A new record for us...2 weeks without an orgasm for me.

If a man has say, ONE orgasmic contraction, or feels the pressure build in his pelvis and then all stimulation stops as I walk out of the room, I would say that's a ruined orgasm.

I don't think I have to go so far as stabbing a man in the chest or chopping off a finger with a carving knife to ruin an orgasm, although, that would do it too!

If a man has say, ONE orgasmic contraction, or feels the pressure build in his pelvis and then all stimulation stops as I walk out of the room, I would say that's a ruined orgasm.

I would agree with that as a definition of a ruined orgasm.

I once had a girlfriend who during hand jobs, released her grip as soon as ejaculation began, abruptly jolting me out of the orgasm, which was extremely unsatisfactory. But it wasn't deliberate - she genuinely believed a man's orgasm was over at the point of ejaculation, and refused to accept otherwise when I spoke with her about it. She found it impossible to understand that a man's orgasm lasted more than one or two seconds. Needless to say, she wasn't sexually compatible with me.

I believe it was Masters & Johnson who determined if you don't use it, you lose it. Denial of orgasm, for that reason, is not of interest to me, but edging is fun

if you don't use it, you lose it.

Another one of those cute rhyming declarations. They are supposed to have extra added power of veracity or something I guess, but it's usually just wordplay. Rhymes and alliterations and if you hit the jackpot and get both into a slogan, you've hit gold ... ha ha

In any case, In the last 23 years, I have often gone without orgasm for several weeks and even longer than a month at times and I can seriously say that you don't really lose anything in the way of desire or the capacity for erections. Patterns may change and habits and things like that, but I've found that overall desire does not really change. In fact, denial of orgasm (voluntarily or not) often increases desire.

The things that cause a person to lose desire and affect performance would be more things like despondency, troubles and worries in the real world or nutritional deficiencies (not eating enough or the wrong foods).

I will agree however that the rhyme might be used to a man's advantage to convince a reluctant partner to have sex, but otherwise ... 😃

During a tease session, I am rubbing little willy on her pussy and ass, and I am ready to go over the edge and have an orgasm, I stop, or she tells me to stop. This way she can keep me horny all day, every day. We both like the feeling and we have sex multiple times a day (we're retired).

Sometimes when I stop, a couple of seconds later, cum will dribble out...the amount of cum will determine if I have a little pleasure or no pleasure...with a lot of cum, I have a little pleasure but with a little cum, I have no pleasure. The amount of cum will also determine my down time (the amount of days I stop thinking about sex all the time).

After a full blown orgasm, I have 3 or 4 days down time, but with a ruined orgasm, I have 0 to 2 days down time (depending on the amount of cum that dribbles out).

We are trying something new, if i give her 5 orgasms, I get a ruined orgasm. Last night was her 5th orgasm since my last ruined orgasm, so in about and hour I will get my ruined orgasm. She lays on the edge of the bed and pulls her knees up to her chest. I kneel on the floor and lick her pussy and tongue fuck her ass, then I stand and rub little willy on her pussy and ass. I just go back and forth until I'm on the edge, and then lay little willy on the top of her pussy and wait to see if anything happens. Sooner or later cum will dribble out and run down her pussy and on to her ass. Then the best part, I get to do my clean up duty on that picture perfect cream pie.

I often require a period of abstinence before a discipline session. Usually 3 to 14 days depending upon a number of factors. I've found this helps intensify the anticipation of the session and great horniness tends to make spankings and enemas even more effective!

Try going a year and a half without one! It’s the 1.5 year anniversary of my last orgasm next week. I’m hoping I may be allowed one but I suspect it’s unlikey.