Ejaculation and Prostate Cancer

From his reply, it appears rather obvious to me his wife has no interest or no increased interest in having any kind of sexual relations.

That's what I was also guessing unless he mentioned something I hadn't thought of.

Eric

Although this is only slightly related, I recently learned that ejaculation can significantly increase a man's psa level for as much as 48 hours. I asked my urologist about this, since I was seeing him as a follow up to a prostate MRI after a suddenly elevated psa count. He confirmed that ejaculation had this effect. I asked why doctors didn't suggest that men not ejaculate for 48 hours before having a psa exam, to avoid an atypically high result. (No doctor ever said that to me.) He said some doctors did offer that advice, but that there were so many things that could temporarily raise a psa score--like riding a bicycle, playing tennis--that it would be counter productive to single out ejaculation as something to refrain from.

Still, I wish he had asked me about my habits--before ordering a prostate MRI to follow up on a single abnormally high score.

I found this out 4 years ago...

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=656427

From his reply, it appears rather obvious to me his wife has no interest or no increased interest in having any kind of sexual relations.

I am again reminded of a joke...

A wife accompanies her husband to his doctor visit. After the exam the doctor asks to talk to the wife in private. The doctor tells the wife that her husband needs to have sex once a day or he will die. The wife thanks the doctor and rejoins her husband. The husband asks her, "What did the doctor say?" She replied, "He said you're going to die." 😄

From his reply, it appears rather obvious to me his wife has no interest or no increased interest in having any kind of sexual relations.

It sure seems that most of the time she's happy with abstinence as a primary form of birth control right now 😢. Found out her hands hurt her, we're getting that fixed and I might bring it up again. Doc gave a "wow your prostate is big" comment at the last physical and the PSA level has been increasing gradually.

In my ideal world it would be more sexual activity in general, including prostate play, and I'm more than willing to get the vasectomy to make it possible as soon as my wife approves it.

In my ideal world it would be more sexual activity in general, including prostate play, and I'm more than willing to get the vasectomy to make it possible as soon as my wife approves it.

Not wanting to be discouraging here - but do you really think that would increase your wife's interest in sex???

It sure seems that most of the time she's happy with abstinence as a primary form of birth control right now 😢. Found out her hands hurt her, we're getting that fixed and I might bring it up again. Doc gave a "wow your prostate is big" comment at the last physical and the PSA level has been increasing gradually.

In my ideal world it would be more sexual activity in general, including prostate play, and I'm more than willing to get the vasectomy to make it possible as soon as my wife approves it.

Moliere,

Whatever is wrong, I hope your wife's hand pain problem can be treated successfully. Why does she need to approve your having a vasectomy? Or are you just referring to discussing it with her as a matter of courtesy?

Thanks,

Eric

Not wanting to be discouraging here - but do you really think that would increase your wife's interest in sex???

Not sure, hoping that if I go through and "fix" her list then she might be more willing. You never know...

Ericmason - I've had my dad rip into me when I commented that I was thinking about "just swinging by the doctor's" on the way home from work. Also read some professional-level stuff on vasectomies where they commented that some doctors do have both spouses sign off on it so the doctor doesn't get caught in the middle of a domestic spat.

Not sure, hoping that if I go through and "fix" her list then she might be more willing. You never know...

Ericmason - I've had my dad rip into me when I commented that I was thinking about "just swinging by the doctor's" on the way home from work. Also read some professional-level stuff on vasectomies where they commented that some doctors do have both spouses sign off on it so the doctor doesn't get caught in the middle of a domestic spat.

Your Dad was upset because you might be getting a vasectomy without telling your wife, or some other reason? As far as the doctors' getting mutual consent or at least awareness, that makes good sense for avoiding problems.

Eric

Great to know. Thanks for the info. I better increase my anti-cancer regimen.

If a man wants a vasectomy he should get it WITHOUT needing his wife's consent.

There is no need for any legalities here. It is HIS body and if he wants a vasectomy, he should get it.

It is none of the wife's business. If she doesn't like it TOO BAD.

In a healthy relationship the decision should be discussed between husband and wife but discussion isn't the same asking/ needing permission.

If disagree after talking about it should still go ahead if what you want.

I wonder how many men on Zity had or have prostate cancer and how they measure up to the number of ejaculations per month. I can only speak for myself, living with prostate cancer for the last two years, that I certainly don't remember how many ejaculations i had in my 20's,30's or 40's and I am sure most men don't keep an accurate record. I know that I probably exceeded that number for many decades and here I am with cancer. After reading a lot of these replies about the correlation of prostate activity and a PSA score it continues to amaze me how little so many men know about their bodies.

A retired surgeon friend of mine recently passed the following on to me. The vast majority of men, IF they live long enough, will test POSITIVE for prostate cancer. Many, however, will have very non-aggressive forms of the disease that would take many years before it would kill them.

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer over three years ago at the age of 69. My PSA NEVER exceeded 3.3, but had been gradually rising over time, so my urologist decided to do a prostate biopsy (which can be rather painful, if the local anesthesia does not work). My Gleeson score was 6, Indicating some cancer was present, but is not considered too serious at this stage. So, for a year, we watched things and I had another biopsy done 12 months later. This time, my Gleeson score came back a 7, which indicated some growth of cancer cells. There are 3 or 4 routes to take when treating prostate cancer. I decided to have robotic radiation treatments as that route “seemed” to offer the best results with the fewest negative side effects AND my insurance would cover it! My brother, who is 2 years younger, was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the SAME time I was. He decided to just have his prostate surgically removed and be “done with it”. Now, he wears diapers, which I guess some people on Zity wouldn’t mind! Me? No diapers — thank you very much! Anyway, after my radiation, I now have “terminal” ED and really miss having traditional sex.

Anal sex (butt-play) appeals to me and might be way for me to get some pleasure going forward. I enjoy buttplugs and dildos but can’t get my wife interested in pegging me. I’ve seen some references of straight, married men having fun by getting together for anal sex (bud sex ?). Sounds interesting, but I doubt I could morally do that.