Why women are attracted to women

For bi women, is it just me or is a women's body a big part of why you are into women? I love our soft curves. Another plus is that only a woman truly knows what makes a woman feel good.

For me the body is only a small part of it. Of course I love playing with people's bodies in general, but the curves and shapes are minor compared to the female mind which is really why I enjoy playing with the two women I see a couple of times a year. We also have a VERY close friendship where we discuss private and delicate topics between ourselves. My husband knows and gives us his blessings for those few days and nights.

I have to disagree that only a woman knows what makes a woman feel good. My husband does a damn good job! Good lovers are MADE NOT BORN. I have been with a number of women who had the interest and inclination but not the knowledge to be good in bed.

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I connect more, intellectually, and spiritually with women. We relate better, have more in common, and understand...well...girl stuff.

Try explaining a yeast infection, or a really heavy period to a guy (blank stare!). Women are also more fun to cuddle with. I lie next to one, and try to get maximum skin to skin contact. Guys want to roll over and sleep alone.

Sex is better with men. Irony. Fuck me, go home. Women are allowed to stay.

For me I love everything about another woman. We know how to talk to each other. We also know exactly how to touch each other. Plus women taste better and smell better. The women I have been with seem to never let you go without an orgasm. We are also softer.

I connect more, intellectually, and spiritually with women. We relate better, have more in common, and understand...well...girl stuff.

Try explaining a yeast infection, or a really heavy period to a guy (blank stare!). Women are also more fun to cuddle with. I lie next to one, and try to get maximum skin to skin contact. Guys want to roll over and sleep alone.

I do not think it is fair to talk about men like they are just all the same. My husband understands a lot about women's things and he does not just roll over and sleep alone. We always cuddle up tight and it is what we have always done. Maybe you have just had some bad experiences but I think if a man wrote something like that about what he thought all women were like and criticising all of us he would get a lot of angry posts replying to him. I think we should not think it is ok to criticise men in that way either.

Retraction- please ignore everything I said about men. They are all perfectly attentive to our needs and moods, always understand our complex emotions, and will sit and cry with us when our hormones act up.

I mistakenly commented on a tiny percentage that have not figured us out. I know that the vast majority have never thrown their underwear on the floor, and will gladly run to the store at three a.m. To buy tampons.

I do not think all men understand women but I just think it is not fair to blame all of them if the ones you met were not very good to you. If you have always gone for the same type because that is the type you go for it does not mean all men are as bad as them. I think that is insulting to all men really.

I think it is a good idea to keep enough tampons too, we should not expect men to run around after us because when we went shopping we did not make sure we got some. I do not run out of them. It is not the man's fault if you do.

@Amethyst I agree wholeheartedly

My husband understands a lot about women's things and he does not just roll over and sleep alone. We always cuddle up tight and it is what we have always done.

I am lucky to have a husband who understood my relationship with a former lover, Sarah, who had been a life long friend. Our friendship developed into a sexual one out of experimentation when we were in junior high and high school and carried on through college. She was part of my life when I met my husband to be and he always knew how I felt about her and I was always open with him. She was always open with him about her feeling towards me and the two of them respected each others roles or places in my heart. And that worked out well for a very long time.

When my husband and I felt that we needed to expand our horizons sexually to keep our marriage healthy we found ourselves in a situation which sees us involved with other couples we have known for a very long time. I've always been 'heteroflexible' when it comes to people I love or who are friends. The women I have become sexually active with are friends and have been friends even before we factored in sex to what we have.

Each of the women are very intelligent, caring, fun, curious, playful, sympathetic and UNsympathetic when that is what I need and they know what is to be a friend and not just some romp in bed. My husband is all of that and more to me. They care about me and how I feel as much as I care about them and how they feel, it is a two way street.

They, my friends (male or female) are the only people I allow into me, physically and emotionally and today was a good example of how in tune we are with each other. I was working at the shop, chatting here in one of the rooms, and one of those 'blue moods' crept up when I was thinking about the loss of Sarah in my life among other things. I was all set to have a nice little 'pity party' for myself but my friend, a woman, picked up on it and she took care of my mood. She said, 'Sometimes all you need is a naked hug.' 😉

Afterwards she told me to put my big girl panties back on because she wasn't going to do the work all by herself! 😄 😄 😄

It has to be about the person, male or female. A good friend will know or be there. My friend who gave me the naked hug today said that she would NEVER bail me out of jail. Why? Because she would be in there with me! 😄

Each of the women are very intelligent, caring, fun, curious, playful, sympathetic and UNsympathetic when that is what I need and they know what is to be a friend and not just some romp in bed. My husband is all of that and more to me. They care about me and how I feel as much as I care about them and how they feel, it is a two way street.

I liked your post @Ms_Lila. My husband is very masculine but he has got a soft spot for the ladies. If I had got a real problem I am just so sure he would help me with it, I would not need to ask him. I am straight but I still get that bisexual women maybe can get something like that from other women too.

@Amethyst

I am straight but I still get that bisexual women maybe can get something like that from other women too.

Your husband is very in tune with you and obviously your best friend as well. If I had to give up being with another woman, or, OK, women 😉 I would be just fine with that. My husband is my best friend and takes care of what I need. But since I don't have to give up my sexual side with my women friends, that is all the better, and him knowing and supporting me is icing on the cake.

My husband is my best friend and takes care of what I need. But since I don't have to give up my sexual side with my women friends, that is all the better, and him knowing and supporting me is icing on the cake.

My husband is my best friend and I trust him with my life. Some times I am sure he can just read my mind because he knows what I am thinking and he is ahead of me some times too.

I like that your husband gets that you need other women too, it just proves he understands and loves you.

My 'retraction' was tongue in cheek.

I made a generalization. Generalizations cannot represent 100% of the sample, because then they would simply be called facts.

@Tabitha32 you are 100 percent correct! I can't wait until my next experience with a woman!

I honestly just feel safer around women. Most men truly scare the hell out of me...

@Ms_Lila and @Amethyst ... I like what you said about your husbands ... that both of your husbands are your best friends and know you ... and satisfy your needs in more than just the physical. @Amethyst ... I especially like how you understand the needs or desires of bisexual women even though you are straight. You have that knack for understanding ... that sex fills a lot more than the need to 'get off' and that when it is all done, you need a friend who understands and ... accepts ... you once the physical part is done.

Just the very fact that I have had sex with other women means that I am ... by definition ... bisexual. However the term ... 'heteroflexible' ... seems more appropriate because it applies to fulfilling another woman's needs ... or having my needs or desires fulfilled by another woman ... who is also a friend.

I liked what both @Amethyst and @Ms_Lila wrote ... and they are lucky to have their husbands. The best to both of you. 🌹 🌹

Thank you @gibby. I got it right first time with my husband and I know that I am a very lucky girl. He has always made me very happy.

I enjoy reading about yours and @Lora_C's adventures too. I have just had one man ever, MY man, and I am straight but I get that you and your little group all love each other and want the same things and I think all of that is what is important. 🌹

@Amethyst

I got it right first time with my husband and I know that I am a very lucky girl. He has always made me very happy.

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I have just had one man ever, MY man, -

Oh @Amethyst - that last little quote about 'MY man' made me smile and YOUR man is a very lucky man to have you in his life. All the best to both of you. 🌹 🌹

I think a woman can relate to another more easily because of being more understanding of each other's needs. I was shy and naive. My first complete sexual affair was with a slightly older woman and she gently taught me most everything without any pressure.

(For context, I am bisexual)

I don't know why I'm attracted to women. I don't know why I'm attracted to men either. I just am.

I can appreciate a nice ass on anyone. Just as I can a toned physique, pretty eyes, and all the rest. I do look for different things in different genders, but physical appeal is the starting point. If I'm not physically attracted to them I will never consider making them my SO, male or female.

Anyone can say whatever they like about how they love their best friend and I agree that's why you LOVE someone, NOT why you're ATTRACTED to them! If your current best friend/husband was 300 lbs heavier than they were when you first met, with scruffy, patchy stubble and unbrushed teeth, I don't think you would have looked at them in a sexual way to begin with, if you looked at all.

When it goes past attraction, I like someone for who they are. Men and women can be funny, kind, sweet, intelligent, honest, the list goes on. Men and women can also be bitchy, whiny, thick as two planks, and assholes. Not understanding someone has nothing to do with gender. Just today a guy gave me a tampon, he carries them in his bag in case a girl needs one. So if you think guys don't give a shit when you talk about your period that's because you've been talking to the wrong guys.

As for "only a woman truly knows what makes a woman feel good", I disagree. Strongly. Some women are better than some men, some men are better than some women. Some men are better with one woman than another, based on what she likes and how comfortable she makes him feel, and vice versa. To say one gender is better than the other at pleasing women isn't something I agree with.

I am bisexual. Growing up as a teenager I didn't know what I was. Gay, straight, bi.? I also didn't really know what gender I was. I had a boys body, but wanted to be a girl. I was interested in the same things as girls, I could relate to girls better and talk to them better. I grew up hating boys. It was always the boys that bullied me, called me names, beat me and spat at me. It was always the boys who stole money and food from me.

Although there were 2 girls who called me names and bullied me, they did it to all the other girls too. They were much bigger and powerful than the other girls, so they sort of ruled the roost.

Once I had come to terms with what I was and I was living full time as a girl, I saw men as arrogant, disgusting creatures who only wanted to bed girls, for their own pure satisfaction.

I could see how much it had hurt my best friend, whose boyfriend had walked out on her, and left her with 2 young children to bring up on her own. Yet, she kept telling me that not all men are the same as I think.

She was the one who got me speaking to men and mixing with men, even though most of the time it was just to have sex with them for money, so that I could afford to live and care for myself.

Eventually I got to understand men more and I soon realised that not all were the way I had believed them to be.

I started to get friends with some men and eventually I got into a relationship with a very nice and caring man.

He was also my boss at work, but we had met before I started working for him.

He was quite a bit older than me, and was very caring and loving. I found out that he had been engaged to a woman, when it all went wrong not long before we became an item.

I couldn't understand why he would want to be with me, when he could be with many other good looking genetic women.

He just kept telling me that it was because he wanted to be with me, because he loved me, and loved me for who I was, and didn't care about my past and my situation.

He was my soulmate, my lover, my best male friend, and my hero.

We understood each other and loved each other.

It was the first time I had ever experienced anything like this and I was completely smitten.

All of my fear and being wary of men had gone.

I respected men and began to trust them at last.

Ever since then I have got on quite well with men, and I now have many male friends, just the same as I do female friends.

I think being bi, attracts women to women because of how women understand each other and know what each other wants and likes. Women are more caring and loving to each other and of course a woman's body and curves are nicer than a man.

But we are also attracted to men for our sort of animal instinct and the physical attractive aspect of men.

Men liking men I think is like a brotherly love and friendship with each other, yet again their animal instinct kicks in and makes them attracted to the physical beauty and curves etc of a woman and her body.

@transgirl you hit the nail on the head. Your story is amazing! I may be a natural woman, though my experiences with men were less than desired and I look at them as people who look at women as objects. Women look at women as equals.

Although I have a husband, I am submissive and have met a take-charge woman. Confession time, followed by spanking time! I have the best of both worlds!

I'm a straight girl who still appreciates the female form. My husband sometimes will say, "would you fuck her?" In my mind I'll think yeah or no way. Ironically we have different tastes. I think plus size is more appealing. I like chicks more like myself although for some reason he doesn't identify me as plus size or is lying? I love big boobs but never check out butts or anything. I guess it's the softness or the fluffiness of such girls. Along with a great personality for laughs and brain for intellectual conversation , I could easily have a girl crush.

I'm bi, and tend to seek out men for sexual satisfaction, and women for my emotional needs.

I adore the female form, their perfect curves, boobs (who doesn't like boobs, gay or straight?) their smoothness and smell, the soft musk between their legs, and uncanny ability to keep the toilet seat down.

I like to spoon them, and fall asleep with my face in their hair. We can talk about guys, and shoes, and not ever have to watch sports. Women are better kissers, and never push our heads down during oral sex. Women know when we need a hug, or a glass of wine, and when we're crying, to comfort us, or leave us alone. Women never put ketchup on stuff that doesn't need ketchup.

@1CuriousGirl, I think we have the same taste in women. Our difference is that I prefer women. Big breasts are the best but that's coming from a busty girl.

This thread has been very successful because you ladies have made a big effort to communicate the complexities of bisexual relationships. I appreciate the honesty of your comments and now I can better understand the physical and emotional benefits you gain from them. It is obvious from your posts that you gave serious thought to the subject, and you expressed them very well.

I think that women like women because we understand each other. To be honest, I have never had sex with a girl, I have kissed a girl (including down there) but that was all of it. I am a bit confused if I am a bisexual or bicurious, no matter which one I would love to try having sex with a girl. I just like the way women's bodies look like - the curves, the softness, all of it. Women are awesome 😃

CherryLips. Trust me, you don't need a label. Have sex with whomever it feels good. Labels are for ketchup bottles.

As stated early you are born with the need, want call it whatever to like, appreciate ones own sex. I know women who recoil in horror at the very thought of touching another woman in any way at all never mind getting into bed with one. I am not sure when one realises one likes the same I know in my case I sort of grew into it, just felt right.

I would say I am bisexual since high school. It first started with a bunch of girls ata sleep over and I was kidding around with Sally my best friend and we kissed each other and it set a sensual feeling throughout my body. We kissed a couple times that night and then over the next year it progressed on to a full sexual relationship. I love the way she looks her soft skin, beautiful breast and beautiful butt. I love that she listens and understands me. I love to play with her hair which is down to her but it smells so good and feels wonderfully soft. I love to go down on Sally and smell her and perform oral sex and slowly lick her clitoris and love to hear her moan in pleasure. I also love when we have sex it is fantastic just a different feeling than being with a man.

Not saying I do not love sex with men but I have a special bond with Sally that will not be broken. She is currently part of my life and my boyfriend understand this.