Enemas and Backdoor Playing

I was wondering if any of the more sophisticated members like Debgirl and Switchblade Susie or some of the men could share a little insight. i like enemas and analplay. Guys and gals enjoy enemas fingers and fists. Is modern society causing us to try to fill an un-fillable void in ourselves?

Can you be a bit more specific regarding what you mean about

modern society causing us to try to fill an un-fillable void in ourselves?

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I've heard tell that our current societal psychological state ( a new book out should be called Xanax Nation ) is leading to anxiety and a longing for fulfillment. To me it seems that people are searching and finding a sense of comfort in all aspects of their lives. It's good when it doesn't hurt anyone unless that's part of the path. Some people find it in hatred and pain.The openness and pursuit of kinky sexuality is more apparent now. I was just musing specifically about our fascination with fisting-large insertions and toys-ever larger enema volumes etc. being an attempt to fill an emptiness. I'm about paying it forward ( pet rescue, mentorship, art, music, community involvement ) what ever floats your boat so to speak.Oh yeah, exploring and sharing and listening on a great place like zity.biz.

I don't think openness about kinks, or any sexual behaviour is a societal issue. The internet has made available information that was never shared before. We're better informed is all. Everything a human can think of in the world of kinks has been done for millenia.

Point well spoken ( you are amazing ). With the Internet and Forums like zity.biz people seem much more open about discussing what life has to offer. That's a good thing.Human nature hasn't changed. Historical records and chronicles agree withyou.

I think it's about us trying to fill the uh-fill able void that happened while we were growing up. Because we missed it then we want to experience it now. I don't see anything wrong with that.

There is nothing wrong with that. I hoping to start a discussion about why some of us like it😃

I tend to agree with DST that early development years as a child contributes sexual tendencies that evolve as the person matures throughout life. For sure there are genetic factors involved too, but early childhood experiences seem to be very important in shaping our views and desires of our own sexuality. And if there is a desire/behavior which is suppressed early on, it does seem to give it more momentum for greater expression as the person matures.

My experience with enemas as a young child was 100% positive. Enemas were the cure-all for whatever ailed us as children, but they were always administered slowly and gently with warm Ivory soap in the water. At the time, I was too young to associate enemas with anything sexual. I just knew they felt kind of good, and they didn't hurt. Naturally, when I went into to puberty and discovered that I was an "anal erotic", an enema was one of the first things I tried on myself. It felt good then, and I've been enjoying them for 60+ years since. It's only natural that an enema is desirable for "back door" play.

Have to agree with @Buttwoman in post #4. I think our ability to converse via forums such as Zity has allowed us the opportunity to share experiences (kinks) that we, at one time, kept entirely to ourselves. After all, at one time in your life didn't you think you were the only person in the universe that enjoyed enemas? As time has passed, cottage industries have sprung up catering to these particular kinks. Witness Silicone Nozzles and how popular their products are among those of us who frequent this forum. That said, I don't think there are any real societal changes going on regarding kinks, just an increased opportunity to see how many other people share your particular kink!

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

I don't think that modern society is causing us to be interested in anal play per se, but there are some things going on that might help people express their interest. Our bodies haven't changed much, and the same nerves that make buttplay feel nice now made buttplay feel nice 50, 100, 1000 years ago...

We do have more awareness now. We're also a bit more open and honest - look at all the people on here who freely admit that they take enemas recreationally for pleasure. This doesn't mean that there aren't medical things going on that enemas help with (don't I know), but it does mean that people aren't trying to cloak their interests as much, which may allow them to enjoy the enemas more fully.

The availability of accurate information on how to have anal play and enemas safely and pleasurably has also expanded significantly. This means that people with an interest can learn how to do it right so it is enjoyable rather than unpleasant and painful. As a result they could be more likely to try anal play again or even have it be a regular feature of their solo or partnered sex life. Unfortunately the access to information isn't all good, as there is also now a profusion of pornography that does not help people understand how to have safe and pleasurable anal play, and there's also much false information out there.

I think were also becoming more culturally open to expanding our concepts of sexuality beyond penis-in-vagina sex and grudgingly tolerated masturbation. That's probably a good thing, but we aren't very far yet, especially in private discussions with people we care about and we aren't sure of their reactions. I for one have had only very tentative and rare discussions with my wife about anal play, and definitely haven't said anything along the lines of "Honey, you know I take enemas for my bowels. I'm interested in trying to enjoy them more and maybe even make them sexually arousing, and having you involved would probably help. Wanna hose me out slowly and sensually after lovingly massaging my anus and lubing me up? Maybe even give me a handjob or blowjob while the water flows in? I think I might like it." or "Honey, I'd love to expand our anal play significantly. I'd like to start with fingers but eventually end up with you strapping on a dildo and doing my butt and/or fisting me".

Thinking about this more I feel I should add that for guys the growing awareness that you can enjoy anal play without it meaning something unwanted or that something is "wrong" helps, and that is at least partially tied into the growing availability of information and talk on sexuality.

I was chatting with a fellow that sells huge toys, almost exclusively anal, since he is in the heart of the Gay Village.

I hadn't been in his store for about 8 years. We were talking about how business is. He said that business doubles every year, and the demand for anal toys is astounding compared to ten years ago. Fetishes are growing, but it still has to do with information technology. More people talk about it, more people will try it. Fisting in gay culture is 100x more prevalent than it was, because before the internet, people did not even know it was a thing, or even possible.

Zity has been a God Send for most of us. Thanks Webby, moderators and active members.

I think enemas, pegging, and diaper fun are a part of shifting alot of traditionally male held control ...to Female held control.

This forum has allowed me to feel at ease talking about Enemas, Anal Play and other erotic things I have discovered. My yearn to share has finally overridden my need to hide what I have experienced and what I have recently discovered in the past few months about my own beautiful body. Being in my 60's, I came from a time when everything was kept secret, about pregnancy, surgeries, death, bodily functions, sexual awareness, etc. I hid my enema kink from my parents as a teen, and throughout my adult life, except for one woman when I was a young adult. It wasn't until my early 60's that I awoke from a long sleep and rediscovered the erotic nature of enemas, especially giving them to a woman that needed and enjoyed a nice warm soapy water enema. I also discovered all of the pleasure points that made her multiple orgasm and squirt. That point in time was my awakening! I have done so much research since then, through this forum and the rest of the internet, about male and female anatomy.

In the past year I have discovered and reprogramed myself to have no touch, non-ejaculatory, full body multiple orgasms lasting one to two hours. I have also experienced enema induced non-ejaculatory orgasms, orgasms from erotic touching points all over my body, and being able to move my sexual energy with my hands, without touching my body. I read and came to understand the need to first discovery the true pleasures we all have available to us from our own bodies.

A year ago I would have never imagined I would be where I am today, and continuing to progress daily. I really owe allot of it to this forum and others like it. Thank you all for allowing me to lurk so long, but now I have arrived and fully engaged in Enemas, Anal Play and MedFet.

I think enemas, pegging, and diaper fun are a part of shifting alot of traditionally male held control ...to Female held control.

They can be, but they don't have to be. You don't have to use them together, and you don't have to use them as 'control games'. You can use them for fun, or even as a romantic activity between lovers (well, not sure how diapers would fit in there, but I imagine the diaper users know of a way.)