Support from members

Not sure where this post belongs . . . I am in that difficult season of life it seems. Dad's death and funeral recently with father-in-law also passed away several years ago. Mother and mother in law both dealing with involved health issues and their ups and down. I with my own health issue to make sure I stay on top of . . . and the result for me is simply feeling drained. Add to that turning 60 all too soon! Anyway just an emotionally limp feeling! And then I experience wonderful Zity connections to people I have never met in person and I somehow experience genuine caring from this community. Can I tell you I appreciate you more than you can possibly realize? A sincere thank you for being who you are - a wonderfully caring community that goes far beyond kinks for me! Thanks, Grace

Sometimes reality can become to much and that secret place that no one in real life knows about provides you a safe retreat. I have met many friends here that have helped me when times are rough. Hope you get through your challenges and in the meantime I might have something for that!!

You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just know you are worth so much and you matter, your health matters, and time heals pain. I hope you feel better and have a good day. I can't imagine your loss, but having lost three close grandparents from 1 and my last granfather lost in high school I hope I can empathize with you more than sympathize. That leaves me with one cherished grandmother at 20. I think support is so essential to any community so I'm glad you found that. @Moppys_jalopy is right zity can be an escape from reality...

All the healing, Megan😃

So sorry for your loss, praying. Rocco

Zity is truly a place where many who have never met, and will never meet, in person form a close and caring community.

Sometimes reality can become to much and that secret place that no one in real life knows about provides you a safe retreat. ... Hope you get through your challenges ....

I, too, hope you get through these tough days and weeks and know that many of us will help you do so.

Sorry to hear about your losses! I too have been down this hard road earlier in life and I know that without Family and friends being there for me I wouldn't have made it. I'm here for you if you need to talk just pm me and I will get back to you asap. ~Sue~ 😃

Hang on in there,and remember your Zity friends are always here for you.

Peace,

Caz and SirWilliam.

Not sure this will help, but I lost my wife 2/18/2018. So for what it worth I know the feelings, and hurts deeply. I don’t know for how long, but I have support from my children. I have figured out I still have to get up every day and move forward.

Course

So sorry to hear about your loss; losing a parent-heck losing anyone we love- is never easy! My dad died when he was very young and all I can tell you is that it honestly will get better. They say time heals all wounds, I don’t believe that. I believe we just get better at dealing with them. We never stop loving and cherishing them in our hearts.

Here’s what I learned on my journey after my dad died: It’s ok to cry, It’s ok to be angry and shout, and it’s ok to smile when remembering the good. Never feel like you have to hide your emotions or feelings because they make someone else sad or uncomfortable. You don’t have to try to be strong for everybody around you; let people love on you too.

I sincerely wish peace for you and rest,

Red

So sorry for your losses.

Howdy Grace

I am sorry to hear of your losses. I think sometimes I am blessed on the farm here. Things die. I don't think a year passes without something that I love dying, but I also get to see the births. I think sitting perhaps a bit nearer to it than most people you get so you can appreciate the full circle. Personally when something that I love dies, I don't dwell on that aspect of it. That is just the end of their body. I try and reflect on what they were and what they were to me when we delighted each other. I don't go to funerals, but it never fails to amuse me how many people will go to see someone who just died yet they lived under an hour away and did not find time in the last X years to see them when they were still alive.

carpe diem

Life throws too much sometimes. It sucks, but one must pick themselves up and try to move forward. Even if it only one slow step at a time.

Understanding kinky friends are very good to have. They don't judge near as much as those in our vanilla life. Being on the outside one can be more understanding and supportive.

Again thoughts and prayers for you. Make sure you have physically present friends as well, sometimes you just need to have someone to sit close to and hold.

Red is right. You'll never really stop. You'll be going through life and something will remind you and there will be a bittersweet moment pop up. It's sad in some ways but enjoy the good parts.

Escape sometimes, but don't run away.

With each passing you learn but never forget.From my experience, both of my parents and all grand parents are gone. The most difficult trial of my life was the passing of my wife/spouse. The advice that I recieved from the people around me at those times was "Hang in there, it gets little better every day." That may be true but the memories remain for you to cherrish. So hang in there because you still have a life of your own. Though a time like this seems impossible, live the life you have to its fullest. It's still a beautiful world. Strive to be happy!