Starting out as a sub for a Mistress

Question is it customary for a sub to pay for his bdsm supply’s such collars butpugs harrness etc. before getting with his Mistress for the first time ?

I think it would be good etiquette to offer to pay (within reason of course). Also depends upon the dynamic. Is this just a little dress up and whip me for a few hours but, mostly, we are equals or is this a real (outside scenes) mistress slave dynamic?

Because if it is the latter then its up to her and you should do what you are told to do by her.

What would be in reason? This is a totally dominant and sub relationship.

Ummm what can you afford? If you have plenty of expendable income then yes you should.

If you are scraping by each month then maybe going out and dumping 100s on sex toys isnt worth it.

You are (allegedly) an adult I'm sure you can figure out what is reasonable regarding your budget.

Well in that case I am going to take that next step , just hope it works out . Thanks for the insite .

If you are going to a pay for play mistress, she would already have her equipment--rope, leather, chains, floggers, etc. You would just pay her for the time.

An exception would be for some insertable devices like catheters, sounds, enema equipment, etc.

To switchable she claims that she makes a complete kit for her sub and if and when they split he takes it with him .

Oh you didnt mention this was a pro domme.

Why not just tell her what activities you want. If she doesnt have the appropriate equipment im sure she will tell you and then you can buy it

No she is not a pro dominant she only has one sub at a time for as long as the situation is mutually beneficial and enjoyable.

@Jimmyj57

Do you want to keep your stuff at her place? What prevents other people from using your stuff? Why would you want to leave it there? She should have her own stuff and if you supply your own, you should take it with you when your session is over. Does she have a warehouse full of other people's stuff there? Sounds strange to me.

Some good comments and replies here. given the specifics, buying and bringing what's needed/desired sounds right. I wish your mistress was up for a visiting sub from SF when I am down there....