Dissecting bisexuality

I think @JimmyJohnson is right too. A man will not have sex with another man if he just likes women. He will not do it if he does not fancy men.

JTMac said

We define "gay" differently. I can distinguish between "gay" and homosexual/bi

I think everyone will agree that there is a difference between homosexual and bisexual. I doubt you will find people who will say gay and homosexual are different.

Gay is nothing more than a politically correct, de-sexualized way of saying homosexual so homosexuals can feel they don't have a derogatory label on themselves.

The same goes for lesbians--it's just another way of de-sexualizing being a female homosexual.

Let's be honest and call a spade a spade.

We are what we are, NOT what we want to call ourselves.

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NOTICE OF DISCLOSURE AND CONFLICT OF INTEREST:

I have no conflicts of interest here. I consider myself heteroflexible, a form of bisexuality. If you want to call me bisexual, I won't disagree. Being bisexual means I partake in homosexual as well as heterosexual activities.

I'm old enough to remember when gay was the same as fun loving !

We define "gay" differently. I can distinguish between "gay" and homosexual/bi

Perhaps what you're really referring to is the spectrum within "gay". There are gay men who look and act totally straight. Based solely on talking to them and looking at them, you'd never guess that they go home and fuck another man. At the other end of the spectrum, there are gay men that talk and act like your best friend's little sister. The only thing missing is the lipstick! There is a spectrum of how gay men act but it doesn't change the fact that they have sex with other males, and are therefore, gay!

I should point out the obvious fact that the same spectrum exists for straight males. But if they only have sex with females, then they are considered straight, regardless of how they appear or talk.

It seems the general labels of hetero, bi and homosexual work if you are simply using sexual behavior as the single criteria for sorting people into one of the binds. Sex only with the opposite sex: hetero. Sex with both sexes: bi. Sex with only the same sex: homosexual.

If you venture into behavior and attitudes outside of sexual behavior and how someone presents or sees themselves e.g., masculine / feminine or how one has the capacity to become emotional involved with another person (same sex or opposite sex or both) then things get fuzzy. The definitions of hetero, bi and homo, don't work so well. If you can have sex with a same sex partner but don't have the capacity to fall in love with that person, maybe that would be "bi light" or some variation of bi. It's gets complicated.

So if we just stick to a labeling system that is based on who you have sex with, then things are simplified. On the other hand, we should recognize a person's sexuality and how they view themselves is complicated and in many ways not easily categorized.

I think it's pretty straight forward. Who you have sex with determines if you are heterosexual, bi or straight. How you present yourself is a totally different aspect. You can be feminine, butch, sissy, or whatever. Don't try to combine the two.

I think it's pretty straight forward. Who you have sex with determines if you are heterosexual, bi or straight. How you present yourself is a totally different aspect. You can be feminine, butch, sissy, or whatever. Don't try to combine the two.

Yeah, seems straight forward to me too. There has been a social tendency to associate feminine and gay, butch and lesbian, even within lesbian and gay culture, but i agree they are two different things. For instance, there are gay guys who specifically state that they are "not into fem men" and vice versa.

It seems the variations can be endless, but the general labels hold up.

Well I am not the best in writing or explaining myself exact words (due to an accident Front Left Lobe Brain) but going to try.I am a Bi-sexual Male have been since (I figure) 9-10 yrs old. First started and remembered doing the doctor with the girl next door ,but also did it with the boy next door also.I can remember at age 11 & 12 sleeping over at a certain friends house and learning different types of sex with each other ( oral sex,anal sex masturbation)We were best friends through out High School and kept having sex with each other without knowledge of others.I also went out with Girls,had girlfriends ,had sex with those girlfriends ,enjoyed being with Woman and Men.

Now in my 20's I would have come together with a Male or Female whoever I met that we had the same likes in sports,entertainment,sex,different opinions etc.I found a Female ,my wife (married she had 2 children 4,& 6yrs.) Yes I still was/had Bi-sexual feelings but did not cheat on my wife while married .we lived together for 5 years then married for 23 years. Became divorced and now I am single and looking for a Mate/Partner . Yes a Male OR a Female and Yes to enjoy one another's company including sex (this time being totally honest up front of my sexual likes ie: submissive,oral giving,anal receiving ,Water Sports,Spanking ,Enema(s). Again as long as we also have many other likes aside from sex .

Now Maybe I am seeing or not explaining myself right but I am Not Gay because I am not Just looking for a Male yet I could very easily spend the rest of my life with a Male providing we got along ,enjoyed each other sexually etc. NOT into Bar scene .

Yet the same could easily work if I was too find a nice Woman with same likes/dislikes,enjoyed each others company,enjoyed each other sexually also .

Am I asking for my cake and eat it too ,I do not think so .I am looking for someone Male or Female that I can enjoy the rest of my life left,enjoy it with laughter,dinners,daily routine.

You don't sound homosexual to me. You do not sound like you want your cake and eat it too. You are bisexual and want a relationship with SOMEBODY male or female who you can relate to and enjoy their company. That sounds perfectly OK to me.

Considering all the involvement I've had in sexual encounters with men, along with what I've written in https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1027125 I'd be classified as bi. Yet, I don't find men sexy; just useful to enjoy doing things to/with me. The female form is what's sexy - yet, if I can play a feminine role in some sort of way that a man enjoys, then that excites me. I also find I have to be " super horny mode" for any of this to happen; otherwise, I'm basically straight.

Your posts really help me to be more convinced person

I found that the older I got, the more attractive bisexuality became, less of a "gay" thing, than just plain fun!

Considering all the involvement I've had in sexual encounters with men, along with what I've written in ... Yet, I don't find men sexy; just useful to enjoy doing things to/with me. The female form is what's sexy...

I tend to share that view - I enjoy, and have enjoyed many fun encounters with other men, but in general, I'm only really particularly attracted to females. For me, men can be great fun in play scenes, but it's gals that tend to occupy my dreams....

I love sex and finding new ways to enhance it for myself and anyone else involved. I have always enjoyed bisexual experiences since I was very young, though I have always preferred a female partner. I find I enjoy sex with both males and females especially in a threesome situation. There will be times though, when I will get horny and if my GF is out of town, I might get with a male friend for relief.

I do find myself hot and cold when it comes to just having sex with another male. If I am in a horny mood, I am ready for hot sex with either though other times if I plan to get together with another male friend, by the next day when it is time, I might not really been in the mood anymore. I am always ready though should it be with a woman!

I guess the best way to describe myself would be heteroflexible. I prefer females, but enjoy males also. I have never been attracted to males romantically, though I love having multiple partners for a sexual encounter, especially with 2 males and 1 female.

You don't sound homosexual to me. You do not sound like you want your cake and eat it too. You are bisexual and want a relationship with SOMEBODY male or female who you can relate to and enjoy their company. That sounds perfectly OK to me.

Agree. I'm sure you can guess I'm not thinking about eating "cake" in the above.... .

I am so friging tired of being put in a box as a defined something.

On pure sexual horny as fuck level I will quote Saber Nero “ If it is beautiful I want it.” I say “if it makes me feel good and or is beautiful I want it”. Just a tiny bit different. If it feels good do it. Saber Nero is the first openly bi character in the Fate Stay Night series. Fate Universe.