Discipline Where Do I start?

My husband is the Dominant one and I am the Submissive one. But we are always trying new things. Wanting to go full freak as he puts it, I love spankings and being punished by him, and never really thought of spanking him until he gave me a enema and brought up the idea of me giving him one. He also said I could get a strap on and use on him, and that I could be in control. that I could spank him. I have no idea how to go about it or where to start or what to do. I have never punished anyone. But the idea of putting him across my lap and making his checks red turns me on. I have never wanted to tie someone up so badly before. But like I said I have no clue where to start or what to do?

I wish I knew. But I can say that sometimes, when I come home from work, I don't want to control many things. There are times that I would love to be bossed around. I'n a teacher's aide, and in my line of work, we can go from just using words to control our class to going hands-on and MAKING them do something we want them to do. It's on those hands-on type days that I want to come home and give control over to someone else. Maybe start with asking how his day was and try to read his reaction? Like if he sounds like he wants to change the way the day is going, maybe just start with a little feather tickle or a playful swat across the butt and see how he responds.

Perhaps my experience can help with where to start. I went from being dominant in my play, to enjoying "switching" and giving up control. My current play partner is my Mistress and allows me to completely give up control. In my blog posts I have been describing how we set the scene and how I go from someone that is naturally dominant in my real life and at work to being a "good Pet". I think there are some basic things that you can do to "switch" and see if your husband will be into being submissive. For me it works because it challenges me in not only a sexually, but also in a psychological way. I love coming to "Mistresses's Place", and following her rules. Perhaps you can start slowly that way, to see if it works for both of you.

Here is a short list of how I go into a scene with Mistress;

As I enter her home, I avert my eyes away from Mistress

I neatly fold my clothes when I get inside her home

I get into position (naked of course) on my knees with my hands on my thighs, with my palms facing up

I wait for her to put on my collar, or anything else she chooses

Occasionally she will ask/tell me to assist her in dressing in her outfit

I do not speak unless told to

I am inspected for neatness and cleanliness

I must crawl to her or where commanded

I must get into the position she commands and await......

I must communicate, by "thanking Mistress " for whatever she does to me

If I am spanked I must not turn away or move and must receive each spank or lashing without moving

I think you get the idea. I write this to suggest you start with the little things and see if you or he find enjoyment in switching roles.

And never forget, communication is the key in setting expectations before, during and after. No always means no.