Anal fisting, is it just me?

Being bi, and in a relationship with a woman, all the sex I have with men is casual. I don't like them to be there when I get up.

I have no qualms about meeting a guy, having wild sex, and sending him home without remembering his name.

In the last year, about half the guys I meet have asked about anal fisting. Two years ago, it would have been...ZERO.

I understand, it's a little different for me, since I explain to the guys right away that any penetration is going to be anal. Honestly, I don't think that a couple of years ago, these same guys had ever heard of anal fisting.

Is fisting becoming mainstream? Is it just that with modern porn, eventually guys (or girls) will stumble upon a nice video of someone with a fist in someone's butt? I kind of liked it when it was the epitomy of extreme, and even a little creepy. It was not long ago when any mention of anal fisting was met with 'WHAT????????'.

Aside from the main topic, I've been anal fisting much more lately, and I'm starting to find it my preferred way of penetrative sex.

I think it's just the proliferation of porn, and extreme porn. It can be found everywhere and eventually you see something that shocks and maybe even disgusts you. But then, you keep seeing it and seeing it, and it becomes somewhat 'normal' and not so far out there. And with all the social media apps, and memes being passed around, it's hard for someone to not be exposed, even in joking, about extreme sexual activities. Not much these days can be a complete surprise.

If I may ask, OP, are you on the receiving or giving end of anal fisting? If receiving, and from a man, that is just wow! Men's hands are quite a bit larger than women's. I can imagine that took a long time to work up to. I've only vaginally fisted one woman, and found out I had to use my left hand, as my right (dominant) hand is actually bigger and wouldn't fit!

CJ1999- I have fisted men and women, but for the most part, usually on the receiving end. I can take a man's fist quite easily (Had one in there on Tues, just an hour before going to a party) and I've taken both my girlfriends at once. It takes about twenty minutes to get a guys fist into me. The key is good anal sex before hand, that involves a few orgasms, and complete relaxation.

I think it's a myth that it takes years of practice, but you can't just jump into it. The girls I've fisted for the first time were not afraid of anal play, and quite used to a toy, or penis, but nothing big, and I was successful every time. A man's fist can be imposing.

Vaginal fisting makes me sore, and pee uncontrollably. It's not for me.

Buttwoman - Thank you for the reply. Very interesting... I've gotten my 4 fingers up to the bridge of my hand in a few partners behinds in the past, but never past that. I wonder if I had a woman's sized hand, maybe one of those times it would have popped in! When you said 'both my girlfriends' did that mean double anal fisting? That is amazing! If/when I have a relationship I would like to try larger insertions to work up to fisting - it was amazing those few times I did it vaginally. It felt like such an intimate connection at that time having my full hand inside her. But I understand it may never happen, especially anally. I just don't know if everyone can actually stretch that much without being in pain or damaging themselves.

And speaking of 'damage', may I ask something? Please feel free to ignore this if you prefer. But in videos, most of the people I've seen taking large anal insertions, also have a rectal prolapse. Now I don't know if they suffer any other consequences, but that does look like permenant 'damage' to me. Do you know if taking large insertions equates to a rectal prolapse?

Receiving an anal fisting from a woman is one of my top unfulfilled fantasies.

I remember seeing vaginal fisting in theater porn back in the 1980s, so I'm sure anal FF isn't a new thing. Oh, and who can forget that scene from the 1979 film "Caligula." (Fair warning: you won't be able to un-see it.)

But with the proliferation of porn absolutely everywhere on the web, with even an unfiltered browser image search turning of reams (!) of it, it's gone beyond common so the taboo factor is almost null, while the unexplored thrill curiosity factor is certainly climbing.

I've tried it - receiving end - from two different Dommes with average sized female hands. Couldn't get past the last thumb knuckle from either so it's not in cards for me I think. Fun trying though...

Don't think a fist would fit.

I'm still looking for a woman to fist me, I can take much bigger dildos than a fist so it shouldn't be a problem, but finding someone without paying for it is impossible here.

Not sure about the increase in interest, although it is easier to find it these days than ever before so maybe it's just people who find it interesting but didn't realise and who wouldn't have discovered it years ago.

You mention 'here'. Where is here? Finding a woman to fist you can't be that hard. Women are intrigued by stuff like that. Have you asked the women you do know?

Buttwoman -- I'm seeing the same increase in the acceptability / availability of assfisting. I may be way late to the party myself but I first saw it in Internet porn, then I saw fist shaped dildos for sale and became curious. 5-6 years ago when my American massage therapist readily moved from fingers to whole fist when I encouraged her - I was truly hooked. For a few years she was the only one, but I also occasionally visit local "Asian Massage Parlors" where a happy ending with maybe a finger or two is pretty much expected. Over the last 3-4 years I have asked these mostly Korean ladies for a whole fist and increasingly they don't object. One in particular seems eager to get in there and pump around another one declined but then stripped her pants off, hopped on the table and planted her rosebud on my mouth. That made her handjob ending really happy. My American massage lady lets me poke and rub her anus inside her panties but she balked when I tried penetrating her so I haven't pressured her - don't want to ruin a good thing. I'd love to fist a woman anally - Ahh well, we all have our dreams.

I have never been fisted or fisted another person. But speaking for myself and receiving a fist, I would think it would be very hard for me to do. I have tried dildos that are about two inches in diameter and that is very hard for me take. I know a woman's fist if she is petite maybe could be small enough to get in but I doubt it. I would love to have it done to me only if it could be done without pain.

This is one bucket list item that probably won't be fulfilled.

You mention 'here'. Where is here? Finding a woman to fist you can't be that hard. Women are intrigued by stuff like that. Have you asked the women you do know?

UK, but not a particularly interesting part of it where these woman are likely to exist. I don't know any women to ask.

I've heard a good general rule of thumb for guys looking for less-mainstream sex acts. You need to start the relationship with someone who's generally sexually open before bringing up the specific sex. Once you know each other then you start talking about getting a bit wild.

Of course this assumes you're looking for a long-term relationship.

I don't know any women to ask.

Perhaps jump THAT hurdle first.

Hi there,

Yesterday I got my first anal fisting by a lady and .... it was gorgeous!!!

I had a huge orgasm and I would definitely go for another ride.

Deep regards,

Rodin

I would love to try it with a woman's fist. My wife usually does a finger or two, but I haven't talked about doing more simply because I don't think I could take a full fist. I have often wondered it might be possible to take a woman's if fist she was able to shaped her fist to narrow down in such a way to make it possible to slide all the way in. I would love to try it and see what it feels like to have a fist spinning around in my rectum massaging my prostate. I would imagine the sensations would be unbelievable.

Fisting is pretty intense. Make sure you use lots and lots and lots of lube, but not the kind that numbs. That is always a bad idea regardless. Mistress has fisted me several times and we have worked our way up to the full hand, then beyond. It takes time and relaxation. Have a thorough series of enemas a few hours ahead so there is no mess. And make sure to wait two hours before so any residual liquid can reabsorbed by the colon.

For me it is the ultimate in subservience and domination.

@ProV1: I would love to try it with a woman's fist.... I would love to try it and see what it feels like to have a fist spinning around in my rectum massaging my prostate. I would imagine the sensations would be unbelievable.

ProV1, you're right. It feels wonderful. My wife fists me. Here are some images: https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=gallery;ox=showalbum;ax=7712

Pam has a large hand for a woman, only slightly smaller than my hand. (Her brother played linebacker for LSU and has huge hands.) The largest diameter butt plug I can handle is about 3 inches. If you could work up to this diameter, Pam could fist you. 2.75 inches might be enough. 2.5 inches might be enough for a small female hand.

Buttwoman's most recent blog page provide an excellent how-to guide for the first fisting of an anal fisting virgin. See: https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=blog;ox=showpage;pg=4283 . It's also a very HOT read !

The hand position for fisting, the 'duck bill', is to put all four finger tips as close together as possible and press the thumb into the hand and fingers. Right now, your wife could certainly push in her duck-billed hand so all four fingers and her thumb are an inch or two inside you. You might want to ask your wife to generously lube you and herself with silicone lube, push her duck-billed hand slightly inside you, and just hold it there so you push back against her.

Relaxing your anus for fisting is very important. Buttwoman says having anal sex first works for her. I'm sure having your wife fuck you almost to orgasm with a 2.5" dildo would relax your anus pretty well. The method I like is to take several hot, gallon enemas, do a thorough 15-minute expulsion with tummy massage and pressure, and plug with my favorite 3-incher for an hour. I'm clean and dry when I pull the plug out, and totally ready for Pam to fist me.

Amazing discussion, I cannot imagine something like a fist in me but reading these makes me think about it !

I would love to be fisted for no other reason than I can't imagine how incredible it must feel. My largest diameter toy is 2.75" I have no problems taking it. In fact, after my enemas, there are times I sit on it before using any of my smaller diameter toys. I doubt I'm ready for a hand the size of a typical man's hand; but, I believe I could accept the typical woman's hand.

I've discreetly evaluated the size of my wife's hand (somehow that sounds extremely twisted when I say it that way) and think there's a pretty good chance I could take it. I don't think she's ready to entertain the possibility of giving it to me, though. 😢

I just found this site and wow talk about intrigued! I’m 26 and straight but have been into anally pleasuring myself for years now. I’ve never told anyone not even my wife when I was married. Anyway I love fisting myself and I have the “rise up fist” dildo and it’s 3.5” inches in diameter at the knuckles and when I get going I can really go hard with it. Lol. I love just talking about it. I can also fist myself but it’s an uncomfortable position so I mostly use the fist toy. The fist toy I have isn’t even the biggest I have an inflatable dildo that expands to 4”! I don't know if I’ve gotten it that big but I can insert it half way inflated right off the bat. Well after i flush myself and finger my ass a little I’m ready to go. I just wish I could find a woman that would be willing to experiment with that kinda thing. I mean how do you even bring something like that up. I work a lot and have kids so it’s hard to meet people to begin with but maybe the right one will see this and happen to live in the Chattanooga area. ? ?

My wife has always enjoyed playing with my ass. It evolved naturally into fisting. I first showed my wife Pam after we were first married how much I enjoyed butt plugs. I had the standard cone shaped plugs in size medium and large. Pam saw how much I enjoyed stuffing myself with my large plug, (probably about 2.75 inches) to enhance our sex and how it really boosted the intensity of my orgasms during sex. Soon she was using my large plug it to play with my ass while she gave me a hand job or a blow job. We went on to lots of different anal toys.

One day about 15 years ago when she was fucking my ass with a long, 2.75-inch-diameter dildo, I asked her to just use her hands to play with my ass. She put a couple of fingers into me. I asked her to see how many fingers she could get into me. She got all of them inside me pretty quickly since I was already warmed up. I asked her to try to push them in deeper and try to get her thumb in too. She did! It felt really good. I told her to just hold her hand against me. I pushed myself into her and backed off several times. Each time I went in deeper. Then her entire hand popped into my rectum. It felt so good! I clenched down on her and squeezed her hand really tightly. We both loved it. She then went to work on my cock and I had a huge orgasm. That's how we got started.

If you want to talk your wife or girlfriend into fisting you, my advice is to start slow and work up to fisting slowly.

Very similar experience to Bill's. I was pretty up front with my girlfriend that I liked anal play and for the longest time we used traditional dildos, nothing to crazy. Then one night when we were playing (and after a couple of drinks) I fessed up that I really did like larger toys and that I had a couple stashed away. She wanted to see. She was both surprised at the sizes and intrigued. We didn't play with those toys that night, but a few nights later, she wanted to use them on me, we did. I told her that I thought I could take her fist and without hesitation, she turned me over, and started to go at it. After using my large dildo (2.5") it wasn't much of a stretch to get her whole hand to pop in. She popped it in and out a couple of times; but it was too intense for me to cum. Since then, we've done this a couple of times, but I still haven't cum; but it's fun as hell! I'm just super glad I have a girl that is super supportive of my kink for anal stretching and butt plugs!

Love your story, Proximo. Happy fisting!

Just curious to know who is the oldest doing anal fisting here ,,I been doing it for about 20 years at 63 years old still doing it or I should say my wife is doing me…

No one will ever get a fist up me. I've got a 1 1/2" bat shaped nozzle from Klystra that takes lots of lube and probably 10-15 mins to get in. Now lube up 2-3 fingers and work them in slowly, and I'll take that all day and night. 😜

Proximo wrote: "Since then, we've done this a couple of times, but I still haven't cum; but it's fun as hell!"

Maybe have her twist her hand back and forth with her knuckles rubbing against your prostate. It may take awhile for her to find the "sweet spot" but who's complaining? That usually does the trick. Good luck.

After trying for several years, on and off, with a few different ladies, I finally succeeded in getting someone's hand all the way in, wrist deep, last year. Tried a couple of times since then and one lady succeeded. I don't think she had particularly small hands, was just good at getting me relaxed in the right way.

I find it a struggle and sometimes its just too painful to get all the way in. But on the two occasions I've succeeded its been so satisfying I'll keep at it.

I love fisting, mostly cause it’s just too big, so it hurts slightly but fills me up nicely