Question for geezers like me.

Has your dominant partner allowed you to take Viagra while being teased and denied? And do you have a problem with going over the edge?

I can get off, but I can't get up without Viagra. My wife allowed me to take Viagra during a tease session three times this month. The first time she allowed a ruined orgasm. The second time, I was to be denied but I went over the edge by accident (very frustrating). The third time worked like a charm. During our tease session yesterday morning, she took me to the edge four times, with a ten minute break between to let me cool down. It was great.

I think she liked it too. I asked her if I could do it again in a few days and she said yes. I can't wait.

In the first few years of my marriage I was using Viagra secretly because I always had trouble maintaining an erection during intercourse. My wife found out and she was angry. The Viagra got flushed down the toilet and we never had penetrative sex after that. Ever since then the only sex I get is licking her pussy and asshole. She uses a vibrator on my cock if I ask and say please. We both like this new arrangement. My wife says she prefers receiving oral and does not want to have penetrative sex again. Not sure how common this is. She has been going through menopause the last few years so that may have something to do with it. I would be interested to hear what other women have to say about this.

Yes, penetration can feel painful to a lot of women in menopause, because the loss of estrogen causes lack of lubrication and vaginal atrophy. I didn't want to give up penetrative sex as I started into menopause, so I have gotten laser therapy twice, and it does wonders! I have more feeling inside my vagina now than I even had before having kids!!! (Giving birth really ruined sex for me for awhile for several reasons).

I recently got one of those home led light light devices to try. The jury is still out on whether it really stimulates collagen production like the medical devices do, but it's enjoyable anyway. I also got the estrogen patch, take oral progesterone and use testosterone cream, and I feel better in every way than I have in years. Sex is absolutely the best it has ever been!

Hubs takes supplements like L. Carnitine, L. Arginine, L. Citrulline, that help the body produce testosterone, and it reversed the beginnings of ed for him and he's quite happy.

I am convinced that things like not enjoying sex in general, or penetration specifically, lack of lubrication, inability to orgasm, inability to get or stay hard, etc., could be helped in many people, if they wish, by getting their hormones properly regulated. But the medical establishment, for the most part, is not very helpful, and you have to be your own advocate.

That said, if you are happy with your current arrangements, then that's awesome!

Sorry, that was way too much info! But you asked, in part, what women think about menopause, and I got all carried away because I have lots of thoughts on that. Lol.

Not too much info at all @Phoenix18 . I am sure a lot of people will find it very helpful.

Kudos to you and your husband for tackling the problems and finding good solutions.(pardon the pun)

My late wife was a great believer in Estrogen cream