Changed expectations

What happens to those role players that experience unexpected circumstances causing them to want to alter their prior role play guidelines. As an example I had set up a strictly rectal temperature taking for a female patient with absolutely no sex involved. During the temperature taking she became very wet and aroused as expected, but when she began to touch herself, she asked me to to touch her with my fingers to bring her to an orgasm.

Did you really think you would see someone for the purpose of a play rectal temp and NOT get into some type of sexual stimulation?

REALLY????

It sounds like you're getting more than you planned.

Are you saying this is a - problem? 😮 :-\\

I see 3 options.

1. You touch her, if it’s ok with you. She’s given you consent.

2. You politely decline and remind her of the terms of your agreement. There are many reasons you may want to keep it clinical. Allow her to continue touching herself or ask her to stop depending on your limits.

3. You politely decline, remind her of the terms of your agreement and suggest you discuss the terms again before the next session to alter the expectations if it’s agreeable to both of you. That covers you from any suggestion of impropriety for taking advantage of “the heat of the moment” after the fact. It also allows you to figure out what sort of extended play she might be looking for. Does she just want a quick happy ending? Does she want you to scold her like a doctor or humiliate her and make her deny herself? Does she want you to examine her more, or play out a fantasy “naughty doctor” role? With some discussion before hand, you can both discuss expectations and limits and go in eyes open to a consensual situation.

I think the first mistake is it being a strict anything. It should be more of a discussion on what you would like to happen and what you would not. So know their hard limits ahead of time. Also Ask ahead of time, “if you get wet I should do... or not do...?” As a last resort, stay in character, check in with the sub/ patient and inquire what you should do now this has come up.

My post is somewhat different my wife is almost 9yrs younger than me when it came to sex she was somewhat vanilla.When having bed wetting accident she decided that diapers would solve the problem she also took a more dominate role it seems I,am on the low end of the pole now.Like others have said a switch but only one way.

If you expected her to become very wet and aroused, then you also didn’t forsee what she may expect ? Or have a plan B ?

I don’t mean to make light of the situation but this post did make me laugh.

How long was the RT session supposed to be ? What else was involved? Was she just supposed to drop her panties and bend over then after 5 minutes send her on her merry way ?

Just how detailed was the prior discussion?

I should have said there is no ab mine is due to being a diabetic.

If you are going to role play, 99 percent of the time it will involve sex unless prior communication not to at the givers request or reciever

My role-play always concentrates on buttock injections and I specify in advance that I want them to be as numerous, embarrassing and painful as possible. If they really hurt, however, I find myself wishing that each one would be the last.

Pretty sure “no sex involved” meant you would not penetrate her with your penis.

Pretty sure “no sex involved” meant you would not penetrate her with your penis.

Agreed. No sex involved is a grey area. Penetrating her anus with the thermometer is sexual in itself. To me, no sex involved means no deliberate orgasms. Her, or me.