Taking enemas for health reasons as well as sexual reasons

For those who take enemas for a reason other then pleasure but also enjoy them - how do you mentally handle the separation? Are enemas always both, or do you keep your "sex enemas" separate from your "fun enemas" (or is there a mix of "mix" and "health only")?

This may sound odd, but I've been taking enemas for a while to deal with IBS-C. I know that I can enjoy them - I've enjoyed anal play before and a couple time enemas have been sexually stimulating - but I generally "shut it down" mentally. When the erotic is "shut down" they aren't unpleasant, and they definitely help me feel better, but part of me keep saying "if you're going to be taking them anyway, why not let yourself enjoy them (and maybe even do one every once and a while just for fun).

I know one reason - separation of sex from "necessary treatment" (as if sexual pleasure isn't valid??). As long as I don't let the enemas be sexually exciting I don't have to worry about wondering if I really "need" one or if it's just for fun (again, what's really wrong with fun? Don't know, but there does seem to be a mental reservation). If you need to take enemas for health or quality-of-life reasons and also take enemas for fun to you keep those separate? How do you let them mix? Tips?

Second would be a bit of a fear that I will grow to enjoy them but my wife won't be interested (I've asked her about administering to me a couple of times when I was constipated and health issues made it very difficult to do myself, and she was not enthusiastic. She didn't say "no," but she did say "I'd rather not because I'm worried I'll hurt you." It would be great if these could become a part of shared sex play (again, I'm doing them anyway...), but I wonder if it is better to keep them nonsexual than have a sex interest that is unshared with my wife. I know there are many posts on this... but one question I have not seen yet: For those who do sex enemas on their own how do you ensure that it doesn't affect your shared sex life?

I know from plenty of experience that with the IBS there will be times when the enemas will not be comfortable enough to be fun, but trying to work out a way to let myself enjoy them when it's possible. and be comfortable doing so.

How do you separate the different aspects of feeling better?

I don't really think too much about anything but "Would taking THIS enema at THIS time make me feel better when it's over?" If yes, I take one and don't read too much into it.

but one question I have not seen yet: For those who do sex enemas on their own how do you ensure that it doesn't affect your shared sex life?

Well enemas don't affect my shared sex life since I do them solo. My wife knows that I do them and she doesn't participate. I will do them before we do anal play so in some ways they are indirectly part of our shared sex life but that is as far as it gets.

I do enemas because of I find the soothing relaxing and erotic- I don't need to do enemas for constipation because my digestive system is perfectly fine. I usually do have an orgasm at the end of my sessions but not always.

Based on the posts I have read through the years and the hundreds of chat room sessions I have attended, I would imagine I am not alone in this approach to and use of enemas.

Interesting comments .

I'm prompted to respond. For what it's worth with ongoing health issues I resort to enemas from time to time.

I enjoy the feelings of well being and yes at times they're erotic but what's the problem.

I'm into the least invasive method possible to overcome what ever bowel problem I have and if I happen to enjoy it now and then all the better.

It's my body.

Interestingly I've had this conversation with my doctor thinking I had a problem and his comments were…

"be gentle...because most of the time it's a far better alternative than harsh laxatives "

So sometimes the simplest is the better alternative and so what if it gives me a hard-on.

Now that the majority of my enemas are for health reasons there are no distinctions. Factors include aging and general health also contribute to the loss of the overt erotic aspects of enemas.

I still enjoy enemas and eagerly anticipate the next session but the sexual component is relegated to the abstract. I no longer have erections during an enema even though I still feel the thrills of the entire process. I am concentrated on taking the enema without having any problems - cramps or leakage - to also attempt mastubation.

I still feel energized after the enema and sexually aroused. I will try to masturbate later in the day if I have time. Enema erotica still lights my fire, too.

Yesterday I did a "fun" enema on the massage table. A mild baking soda solution, intermittent flow and abdominal massage from wifey. I enjoyed it very much, but it was pleasurable, not erotic.

As for times past, any enema regardless of the reason for taking was erotic. I can recall several colonoscopy preps where I orgasmed multiple times a day from the prep enemas I took.

Any activity that makes us feel better, such as a hot bath for aches and pains, exercise for stiff joints etc usually has an enjoyable component, which, I believe motivates us to repeat the procedure for the overall health benefit that it provides.

The same enjoyable benefits apply to enemas. As long as reasonable safety precautions are taken, such as the addition of salt (one teaspoonful per quart), a safe pressure from a maximum height of 3 feet or one meter, and the procedure is taken with a suitable interval before repeating, depending on your own individual needs, there is no need to feel guilty.

Colon Therapists have long recognized the enjoyable aspects of colon cleansing, for their clients, and some even exploit this for their own profits. All of us who are regular users of large volume enemas, can achieve the health-benefits ourselves at home.

Howard Hamilton, Retired Medical Technologist (Pathology).

Yeah, I guess in retrospect the fear is ridiculous. I'm realizing that I am or can easily become pretty kinky, but I don't have and am unlikely to develop any true fetishes (i.e. can't have a satisfactory sexual experience without them).

The other fears are similarly unlikely to be realized. The most likely would be that I would sexualize enemas to where I might get an erection should I ever have to have one in a medical setting. Well, I like anal play and genital play and have had doctors poking around at both my ass and cock without much resulting tumescence, so I'd imagine the same would go for a enema administered in a medical setting.

As for the "child's horror story" of "you'll get hooked on them, your wife will leave you, and you'll wind up a dirty old man masturbating on the toilet with a hose up your ass and bowels that will never work right again"... well, that's as ridiculous as it sounds.

So, yeah, I guess I might try baby steps. As I've noted before, I'm taking enemas anyway, so I might as well enjoy them as much as possible. Start with focusing on the feelings of the enema, maybe move on to fantasizing that it's my wife's hands caressing my bottom, preparing my anus, inserting the nozzle, and giving me the enema. Then maybe, who knows, some day it will be her. I've already found out she's a bit kinkier than I thought when we married.

EVERY enema is a mix of pain and pleasure Why not just accept it, especially knowing you will feel better when it's over

EVERY enema is a mix of pain and pleasure Why not just accept it, especially knowing you will feel better when it's over

@LisaK Just like the other thread... WHAT?!?

No, that isn't even close to being true. Many people here take enemas that are ALL pleasure - no pain, no cramps, not even any discomfort!

And many people feel the best DURING the enema, not after. Cause... you know... orgasm!

You may prepare and take enemas without any mix of pain and pleasure. In the case that you want to take exclusively enemas with a mix of pain and pleasure, this will be another problem and you will know upon this and exclusively by doing this you will feel better when it's over.

If I'm feeling down physically or even emotionally and feel the need for an enema, I can do a good cleanse and resist going over the edge. It's all in how you set your mind, a powerful force which controls your entire being.

Don't know if I've updated...

I finally got to the point where I accepted that it doesn't matter. If I "need" one and have some sexual effects then so much the better, if I "need one" and don't then I still feel better after the enema. If I want one then I darn well better have some sexual effects!

What's the worst that could happen? I guess I could pop an erection if I was given an enema in a medical setting. I imagine the nurses have seen it before.

Note: "need" is in quotes because I am well aware that there are other ways that I can fix the problem than an enema when I am constipated. Enemas just work fast and are effective and easy enough for me, so I often use them.

I have IBS. I used to be scared of enemas, but I once gave myself one when I just needed to be cleaned out. The process was extremely arousing - I was scared I wouldn't be able to resist masturbating - but expelling was uncomfortable. I did feel much better afterwards, and am considering having someone else administer it next time it's necessary, because it is extremely hot.

Same here, rtobsessed. Got sick of being constipated and trying stuff that felt bad for a while, then tried an enema. Didn't hurt and didn't cramp as much as I remembered, but the first few times it wasn't super erotic because I was pretty backed up.

Later, when I started to let myself enjoy them and use them more they became much more fun and also worked better. Expelling is much easier if I don't wait for 4+ days, so I'd recommend you take on day 3 or even day 2 - I know that's pretty fast, but I can kind of tell when my bowel is not cooperating and when I might as well take every other day.

My brother, sister, and I discovered the sexual aspects of enemas as teens after our grandmother taught us how to give enemas to ourselves. We started giving each other enemas, when we got home from school, after a suggestion from my sister. One day when we got home from school, I told my sister I wanted to use the bathroom for an enema, because I was constipated. She said, “tell you what, I’ll give you a couple of enemas if you’ll give me a couple when your done”, I replied, “sure”. Our parents both worked and didn’t get home till after 6 PM. Over time, as we got older, the enemas for health and the enemas for sexual pleasure merged together and became as one. For example: When I got constipated and ask my sister to give me an enema, the first with Ivory Soap was for health, the first rinse with salt and baking soda was both health and pleasure, the second rinse was pure sexual pleasure. And by my first rinse enema, my sister was good and turned on, and it was a given, when I was done, I’d give her a couple enemas for her sexual pleasure. The reverse was also true when she got constipated. There were also times, when the three of us, gave to each other for pure sexual pleasure. I would give to my sister, my sister would give to my brother, and my brother would give to me. Other times, I would give to my brother, my sister would give to me, and my brother would give to my sister. We continued this activity through the end of our High School years.

I take enemas for both reasons. My first impulse is that it is for sexual pleasure and always attempt to have at least one orgasm with the enema. I have a horrid time holding it so must have a series of very short/low volume enemas, accompanied by sexual aids - either urethral sounds or more often by nipple clamps of some sort. I also prefer a large nozzle as it is more erotic and if properly designed, more likely to remain in place. Whatever happens, I always feel cleaner, leaner and lighter when I am finished with the enema. As I always use prostate toys I consider the enema a crucial bit of "foreplay" before masturbating (my wife has never really enjoyed sex enough to ask for it and now is physically incapable of proper intercourse, nor does she like to help me achieve orgasm by any means so I always fly solo).

What's the worst that could happen? I guess I could pop an erection if I was given an enema in a medical setting. I imagine the nurses have seen it before.

I often have to have enemas when I'm in hospital to prevent or relieve impaction. I wondered if I'd be able to 'keep it in' with a pretty nurse giving me enemas. it turns out that, though it may seem hot, is truly a medical setting. It's not a medfet fantasy or porn film like 'medical' so it's different. I didn't have any trouble not getting an erection. If I had, like you say, they've seen it before.

Enemas have definately affected my sex life. They were my first 'sex'. I continuously reinforced this through my early, sexually formative years, my masturbating about enemas and enema fantasies. While most boys would look at porn mags and imagine "wonder what it would be like to do her" I was thinking "wonder what it would be like to do ENEMAS with her."

As a consequence, my sex life almost always includes at least a thought or fantasy about enemas. My fetish did cost me an important relationship. It also leaves me quite 'empty' at times. Perhaps that's why I keep trying to 'fill' my life and imagination by 'inserting' various situations into my life. That alone, is enough to 'back up' the channels of my mind and affect the 'flow' of my chi.

Butt, I need to back off and 'bag' it for now. step back and 'take the temperature' of the situation. and not think anymore about 'enemas', 'until' my head is 'clear'.

Don't know that they are separate.

Healthy is more sexual and the reverse is true as well.

I am not able to get my head around the difference because you don't really get one without the other

For me, I prefer to keep constipation relief enemas as nonsexual as is possible. I'm more interested in getting the clog out than having a boner or whatever.

I don't need enemas for any physical health situation, but, a good enema usually improves my mental health. Does that count?

For me, I prefer to keep constipation relief enemas as nonsexual as is possible. I'm more interested in getting the clog out than having a boner or whatever.

For me if the anti constipation ones go sexual that's just an added attraction beyond getting the clog out, but generally the more constipated I am the less sexual the enema feels just because of everything else.

I have nerve damage that causes issues with my lower body. Occasionally, that means my intestines stop cooperating. I started doing enemas because they were immediately effective. I had little kids at home and could get the kids to bed and carve out a half hour in the bathroom to do a quick enema or two and be done with the problem, vs taking laxatives and hoping they didn’t kick in while driving to the preschool pick up line or in the grocery store with a full cart of groceries and 4 kids under 6 in tow. When the kids got older and I could take more time, I started to realize I could do better than I was doing and make not only the enema more effective, but the experience more pleasant. That’s what led me here! Every time I’d google for enema tips or recipes, zity was on the first page! Honestly, I think knowing so many people do them for fun made me decide it was something I should enjoy more than I was! The frank, direct info here helped me realize I wouldn’t get dependent, that I could adjust things to my liking and still get a good result. Heck, it even helped me troubleshoot when I’d had a less than stellar experience and figure out what I did wrong so I could avoid it the next time. Like others have said, sometimes when the clinical need is strong, the sexual aspect is less. I may be more crampy, I may hold less, or not be able to hold as long. I’m paying more attention to what’s going on purge wise to worry about any glimmer of arousal. Though when I’m finished I may feel better enough to do something about it. Other times, when the need isn’t so strong, I may just want to feel cleaner, or nip a bloated feeling in the bud, those times I don’t mind focusing a bit more on the more pleasurable aspects. I may read zity or watch porn, or just lay back and relax and allow those sensations some head space.

So yeah, I don’t see why you can’t have Both!

For me, I prefer to keep constipation relief enemas as nonsexual as is possible. I'm more interested in getting the clog out than having a boner or whatever.

I find no sexual tingle when given an enema, but mine have been given because I was constipayed(while pregnant, both times).

My sub enjoys them for both. But his greatest pleasure comes from the sexually charged enemas when he gets to fuck me along with his fill. Getting unclogged feels good, just not as good as the enema I mentioned first.