Watching your spouse submit to others

Just a question to see if my feelings are rare.

After 16 years in a very very vanilla mariage, I got divorced. Did some casual dating but now have been with the perfect woman for me it seems. She has much more of a sexual history then I do and after a few drinks I got her to open up about some experience she's had. The one that stuck with me was a very well endowed man who used to spank her, make her perform oral, spank her some more, pull her hair. Pretty much a lot of aggressive and dominating encounters. I have no desire to do those things to her but I find myself fantasizing a lot about seeing her in those situations. Whether with a man or a couple, the idea of seeing her spanked and kind of forced to orally service others is a huge turn on. Not sure it would ever happen whereas she just smiles when I bring it up, but one never knows.

So is this a common type of fantasy for others or am i the rarity? Good day my kinky folks

A fantasy that I have is to watch my sub loose his anal virginity to another male. I would be watching and recording, for couple viewing at later dates. I would also be telling the other male (I refer to him to my sub as #2) how to fuck and when he could cum in my sub.

It isn't something my sub is interested in at all. But the image and idea hit some special nerves for me. I don't know if it will ever happen. I'm not sure if it would be as good to actually experience it or not. In the back of my mind I hear a small voice saying, "What if he enjoys getting his ass fucked more than fucking you?"

@MissStress that's the problem I see with my fantasy. Everything plays out perfectly in my head but it's not likely everything would be that perfect for real.

My gf also said that sex with the guy from her past was the best she's ever had. I gotta be careful I'm not putting myself out of business.

I do like how you would direct the action in your fantasy though.

Seems more fun when they don't have options as to what's happening ?

I often fantasize about bringing in another woman to play with in front of my husband.. mainly so I can show him all the ways to properly dominate me on her and also so I can watch him fuck someone else. Makes me hot to think about ? He and I also fantasize about bringing another man in. We've brought both a man and woman in at separate times in the past and it was amazing. He loves watching someone take me and I love watching him... It's no where near normal but who needs normal ?

It's no where near normal but who needs normal.

Normal is over rated by those who may not understand or care for some "spice" in their sex lives.

Well I did not see my partner submit to others but I felt the repercussions and there was a loss that can never be recouped so be careful in what you hope and pray for there are areas that I can not compete with and still feel inadaquit after three years of monogomy the sting is still there and the thought creeps back is this the month she leaves me for another male or female

Watching my spouse submit to other is a major part of our relationship. One of my many fetishes is promiscuous women. She has several lovers she sees. The times we play together is incredible. The level of sexual energy of one woman and two men I beyond description, even after twenty years of marriage.

I also would like to see my wife submit to other men, preferable a old man who strips, spanks and photographs her nude. he would also make her suck his dick and toss his salad.

I am a sub in a Dom/Sub relationship and my Dom recently had my submit myself to another man so he could finger my ass and my pussy as he watched. I have to tell that this was the most thrilling and erotic thing that I have ever done and I enjoyed every minute of it. As this I was naked on all fours on a bed and this gentleman was fingering me and I looked back at my husband watching and my husband looked so sexy there watching me. I hope to do it again in the future.

I've had the pleasure of both being the domme where I've topped the woman or the man while their spouse watched, as well as being the one topped. Both are incredible turn-ons for me.

Being topped while I can see my partner watching me, knowing that I'm being topped at his/her direction, turns me on to no end. In some ways it is the ultimate power trip/loss of control there is. When I'm the domme it turns me on as well to know that the sub is totally powerless and realizing that they are in this position because of their partner's decision/needs/wants and they are powerless to stop it. I also love to watch the partner masturbate while this is going on!

... so he could finger my ass and my pussy as he watched. I have to tell that this was the most thrilling and erotic thing that I have ever done and I enjoyed every minute of it. As this I was naked on all fours on a bed and this gentleman was fingering me and I looked back at my husband watching and my husband looked so sexy there watching me. I hope to do it again in the future.

I have to admit, I took a peek at your profile to see if you were fairly nearby. But all the way down in Texas. Oops

My dominant wife has a fantasy bull named Reggie that she sees on occasion, she always brings me home a nice cream pie to eat. My fantasy is to watch her give him a wonderful blow job. As her submissive, it's something I never get.

I love all these fantasies, especially those that have become reality.

I fantasize about my wife and I swinging with another couple. All four of us stay in the same room. We play a game where two of us have sex while the other two watch. We agree in advance on what kinds of kinks and sexual acts are OK, and we bring the required gear for the kinky stuff we might do. I'd vote for anything goes, (with a safe word of course.) Ideally all four of us would already be bisexual or willing to try it. We'd all pledge to give or receive either oral and anal sex to or from a man or a woman anytime the game dictates that we must.

To begin each new sex scene, (one of several sex scenes in a series I'd hope), two sex partners are chosen randomly from the four of us by drawing names out of a hat. The other two of us get to decide what kind of sexual things the two sex partners will do to each other, and of course we get to watch and give orders during the scene. For example, one couple might have to sexually perform for the other couple in whatever way the other couple chooses. Or a man and woman from different couples might be forced to have sex with each other in whatever way the other man and the other woman decide. Also, the two women might be forced to have sex in front of the two men in whatever way the men decide. And then there's the possibility that the two women might get to make their men have sex with each other in whatever way they want to watch.

There are so many exciting possibilities. My wife and I might get to command the woman of the other couple to tie up her man and peg him while swatting his butt with a little whip. The other man and I might decide to order his wife to go down on my wife while she fucks my wife's ass with a dildo. I'd love to watch that, (and see if she does it as well as I do.) I can also think of a few ways I'd love to be victimized, and several ways I'd love to be commanded to victimize someone else.

If this game gets boring, we can start drawing three names out of the hat. The first time I got to be the odd man out, I think I'd enjoy watching my wife get tied to a table top so the other woman could fuck her with a strap on while the other man has his way with her defenseless mouth. That would be fun to watch, but then what might happen to me in a future scene when my wife is the odd person out?

Anyone want to play?

@ WildBill2 Count me in Bill. 😜