciting?

As other have mentioned this seems to be rehashed in one form or another over the years I have been a member here. I expect it's difficult for a non -medical person to understand how we as medical personnel can separate our medical fetish from our medical work life.

Base urges are not situation specific. You can't turn them off and on based upon the situation. You can resist those urges, but they still exist.

This statement typifies your lack of understanding about what a medical professional has too do on daily basis. When you have a patient , your first priority is to try and ascertain the nature of their illness and then formulate an investigatory and treatment regime and re-evaluate the effectiveness of your interventions in a timely manner.

Have you ever been in a situation where life and death decisions have to be made in a time critical manner I can assure you that my main focus is aimed at keeping you alive , my mind is focus on being calm , rational and thinking in a clear focused manner in formulating a plan on intervention , treatment, re-evaluation etc. I can assure you I 'm not thinking of any base urges as you put it .

An analogy may help you understand a bit more , before I entered the medical field the sight of blood made me feel somewhat woozy , the first time I had to deal with a major haemorrhage I just got "on with it" , never felt woozy so as you suggested I should not have been able to turn it off and should have felt woozy and unable to do my job in a professional manner.

As I have always said as soon as I put on my scrubs , my focus is on working in a professional manner to ensure the safe well-being of my patients. I cannot imagine how you think that my thoughts are of a sexual nature when dealing with patients regardless of their state of dress.

I have been in the medical field for close to 30 years and have never had a patient ever expressive any concerns about my care. I have had many female patients who have requested me as they feel very comfortable with me and value the care, compassion and professionalism I exude when caring for them.

Think what you may , But I can say with all honesty nothing sexual ever comes into my mind when I'm working and it never will as far as I'm concerned. I did not enter the medical field to "see people naked" so sexualizing a patient does not come into it.

Just for your information Sexualization is to make something sexual in character or quality, or to become aware of sexuality, especially in relation to men and women and is linked to sexual objectification.

Sexualization occurs when "individuals are regarded as sex objects and evaluated in terms of their physical characteristics and sexiness.

Since I don't regard any of my patients as " sex objects" sexual thoughts will never ever in my thoughts .

RN

I wanted to touch on your statement but did not address it in my last reply :

So, to nurses and doctors, how do you handle this internal conflict of interest?

An Internal conflict is the experience of having opposing psychological beliefs, desires, impulses or feelings. In the field of psychology, internal conflict is often referred to as “cognitive dissonance,” which is a term that refers to holding conflicting and inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes.

So the idea of an internal conflict focuses on having opposing views , beliefs, desires, impulses or feelings. In addition we experience internal conflict for a number of reasons. Often, there is no one “single cause” or origin, but there are a number of factors which include:

The beliefs and rules we inherited from our parents

The religious beliefs, dogmas or creeds we were indoctrinated to believe

The societal values and ideals we adopted growing up

Since my main focus on entering the medical field was the ability to make a difference in people’s lives there has never been any hint of an internal conflict since I have never had conflicting and inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. I did not enter the medical field with any intention of sexualzing my patients or regarding my patients as "sex objects" , so that's why I will never have any thoughts or actions that are sexually motivated.

RN

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Either they are suffering from collective delusion, or it is you who lacks understanding.

Oh heavens. Yes, doctors/NP's/ PA's KNOW the difference between play and work. Period. End of story.