Moving to "oh by the way... I like this"

My wife knows I take enemas as part of managing IBS. She doesn't give them to me, but she's OK with them, mostly because she's seen the contrast between the way I was before when I wasn't managing things well and the way I am now, back at a healthy weight and not nearly as grouchy and easy to get sick.

I'm not sure how to bring up the fact that I'm moving from taking them for only practical reasons to sometimes enjoying them in a sexual way, and occasionally even taking one when I don't "need or kind of need" it just because it seemed like a fun thing to do at the time. I guess I can just keep it quiet, after all most of the time they're taken for practical reasons and are either neutral or sensual rather than overtly sexual, but it would kind of be nice if she would get in on them sometimes, as that would immediately boost the sexual part significantly.

I guess the question hidden in here is "are there any of you that started taking enemas for what I guess would be called health reasons but turned into having a sexual component at least sometimes and you brought them into your relationship, and if so how did you go about it?"

Yes, although I was highly turned on by enemas as an adolescent I laid off until I was dating my first wife. I had hinted about enemas butt it was more of a joke between us.

One day, while I was hinting strongly, she asked "What is it with you and enemas?" She took my embarrassed look to mean that I was plugged up and needed one. I didn't tell her any different and enjoyed many enemas at her capable hands.

Fast forward 20 years and I'm now dating the man she left me for. (long story, I am bi though) He knew of my interests and indulged me butt was curious enough to try them.

He doesn't care for the bag enemas yet butt loves the Fleet bottles usually filled with just water. I now truly have neurogenic bowel and have a nearly unlimited Rx for those.

I knew he kind of liked them butt lately he's even been doing them on his own when I'm not around. I find that so hot.

You know there is a Movie Script just waiting to be written there.😃

Jason

Telling my wife that I enjoyed enemas for sexual reasons took a while. We have been married for 30 years and early on we played with my ass and she knew I was anal erotic, but even then she wasn't truly into giving me anal pleasure with toys. Over the years that improved quite a bit to the point of during regular intercourse she will slide a finger in my ass.

I had enema equipment from the beginning of our marriage but it was kind of out sight out of mind and we never really talked about it. She knew I had the equipment, but she really did not think about it because I did them private. The equipment was not hidden but just stored in the closet or under my vanity. I decided to tell her about my erotic use of enemas several years into our marriage. I was very nervous fearing what every enema lover fears- the reaction will be complete rejection and condemnation of such a habit. But her reaction was not judgmental but one of confusion- how could that be sexy and pleasurable?

So I backed off and for many years stayed a closeted solo user doing enemas when I was home alone. But a few years ago she was using my anal beads on me and pulled them out of my ass and some poop was on the last ball probably inserted to a depth of 12 inches. She was not grossed out but headed to the bathroom to clean the beads. After that episode, I said (again with some fear) that before we do anal play again I will give myself enemas. That comment was met with shock which led to a more frank discussion. After that we (me) got to a much better place. She knows I love all kinds of anal stimulation and lots of toys and dildos and now enemas are part of the ensemble. Equipment is stored but not hidden and I do tell her on some occasions that I am going to do an enema session- in private. She does not participate. I am still softy suggesting that I give her one but she hasn't said yes yet.

I have said this before on other posts- I would recommend having the enema conversation early on in a relationship. The longer you wait, the harder the conversation will be to have. Putting all your sexual desires on the table will make your relationship stronger or could possibly end it, but either way you are better off speaking up early vs. later.

I enjoyed a good enema since I was a little girl. I knew my mom, grandma, and certainly my sister all had enemas but I thought it was sort of a girl thing I knew that my masturbation was enhanced while I was enjoying an enema, so when I got married I was determined to see if I could work it into my sex life. My husband knew I had a combination syringe and a few times I would remark that I would feel better after a good enema, and go to the bedroom hoping my husband would follow. He did not. One time he remarked, “You sure take a lot of enemas.” I admitted that they make me feel good, and suggested he should try it. He mumbled something like he has never had an enema and there was no reason to start now. I told him I wanted him to help me with my enema so he could see how there was nothing to be afraid of. He did what I told him but I could tell he was in a hurry to get it over with so we could have sex.

So after a few times with him giving me an enema I decided it was time to be direct. When I was finished with my enema, I refilled the bag and told him there was no sex tonight until I gave him an enema. He whined like a little kid that he did not need an enema but he knew that he would take it if he wanted to screw me. We girls have the leverage in these situations. I managed to get about a quart in him before I couldn’t take any more of his complaining and let him up. He got his reward.

After that I managed to get a few more enemas into him when he was horny and desperate, but I could tell the enema just did not do for him what it did for me. So eventually I stopped asking him knowing he was not having fun. Enemas and sex were again separate. My enemas now are mostly done when I have the house to myself so I can take as long as I want and do whatever I want while I am enjoying it.

She knows I use them, I've told her that I'll make sure to use one before buttplay. I haven't told her that they can be fun in themselves (I'm not sure exactly how to explain the separation, either... "yes, they can be fun, but other times they're just to keep things moving, so I'm not getting off every time I take an enema - not by a long shot").

I've tried asking her to give once when I had messed up my leg and was on narcotics. She declined with her stock "I'm worried I'll hurt you" (I guess my answer should be "I'll show you how to do it so you won't")

I had used enemas all my prior life before dated my now late wife. Mother provided the pleasure to age 12. I started giving them to myself after turning 14. She was the first one to address enemas when we were dating. I had just returned from a backpacking trip were the dehydrated diet had left me constipated. Sara, being a Nursing student at the time, suggested I take an enema. She went on to explain that a lots of male patients enjoy them as they would have erections when being administering them in the hospital.

We exchanged enemas on our honeymoon and did so on a regular basis for over 39 years.

I had just returned from a backpacking trip were the dehydrated diet had left me constipated.

Backpacking is a killer. Fun, but the dried, low fiber foods combined with sometimes not drinking enough and not always wanting to "go" when your body starts hinting (midday on the trail? You have to find a spot where you can hike off, get some privacy, dig a hole, take everything off, ...).

Not that I don't enjoy it, but it was always good for an uncomfortable gut. A trip to the drugstore for Dulcolax suppos was not uncommon, and I got to where I would just keep them on hand when I went. Last couple of trips I just did a "welcome home enema" and things were better.

My wife gave me enemas for health reasons and was unaware of the turn on factor for a number of years. Then one night she noticed the effect it had on me, and at first she was grossed out by the idea that enemas and sex could be linked. Once she saw that it paid constant dividends, she now takes part whenever I suggest, or on rarer occasions, she does. She has had a few for health reasons and a couple for sexual reasons, but she says they are not her thing. She's a great giver, and I'm lucky for it. Patience was the key, but having a strong sexual relationship is even more important. When I point out that many women wouldn't have anything to do with sexual enemas, she wonders why they wouldn't want to please their partner. She'll be pleasing me later tonight.

Agree with jason there is a movie script in there just begging to be made