Is width or length more important in a dildo?

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Is extra width or length make a difference in dildoing your ass. I watch videos of guys and women using 3 plus in width or 18in in length does this really feel better or do you reach a point to we’re it’s just a I can do or I can fit this in my ass. Is there a perk to a 18in length and 3in width dildo fitting all the way up there. What’s everyone’s opinion on this

@Buttwoman 's epic response in 3...2...1...

For me I think length is the more limiting factor. There's just so much room before you hit the sigmoid turn and that's it; it just hurts after that. Butt there are some highly talented people on this site who can go forearm-deep in someone's butt and "tickle their ribs from the inside" which if you have been reading Zity for any length of time you'll know who they are. (*cough* @SwitchableSusie *cough*)

Width/diameter/girth is a different story. Reading others' responses here on Zity for a while now, it's pretty amazing what some people can work themselves up to handling. Giant plugs, fisting,double fisting, even feet. My limit seems to be a 2.5" diameter plug before the fun stops so I guess I'm a lightweight. I tried a woman's (Domme) hand/fist once and couldn't get past the thumb knuckle. Not that it wasn't fun trying...

I do not think that you can make blanket statements on this.

Some people find it easier to take length and others have an easier time with width. Some people can do both. It depends on the individual's curvatures of the colon and how amenable their colon is to being "straightened out" , stretched, or other wise navigated around.

I can take pretty good length depending on the day 24-36 inches of a 1 1/4" hose or 18" of a 1 3/4" dildo. I can also take 16" of a baseball bat handle (obviously not bendable) and I really like the sensation of the knob at the end of the handle massaging my innards. My greatest diameter is about 2 1/4"- 2 1/2" depending on the day. Those have been my maximum dimensions for many years and I don't see that changing especially since I won't force anything. I don't need a visit to the ER. My husband can take my arm to my elbow and as Agasmic said, I can grab his ribcage from the inside.

I can only handle about 7" in depth, and about 2.5" in width. Trying to go deeper just doesn't work, and the opening of my pelvis prevents me from going any wider. But I would LOVE to be able to do the sort of stuff HotKinkyJo can do.

My preference is for smaller diameter and longer length. I don't enjoy anything over one inch in diameter. I don't know that I have taken the time or expense to determine my maximum length. Ultimately, the flexibility of the plugs material would impact the length. Additionally, I have noted that the flexibility of the material does not necessarily impact the comfort or enjoyment of the diameter. I prefer and inch or less in diameter regardless of material.

The length to width ratio is easily explained thus: \sum_{n} \frac{1}{n^s} = \prod_{p} {\frac{1}{1 - \frac{1}{p^s}}}

It clearly demonstrates that as a dildo gets longer, it usually decreases in girth. However, a human arm remains the same girth the deeper it goes, so some rearranging of the fistee's insides are in order.

My favorite toy for deep excavations is a run of the mill Doc johnson 18" double dong, it goes around the sigmoid bend easily, and with very little practice. My longest toy is 39" and only 1" diameter. Then there's the python, two heads the size of baseballs, on a 2' shaft. Getting roughly a half of this in requires practice and dedication, however, when one head makes the bend, you begin to understand the meaning of full.

Length, or girth- The eternal question- I love both, and SOMETIMES both at the same time. If I could only have one, it would be girth.

Agasmic- 2.5" is pretty heroic for the average pervert. You're doing fine.

Arbiter- Your pelvis bones don't come into play until about 3 1/2" male, and over 4" female. You just need practice, that's all. Male anatomy may be a limiting factor once you go MUCH bigger, but Hot Kinky Jo stuff is all in doing it over and over. Get your partners hand in there, and start exploring.

For me girth / width of the toy is limited to what my ass can take. Right now 1.5 inches in diameter feels great. I just got a dildo that is almost 2 inches in diameter and it is very hard to insert- I just have to do more practice sessions to work up to it.

With regards to length, I am much less limited. I have a Silicon Nozzle which I use as a dildo / colon snake. It's a little over inch in diameter and about 30 inches long. A couple of days ago, I got about 25 inches inserted after doing extensive enemas. I love seeing the bulge under my skin near my left hip bone as the snake moves up my descending colon.

I think everybody is capable of doing deep penetration if they completely clear their colon with enemas and have just the right colon tube or anal toy that is not too wide and has the right flex. Once you get past your anal ring comfortably you have the potential to deep into the colon. At first, I did not think this felt erotic physically, but then after a few times of doing it, the erotic sensations do start to come into play.

Getting good at inserting wide toys takes practice. To do deep penetration you need to be careful and prep yourself first. But I think it is a much easy goal to achieve than taking on wide toys that can hurt because you are stretching your anus beyond what it is capable of taking.

The length to width ratio is easily explained thus: \sum_{n} \frac{1}{n^s} = \prod_{p} {\frac{1}{1 - \frac{1}{p^s}}}

Sorry, but what is all that letters (n, s and p) stands for?

p.s. I never tried anything larger then 12" in length and 1 1/3" in diameter, so I just wondering.

@T-man: Is extra width or length make a difference in dildoing your ass. ...

Y E S !!! 😁

I LOVE this huge dildo: https://www.extremerestraints.com/huge-dildos_186/the-python-x-large-double-dong_487.html

A couple of weeks ago, my wife used a lot of lube on this thing and on me to get 12-inches of this thing into my ass. She held the dildo with one hand so I could slowly fuck myself with it, and she used her other hand very lightly on my cock to edge me for half an hour. It felt fantastic. It was one of my best orgasms ever. My wife loves to watch me cum. This time, she squealed with delight, and she excitedly said, "Wow, that's the most I've ever seen you cum! Look, you hit yourself in the chest! You got cum all over me too!"

If you enjoy a 3-inch or larger butt plug, and long anal toys that penetrate the upper sphincter, you've got to try this one!

There are smaller diameter double headed didos too. Try 12 inches of the largest diameter one you can handle. You really hit some new nerves.

I am still working on getting the 1.5" Diameter into my sigmoid. I am able to get a 1.25" colon snake inserted 38" up in me. The next 1/4" increase though has been a challenge. Just a matter of time and lots of lube.

@Love Anal, I am still working on getting the 1.5" Diameter into my sigmoid ...

@LoveAnal, try a 1.5" enema nozzle with a lot of Vaseline and a slow running, warm enema. Push a few inches in until you feel the resistance of hitting the top of your rectum. Aim toward the back and start nudging gently. It should gradually start to feel good. When it does, start nudging a little harder. When that starts feeling good, go a little harder still. It should pop right through after a few minutes of this. It may feel a little weird, but soon it should start to really feel good. There are a some new nerves in and above the upper sphincter that make you feel wonderful.

Speaks the truth, he does, WildBill.- Yoda.

My Kinx Zeppelin inflatable vibrating but plug https://www.amazon.com/Abs-Holdings-Kinx-Zeppelin-Inflatable/dp/B015JETQLK

has expanded 4.1" (over 10cm) in diameter and perhaps 5" long inside me (that's the size it was when it popped out too. It flexes on the way out, so the diameter of the anus isn't really 4.1" in diameter upon "giving birth to it". Lol) It feels sexy in me as well as coming out of me.

I have heard that women like this toy in their vagina too.

I always use a regular sized condem on it. It may also give a margin of safety if I over inflate it. I have pumped the bulb 50 times while inside me.

A long time ago, I over inflated one till it burst. I didn't have a condem on it at that time. It didn't hurt my insides thankfully. A burst intestine can kill a person if fecal material mixes with their blood and causes a sepsus infection.

I prefer width. There is just something about a very thick dildo sliding into my ass. My hole can handle ten inchs in length easily and that is what I like anyways. For me, thickness is best. Right now, just over three inchs thick is really good.

For myself wider toys defiantly hurt more than longer thinner toys.

My favorite size zone starts with a 2 X 12 very soft and smooth to open up the sig bend. Then followed with increased diameter- 2.2 to 2.5 is blissful with an occasional foray to as much as 2.9 inches.

Last count was a collection of 22 dildos and 8 butt plugs.

I have one plug and one dildo that are just over three inches in diameter but I need to be in a wanton mood.

Last count was a collection of 22 dildos and 8 butt plugs.

I can not imagine the clean up afterwards! Throw everything in the dishwasher?

There is a time and place for length as well as a time and place for width. I find using my 18" x 1.5" dildo very relaxing and soothing. My wider (2.375", 2.5" & 2.75") toys are the ones that really wake my ass up and are the toys that get me off most. I really find stretching my hole to be fun, pleasurable and a complete turn-on. My 12" x 1.5" double header more often than not can be found hiding completely in my ass. I like to have about 1 inch of it exposed while I sleep at night as that keeps my hole open for an extended period.

I'm fairly new to depth play but not really interested in too much width. I have an 8 inch gel dildo about 1-1/4 diameter which I love to use in the bath, but I don't think I get it through my second sphincter. With my silicone shower shooter, about an inch diameter, I regularly get 18 inches depth and it feels really good, both going in and coming back out.

I have both a model O and a model B on order. I'm really excited to get my model O on Monday, but may have to work a bit to get the Model B fully seated. I'm petite and still quite tight down there.

So I got my Model O yesterday from Silicone nozzles and tried it that evening. First, I did as deep a washout as I could, about 18 inches, with my small colon tube. I didn't try to hold any water, just let it run back out. Following that, I used my showershooter, about an inch diameter and got again 18 inches in. I kept it in a while, enjoying the feeling as I slid it in and out a few inches. It has a light texture, good for holding lube and I enjoy feeling it when I pull out slowly from 18 inches. It seems to take forever to come all the way out. I love it.

OK, it was time to try my new toy. The Model O is perfectly smooth and I had selected hardness 18m slightly stiff. It was a good choice. I lubed it well with Vaseline, my rectum was already lubed, and tried it. Getting it entered was a little challenging, this is the thickest toy I've used to date. I finally got it past my anal sphincter, enjoyed it for awhile and tried getting it through my second sphincter but didn't seem to make it. I tried checking with a finger beside it, but it was hard to get my finger round the bulb tip. By that time I was getting lazy and thinking of waiting for Anna this weekend. She's travelling with her dad again this week. I really enjoyed slowly taking it out, feeling it stretch my little anus. After washing it, I used it as my pussy toy while I masturbated to a really nice, intense orgasm.

This evening, I tried it again, pretty much a repeat of last night, except I did it in a hot bath. The result was very much the same. I have a pleasant challenge getting it through my anal sphincter, but my second sphincter just would not cooperate. I think my exes were bigger than my sphincter when I ordered it. Does anybody have any ideas??? I can now hardly imagine what the model B is going to be like, except it seems to have an elongated tip, which may help some.

Before Anna comes over tonight, does anybody have any wise words on how to beat my second sphincter? It really feels loose enough when I feel it with a finger and the shower shooter is no problem. Help please!!!

You could try to hold some large enemas for a while, that will stretch your whole colon.

Thank you Cannon. I have not been holding enemas for long, I usually just let it run in and out and Anna does the same. I'm certainly going to try that though, it may help. I did a bit better with my shower shooter tonight, probably gained a couple of inches, so I'm at about 20 inches now. Yes, I have started keeping a tape in the bathroom.

I just got the idea that I'd like to have my shower shooter performance videod. I told Anna a few minutes ago and she wants to do it with me. I particularly want to get the shower shooter slowly coming out from maximum depth. I really enjoy the feeling, so I'd like to see it.

Maybe the model O was just not a good buy for us. We will keep trying but in the meantime, it makes a nice pussy toy for us. It's quite filling and we especially like it with water running as a douche.

You could use a buttplug to hold it for a longer time and give your colon enough time to stretch.

I'm excited about your progress, is there any chance to see that?

Insertion too deep or with incorrect angle is painful.

Width is important. We used to use a dildo that was significantly thinner than my penis. After my wife dared receive anal sex as well, she remarked that, out of equality, the dildo should be about as thick as my penis; so we now use a dildo only slightly thinner. I definitely felt the difference.

Not a lot of experience in this area yet. Have tried a carrot (about 8") and a dildo (about 9") but was not able to push them all the way in. Felt good to have them up me but I guess I need more practice!

I just heard from Siliconenozzles that my Model B is in the mail. I should have it tomorrow or certainly Saturday. Considering my lack of performance with their Model O however, it looks like I need to do some serious practicing. Any suggestions? I ordered the soft #10 and I'm not sure whether that's good or not. I'll probably get it started in, but I'm doubtful if I can complete the insertion as intended. My recent purchases, butt plug etc. are meant for rectum only but, as many of us know, the Model B is intended to lock into the second sphincter. Wish me luck when it comes.

Will observe carefully since I will get mine Tuesday next week ?

I have never had a problem getting my #10 Model B in. The trick is to lube it well and let some solution flow in once you get the first ball in. I usually hold it on the ribbed central portion to get the first ball in, fill a bit, then grab the end and work the nozzle in and out until I have it all the way in. The #10 does a good job of bending around all the curves inside me, which is nice.

With the length, size, and number of nooks and crannies the Model B can get a bit messy if you try to push it all the way in on a first enema. Subsequent enemas generally don't have this problem.

I just heard from Siliconenozzles that my Model B is in the mail. I should have it tomorrow or certainly Saturday. Considering my lack of performance with their Model O however, it looks like I need to do some serious practicing. Any suggestions? I ordered the soft #10 and I'm not sure whether that's good or not. I'll probably get it started in, but I'm doubtful if I can complete the insertion as intended. My recent purchases, butt plug etc. are meant for rectum only but, as many of us know, the Model B is intended to lock into the second sphincter. Wish me luck when it comes.

@Lucyyub

The #10 is probably a good choice because it will compress and bend easier than the #18. Personally, I like the #18 softness, but that's me. The trick with these types of nozzles involves two parts. First, lots of lube (and patience) because that upper ball will definitely stretch you as it passes through the rectum. In addition to the increased diameter trying to clamp down and force the first ball out, its the ridges of tissue in the rectum (know as the valves of Houston) that often feel like the sticking point as a large diameter object slides into you. Once you get past those ridges, it gets a little easier. But just because you enter the lower sigmoid doesn't mean the resistance is over. The upper ball will help seal and lock the nozzle in place. But know that those muscles in the sigmoid are quite powerful on their own and will work hard to push that ball out...breathe, remember to breathe...it gets easier with practice and will provide its own rush as the tip and upper ball slide in.

Second, finding the angle that is most conducive to having it slide through makes a good deal of difference. I find that angling big nozzles towards the center of my lower back works for me. As mentioned above, the #10 nozzle should bend enough on its own to follow the contours. Once it pops all the way in with the second retention ball in your rectum, the combination of expansion above and below the narrow portion of the rectum should almost be enough by itself. But having a your solution of choice flow in should feel very different due to its introduction point.

I look forward to your report and feel free to ask for recommendations and help from those of us whom have experience in the big and deep nozzles.