The difference in punishment and discipline

This is a copy of a note I wrote to a spanker who I have trying to get to really punish me.

Rob

I found a good discussion about the difference in discipline and punishment. Discipline is what you do every time I see you, the regular spankings. Punishment is what is given for breaking a rule. Punishment is usually harder than discipline and is a bad thing and totally separate from discipline which is a good thing.

I desire both The punishment is not intended to be pleasurable like the discipline. I need both, that is why I like to have rules that I can be specifically be punished for breaking and be disciplined as a matter of course just to keep me on the right track.

The following was written by a fem dom. but can be applied to our situation.

"Contrary, the submissive husband is regularly disciplined, whether he has violated any rules or not. He is discipline because he is being trained by his Dominant Wife. A D&S activity like a whipping or a spanking can be either a discipline or a punishment. But the purpose and the severity will vary depending if it is for training or for rebuke. A punishment would be more severe than a discipline. '

She further writes:

''Punishment is a bad thing and is not intended to be submissively fulfilling. It is intended to punish wrong doings in a manner so that the wrong doings do not happen again. A punishment is also an act of love but its purpose is to rebuke and reprimand. The terms discipline and punishment are easily intermingled and sometimes we refer to a punishment as discipline and vice versa. However, the terminology is not as important as the purpose of the correction. If it is to train, guide and alter a male's behavior and attitude, then it is Discipline. If it is to reprove, penalize and chastise a male for disobedience, then it is Punishment.''

The above was written by Mistress Else but applies very well to our situation.

I always thought of punishment as what you gave after I ha lost any sexual desire and discipline as what I received before, but I think now you can apply either at either time.

You now have wanting to make the trip.

Thank You Very Much for Putting So Much Thought into This:

Rob

I wish my wife were more into either forms

Discipline is a proactive process whereas punishment is reactive. Discipline is the atmosphere, the environment, the setting, within which one can learn. Punishment, on the other hand, is reactive and is intended (in a positive situation) to teach the error of a miscreant's ways. It is intended via punishment of this type to point out the “correct way”.

Discipline is proactive is to prevent the issue from arising. Your parents or husband before spanking ask you to stand at the corner to reflect what you did wrong and later lecture you to remind you not to do it or face the consequences. This set the atmosphere and environment for learning.

Punishment is reactive to teach and reinforce the error of my way with a spanking with a sore bottom. While rubbing my sore bottom my mind will mind will point me to the correct way of my behaviour in future.

So now you know the difference before my husband and me practice Domestic Discipline I thought that discipline and punishment is the same thing.