I didnt even realize ATM was a thing or a kink until reading this post. I kept meaning to comment but needed to really think about it before I did .
There are a couple of points I want to address .
Ive done it with one person, not because I was ever opposed to it, I actually never gave it any thought but because well it never came into play before.
Now to try to clarify this a bit and even tho this is a kink site I dont want to give TMI .
His tongue has been in my ass as well as my pussy and I never gave it a second thought to make out with him. And to me making out absolutely has to include tongue! So there is that stance.
He has fingered my ass and pussy and slipped his fingers into his mouth as well as mine.
Now think about this, even if he only slipped his fingers into his own mouth and not mine....still the same here people.
So now guess what? His cock is no different.
For those that say, “ cock goes a lot deeper” well yes it does ( mmmm) !
It has just been an extension of our sexual repertoire I dont even think anything of it.
I dont “ clean out “ before we do anything anal. I also have never played when I felt like I need to “ go” so maybe that makes me feel more comfortable. If I was feeling like maybe I needed to get things moving or just not so fresh back there then I would do some prior maintenance.
I want to add one more thing.
I personally do not find it a dominant/ submissive act. It could very well be if you wanted it to be. Just like everything else , partners decide which direction they want to see things go.
I do not like humiliation of any sort. And doing atm , im my case was definitely not a part of that. I just wanted to enjoy and him to enjoy as well what just felt natural for both of us. And we both just wanted every part of each other!