The Enema in Dominance, Submission and Discipline!
The Enema in Dominance, Submission and Discipline!
IMPORTANT NOTICE:
The following discussion contains graphic references to unusual sexual practices. If you are offended by such behavior, do not read further. Also, this discussion deals with sexual practices that could result in the transmission of infectious diseases. These are not games for amateurs. Before playing these games, know your own and your partner's sexual-health status (have tests for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases) and learn the rules of safer sex. Finally, this discussion may present items that are fantasy, meant for mental rather than physical use. Some of the practices described would be dangerous to individuals with weak areas in their colons. The author/s disclaim any specific medical knowledge or training that would qualify them to judge the medical safety of any of these procedures. None of the following procedures should be attempted in real life without competent medical advice on their advisability for the given individual.
Also, you may note that I give an unfair amount of attention to treatments for female submissives. This is simply because that is where my experience and desire lies. I recognize that many -- probably most -- of the people into enema submission are males. For mistresses reading this to find ways to sweetly torment your E-male, just switch the genders and (with occasional modifications for plumbing differences) everything will still work just fine. When it comes to enema sex, the male and female are remarkably alike.
From time to time, someone writes the E-SIG, the a.s.e newsgroup, or me asking for suggestions regarding punishment enemas for D and s games. The enema makes a divine form of punishment for submissives, so it's not surprising there is considerable interest in this topic. There are at least seven good reasons why the enema is such a consummate tool for discipline and humiliation.
1. The enema can be made quite painful.
2. It involves humiliating postures, sounds, sights and smells. It brings all of the senses into play, a veritable concerto of sensory overload.
3. It exposes very private and intimate parts, and ignites deeply personal, visceral feelings.
4. Enema play involves two people in an activity that is so taboo that the very sharing of it together creates an incredible bond of kinship.
5. It penetrates and fills the recipient more fully than any other sexual act short of pregnancy. In fact, the swollen belly look brought on by a large enema approximates the look of pregnancy. It makes the erotic enema a metaphor for sexual completion. Penetration, ejaculation, impregnation and parturition.
6. An enema forces the submissive to focus attention on the treatment. It is nigh on impossible for even the most stubborn of slaves to drift off or lose concentration in the midst of a massive enema.
7. Giving a female submissive an enema stimulates the sex muscles of her pelvic floor (the muscles that spasm during orgasm) in a very powerful way. Giving a male sub an enema generates sexual feelings both in the pelvic-floor muscles and in the prostate gland. In either sex, enemas given by a skilled top can single-handedly trigger an orgasm. Both the feeling of the nozzle penetrating and the water spraying are highly erotically charged. People who have experienced an anal orgasm know that it is much more powerful than a genital climax. It seems to spread through the whole core of your body instead of centering only in your genital region.
If you are an enema aficionado, it's pretty tough to miss the association between pain, humiliation and pleasure available in this unique treatment. No wonder so many enema/anal erotics have an interest in DS and SM.
The following is in no way an attempt to compile a complete list of ways erotic enemas can be worked into D and s play. If you have enjoyed something not mentioned here, write me, WaterLuv@etzine.com, and let me know. Space allowing, I'll keep adding your good ideas. They can be attributed to you, with an e-mail address so readers can contact you, or they can be anonymous. Just let me know how to handle the byline.
Volume
The most obvious way to make an enema punishing is to make it big. But how big is safe, and can't the volume question be answered with anything more subtle than simple overkill?
Large
Nurses tease about big prep enemas called 3H procedures for "High, Hot and Hell of a Lot." Well, honey, most nurses still have a thing or two to learn about human capacity. Before we launch into a discussion of what's possible, however, let's take a moment to consider what's wise. SM games should always stop well short of leaving any permanent injury to the submissive. Sure there are people who maim or disfigure themselves in the name of sex, but I do not write for them, and I do not agree that such practices are sexy. I am speaking to couples who wish to integrate kinky, wild play safely into their lovemaking.
Four on the Floor
Put her on some towel covered pillows on the floor. Have her assume the knee-chest position, a wonderfully humble pose. Take plenty of time lubing her up-thrust rear hole. If she's good, compliment her on how beautiful and sexy her exposed sex and ass is. Slide a douche nozzle into her and give her a two quart enema of very warm water. Have a pitcher standing by with another two quarts of cooler water. Just before the bag gurgles empty, add the second two quarts, and continue enemaing her, fucking her in the ass with the nozzle all the while. As you pass three quarts, the pain will begin to increase. For most people, somewhere between three and four quarts the pain becomes pretty severe. You'll need to know your submissive in order to help her get the most from this enema. Some bottoms like to just tough it out. They will take an incredible filling with no outside sexual stimulation. Their turn-on is altogether mental, borne in their ability to take any punishment you give them. Others do much better if masturbated continuously throughout the procedure. You want to keep her close to cuming, but not let her go over the top and lose it. When she does orgasm with a large enema inside, she will almost certainly spurt spasmodically as the waves of intense pleasure tear at her anal muscles. Therefore, you will want to use this procedure only in places where accidental discharges will not do any permanent harm. You can either enjoy the spectacle of her spurting in time to her orgasmic tremors, or punish her further for losing control.
That's Enough, That's Enagouk!
This is a treatment reserved for the most serious of punishment sessions, and only to be used with slaves who have a great tolerance for, no a love of pain and humiliation. This kind of session is NOT to be taken lightly. It takes time to properly prepare. The slave must fast for one or more days, taking only a liquid diet during that period. Each evening of the fast, give the slave a powerful laxative. Each afternoon and again before letting them bed down, give them enemas till they run clear. Before the actual procedure begins, give several enemas of large volume until the returns are clear.
Do not put the slave in bondage for this procedure. It will be entirely difficult enough with full mobility. Use an open-top bag with at least 6 feet of enema tubing and a standard douche nozzle. Do not use a retention catheter. It could allow dangerous pressure levels to develop in the colon. Fill the bag with 2 quarts of water, expel the air from the hose, and clamp off the flow. Have a hanger placed near the ceiling, and hang the bag up there. Push the nozzle into the slaves behind. Give the enema slowly, clamping the hose to let any signs of cramping pass before resuming the flow. Before the bag is fully empty, add another 2 quarts and slowly run that into the slave. Again, stop just before the bag is empty, and put another 2 quarts in.
Above four quarts, you will have to go very slowly, clamping the hose for longer periods and coaching your slave through her La Maze breathing so that she can handle the enormous enema in her. At some point, usually between four and six quarts, she will get such pressure inside that she will vomit.
This can be the end point of the procedure, or the start. There are submissives who so love pain and suffering at the hands of their master that they will willingly endure bag full after bag full forcing its way up past their pyloric valve into their stomach where they will involuntarily vomit it from their system.
When they are done, they will be utterly cleansed, the body well flushed of toxins, and feeling like a rag doll. Cuddle and pamper the submissive who is willing to do this for you. This is a precious person indeed.
Repetitious
Taking a 2 quart enema is not real punishment. Taking several in a row is a bit of a chore. As you get to five or more fillings, the pain level of each successive enema builds. Also, the anal area becomes steadily more sensitive. Up to a point, this sensitivity enhances the erotic impact of the punishment. Let's look at ways to maximize this effect.
Get ready for the Flesh Enema
Master, require your submissive to take enemas until the returns are clear so that she will be clean enough back there to be ass fucked by the you. She will also be highly sensitized. If done improperly, this will make her sore, and anal intercourse will be too painful. If done with sensitivity, it makes a wonderful, exciting ritual of preparation. It provides your submissive with a demonstration of how you care for her and it gets her totally focused on how her ass is going to soon be your pleasure pillow.
I Love it When You Moan Like that
Or simply tell a slave you want to enema them over and over because their moaning and distress turns you on. In my book, watching my submissive undergo an entire evening of flushings is way more fun than a night of Rosanne reruns.
CAUTION: A good top is ultra perceptive. Discern that point where the submissive's anal sensitivity is at maximum for erotic feeling. The assignment for the great Dom. Never push your slave past the place where they need to go, and never drop them far short of that place.
The E2C Enema (Not an Airplane)
One of the most erotic of scenes is to bind and enema a female slave and make out with her during each filling. As she gets hotter and hotter, her master will be treated to the thrill of her thrusting her rear back onto the nozzle and groaning into his kisses and embraces. The ultimate expression of this enema is forbidding the slave to cum from any other source, then repeating the procedure day by day till just your touch on her breasts, your mouth on hers, and the water coursing into her sensitive ass is enough to do the trick. Hence the name, E2C or Enema To Cum.
You really have to know your slave's tolerance and hot buttons to pull this off. Too many enemas in one session and they get so sore it never happens. Too few and they never get hot enough. And you have to know just what kind of teasing and necking gets them the hottest. For some, paying homage to their dom's genitals or ass is the ultimate turn on. Of course, just about all will get hot if you rub and admire their distended tummy, occasionally brushing close to their genitals as you praise them for taking so much enema for you. No cheating, though. Don't deprive them of the joy of an anal orgasm by actually touching their trigger.
Continuous
After you have your submissive well cleaned, you can attach a bag directly under the shower head and just keep going and going like the Energizer rabbit.
The Basic Shower-Head Enema
The sub should be encouraged to take in as much as possible. When they become full to overflowing, make them hold the still spewing nozzle in themselves and allow them to release water in the shower or tub. They will, of course, have to spray all over their hand and heinie. Pretty humiliating, and the best part is the continuous stimulation of the water flowing in gets them hotter and hotter. Here they are doing this degrading dance, and totally getting off on it. Perfect D and s fun. This is best applied to male subs. Females who tend toward urinary-tract infections should not be allowed to do this.
Rewards for Punishment
A fun variation on this is to let them do the one thing they most love, but only when they continue to hold their water and take more. For instance, a mistress has a sub male who absolutely adores her pussy. To him, being able to look at, smell, kiss and suck her vagina is the supreme pleasure. She tells him, "First, you must enema yourself till the returns are clear. I don't want to stand in the tub while you fill it with poop. Then, we will start a continuous enema, and you can have my pussy to yourself so long as water is going inside you to drive you to the fever pitch I need. Whenever water sprays out of you, though, you must take your mouth away from me."
To do this one, you need either a retention strap to hold the nozzle in the slave, or simply require them to hold it in themselves. The strap is the preferred method because it leaves both their hands free to fondle you. You can improvise a strap for this purpose using a sanitary napkin belt and some satin ribbon.
Solution
Once you have explored the well-charted waters of high-volume enemas, you and your bottom will probably want to delve into some of the more esoteric of erotic enemata. What, for instance, can you safely substitute for plain tap water? What will each alternate solution do? For the solution to these questions, read on.
Hot
Enemas should never be really hot. We can comfortably bathe in water quite a bit hotter than the safe limits for internal consumption, so the top needs to develop a sense for what's excitingly hot versus what's potentially dangerous. Also, before playing with temperature, read up on the signs of hyperthermia, and the treatments. If the subject shows any signs of temperature stress, discontinue the play immediately and give proper first-aid treatment. Be prepared to get medical help if this first aid is not immediately successful.
You can test enema water like you would test formula temperature for a baby's bottle. Let a few drops out on your wrist. If it feels well above normal body temperature, that's too hot. Remember also that water in the hose cools rapidly. You'll need to test some from the large volume still in the bag.
Hot enemas tend to relax the muscles of the colon, reducing peristalsis, and making it easier to retain a large enema for a period of time.
Hot enemas are the best thing going to warm up a submissive who's been out playing in the snow or skiing.
Cold
Within the limits of heat that can be safely used, cold enemas are actually much more punishing than hot. Not only is the temperature a shock to delicate internal tissues, the cold water sets the intestinal muscles to working overtime. This produces rather painful cramping, and makes long-term retention extremely difficult.
Cold enemas can serve other purposes than punishment. They are very effective in treating fever or hyperthermia. Applied with a simultaneous, cool sponge bath to the body, they will quickly lower core temperature.
AC Enemas
No, I am not suggesting you plug your honey's heinie into a wall outlet. I mean alternating currents of hot and cold. Best way to do this is with two bags connected to a single nozzle through a Y fitting placed close to the nozzle end. The variation in temperatures of the fluid tends to focus the submissive's awareness on their insides and what's happening to them. It can be real fun to ask them to report in their own words the sensations that the AC enema gives. Make them discuss it in intimate detail, describing how it feels way up inside as well as the feeling right where the fluid is spraying into their nether hole.
An aside: Having a slave describe ALL the feelings associated with repeated enemas can be a tremendous turn on to you both. This is particularly effective with bottoms who get off on humiliation. Of course, by forcing them to discuss these matters with others present, you can greatly amplify the humiliation factor.
Soapy Water
The Ivory Soap enema is a classic. Many of today's enema erotics were reared (what an appropriate word) on weekly or monthly doses of Ivory suds. The soap acts as an irritant to the intestinal tissues, producing cramping and powerful evacuations. It also helps to dislodge the hardened mucoid-fecal matter that encrusts the intestinal walls. Everybody should take a series of these once in a while, but not too often.
Soapy enemas are great for an occasional heavy-duty cleansing of the colon. They are neat because there is all the ritual involved. You must get the water to the right temperature, mix in soap till the water is milky and sudsy, administer 1 or more soapy fillings, administer one or more rinses. I've found female subs are particularly fond of the ritual and preparation aspect. It makes a woman feel loved and cared for if done with genuine tenderness.
Spicy
Now we move into the realm of the truly esoteric. There are several perfectly safe concoctions that can spice up an enema. The effects vary depending upon choice of potions.
Below are just a few unique solutions to the plain-old-tap-water rut. Certainly, there are many others. Be creative so long as you know what you are doing. But do not take risks with yourself trying out unknown potions, and by all means do not experiment on a submissive. To do so is a violation of the very foundation of trust upon which the DS relationship must be built. The submissive must be able to trust the top to keep things safe.
Lemon Juice
Two ounces of lemon juice per quart of water turns an ordinary, ho-hum enema experience into the shriek of agony. The lemonade will produce terrific cramping. This is a great first enema to clean out the bowels for further play, but it is very tiring.
Fire Extinguisher
Here's an idea for an enema submissive who is dependant on daily enemas for normal bowel function. It's a twist on the lemon trick. Try this for real heavy pain. It works just like the soda/acid fire extinguisher. Tell them "I understand your need for daily cleansings. You've been good today, and I'm going to reward you by putting some baking soda in your enema so it is not harsh." Give the enslaved a nice two quart enema of water with baking soda. Now, as the bag empties into their distended bowels, find fault with something. Get really bent out of shape. Leave the bag hanging there. Tell them to hold their enema in and keep their hand on the nozzle. March off to the kitchen, and return with a quart of lemon juice/water per above. Dump that right in the bag. When it hits the baking soda, all hell busts loose in your little tramp's bottom. You'd best move them to the toilet or tub before doing this, unless you want them to spray the bathroom floor and have to mop that up later.
Lobelia
Lobelia herb is available in herbalist and naturopathic stores. As a tea, it is used to induce vomiting. It does this by stimulating massive cramping in any smooth muscle lining it contacts (stomach or bowel). To make an enema of lobelia tea, use 1 ounce of the dried herb to 1 quart of water. Boil the water, then pour it into a teapot with the herb. Cover, and let it steep for 20 minutes. Filter water from leaves. Mix with additional water to bring it up to 2 quarts and adjust the temperature to comfortably warm.
Lobelia causes instantaneous, unbearable cramping. It is also reputed to be mildly psychoactive. Whether that's true is hard to say. It does generate a strange, mellow buzz, but that could easily be the endorphins released by the pain of taking it. It is virtually impossible to retain a 2 quart lobelia enema without the help of an inflatable balloon retention catheter.
Pepper
Looking for a hot time in the old towne tonight? Here's your ticket. Amazingly, herbalists say this is really good for you (or your bottom). You make a tea by steeping 1/2 oz or red pepper (cayenne) flakes to two quarts of water. Boil the water, then pour into a teapot with the pepper, let steep for twenty minutes, filter the pepper from the water, and bring to a comfortable temperature for use. It creates quite a sensation on the insides. Not quite what you would expect, but it will definitely set your sub's tail to wagging.
A suggestion. This enema is different enough that the top should secretly try it before prescribing it for the bottom. It is also worth noting that this enema provides enough stimulation to the male prostate that it can cause spontaneous release of ejaculate from the penis. So, of course, the mistress tells the slave that he must, under no circumstances, begin to leak cum, then plugs in the hot pepper nozzle and watched him squirm trying to prevent the unpreventable.
Intoxicating
Alcoholic beverages can be imbibed backwards, and the effect is greater than if you dump them down the proper hatch. In fact, one of the first cautions is to use real restraint in the amounts of alcohol with wine or beer enemas, because the colon is very good at absorbing alcohol. It is much better at this than is the stomach lining. Hence, you will get more intoxicated more rapidly when a given amount of booze is in your butt than when it is in your belly. DON'T overdo it and end up with a slave in the emergency room or worse. A second caution. If you use anything stronger than 12% by volume alcohol (as in a typical wine) dilute it to keep the alcohol content to 12% or less. A third caution. Alcohol impairs judgment. Don't get yourselves looped and throw caution to the wind, ending up in a compromising situation, or forgetting the rules of safer sex, or some such disaster, All enema lovers should set their sights on many happy returns.
Sustaining
Enemas can be used for purposes other than simple cleansing. Glucose or sugar water solution, given with a retention catheter, can actually sustain a person for a long period without any need for eating solid food. This can make an interesting use of a holiday weekend. During such periods, the bowels should be periodically flushed with plain water, as well. Amazing though it seems, there will be fecal matter to clear day after day even when no solid food is given. This is because fasting promotes the body to begin flushing out dead cells and toxins, and this mass of gunk congregates in the colon. Thus, the subject gets plenty of anal attention and ends up highly tuned to the stimulation it provides.
This approach, if you can take it to several weeks, is an excellent way to train a new bottom in being an enema submissive. She may hate the enemas at first, but will begin to look forward to them after a time if they are her only source of food, fondling, and attention.
Nasty
NOTE: The following practices are way outside the rules of safer sex, and should not be done in reality unless all possibility of STD transmission, AIDS, hepatitis, and the like has been eliminated by a combination of testing and strict avoidance of contact with untested persons by both individuals involved.
There is a special brand of submissive that takes great pleasure in being made to do disgusting, dirty things. They see it as a badge of courage proving their devotion to their dominant partner. If you are fortunate enough to come into possession of such a servant, here are some suggestions to keep them coming back for more.
The Golden Gift
Tell them they must have an enema, but that you won't use ordinary water on them. Tell the slave that you must personally cleanse and prepare a golden elixir for their enema. Have lots of iced tea on hand. Hook the slave up to an enema bag with an inflatable balloon retention catheter on the end of it. Sit and watch an afternoon of TV, or listen to classical music, or read together. Every time you are ready to pee, have the slave hold their bag up to you while you fill it with another load of your golden gift. For really heavy sessions (if the sub wants this kind of play) you may give them permission to orally clean you each time you are finished relieving yourself.
The slave must not go to the bathroom, but must sit there and absorb the special elixir you are giving them. From time to time, they will need to pee as well. You may let them do this in the normal fashion, or require them to short circuit themselves, peeing in their own bag so as not to lose any of the precious essence you are putting into them.
This kind of treatment appeals particularly to slaves who are fascinated by the trappings of the opposite sex. You can tell them that the dose of hormones in your urine will open their eyes to the sexual counterpart living within themselves. Tell them that only as they contact this alter image within will they be able to serve you sexually in the way you require. The more ritual and fanfare you work into this game, the more satisfying it will become.
The Chocolate Gift
For this trick, you'll need a retention catheter. You also need to read and observe all the rules of safer sex. In these days of AIDS and hepatitis, doing this without understanding of risk minimization is tantamount to playing Russian roulette.
This one really turns the slave's world upside down. It is also incredibly intimate, and it calls for a very finely tuned knowledge of the power exchange in the DS relationship. Without such an understanding, the top will not be able to pull this off without loss of face before the submissive. Therefore, have a bullwhip handy to reassert control whenever needed.
You, the top, serve as an enema deliverer for your submissive. First, they must give you several enemas, making sure you are free of all large, solid waste. The slave should be duly deferential during this process. Punish them with a severe strapping for even a tiny step over the line here. The slave should care for you throughout expulsion and should clean you after all is out. The slave should learn to respect and even worship everything about you. In their eyes, your shit does not stink, and they must prove this.
When they have you all clean and ready, they give you another two quarts that is destined for their own insides. They clamp off the hose with the two quarts in your bowels, mixing with your Chocolate Gift to your slave. They then lay on their back between your legs. They look up expectantly at your sex as you detach the bag from the hose and replace it with a nozzle that you hand to the slave with instructions to shove it deeply into their rear. Now, you open the hose clamp and drain the muddy water of your enema into your waiting slave. Be sure to talk to them about the intimacy you are sharing, and your feelings as you empty into your lover's bowels. If they have not been entirely satisfactory in their assistance you can refill yourself and empty a second two quarts into them.
During the session, you can squat down over the slave's expectant mouth from time to time and let them pleasure you for a bit. Use this as a break when the slave complains of excessive cramping. Instead of clamping off the flow, simply sit on their mouth thus reducing the pressure of enema flow into them and increasing the pressure of erotic flow into you.
Oral Exams to Prove Your Love
This scene is not for everyone. Some submissives, however, are highly turned on by doing really dirty things for their lover. Their ultimate fantasy is to actually accept their dominant partner's anal offering into their mouth. Prostitutes call such tricks toilets. The technical term for the desire is scatology. If you have such a slave, you can combine enemas and scat and get an erotic scene of colossal proportions. This is another sequence where both parties partake in the joys of enema taking.
You start by one or more cleansing enemas to rid the system of solid wastes. Next, prepare a standard very-warm enema in a 2 quart bag and also fill a 2 quart pitcher with very-warm water. Do this in the shower or tub, with the bag and the pitcher standing by. The bottom gets her enema via the normal route, from the bag. The top gets his enema from her mouth. Mouthful after mouthful, she first fills up from the pitcher then lovingly plants her mouth on his rear, nestled in the pungent valley between his tight buns. With her face buried deeply in him, she tenderly parts her lips and forces the water into his bowels. For those that find even this scenario too tame for their scat desires, there is always the option of taking the enema out the same way you put it in. This can be done one mouthful at a time, the top exercising great control to release only a little at a time. For even more nastiness, it can be done by drinking the offering. The submissive will probably find it necessary to vomit part way through the release in order to make room for the full two quarts. With practice, she can control the outflow by French kissing into her lover's rear. Try this while slowly sliding your hand along the length of his cock, building a rhythm between what you are doing in front and what you are doing in his rear.
As I said, this is not going to be everybody's cup of tea. But, for the intrepid souls who do explore this forbidden territory successfully, there awaits a level of intimacy that surpasses human understanding.
Retention
Excess in any area can drive enemas over the line from a reasonably comfortable, slightly strange feeling procedure to pure torture. Be it volume, repetitions, or length of time till expulsion, when it comes to enema sex, "The more, the merrier," only applies to the true masochist. But that's who we're talking about, so retention enemas are right on topic here.
Device Assisted
Unless your submissive is a gold medalist in willpower, enema experience and anal-sphincter-muscle tone, it is wise to use some sort of retention device to prevent unseemly accidents. Unless, of course, an accident is just what you are after. One great punishment routine is an enema that must be retained for a solid hour without assistance. If the sub fails and soils things, then they must get down on hands and knees in the mess they've made, and clean it all up till all is Air-Wick fresh.
Inflatable balloon retention catheter
The inflatable balloon retention catheter is a retention device par excellence. It uses an inflatable balloon that is expanded once inside the anal ring producing a tight seal to hold the enema in. The best inflatable balloon retention catheters have two such balloons. One is inserted inside the slave, the other remains just outside. When both are inflated, the inner one is tight against the inside of the anal sphincter and the outer balloon is tight against the outside of the anus, ensuring that the inner balloon doesn't slide too far inside and let any water slip past it.
Butt Plug
Butt plugs can also be used to force retention. They are generally less effective than the inflatable balloon retention catheter, because the only way the bulbous end of the butt plug can get inside is if it is small enough to force through the sphincter. The inflatable balloon retention catheter, which goes in small and then is inflated, does not suffer this disadvantage. However, for punishment, accommodating a large diameter butt plug adds a whole new dimension to the pain of the procedure. Butt plugs are also handy if you want to take the slave somewhere public while they hold their load, and you don't relish the idea of explaining why they have a 3/8 inch diameter latex tube protruding 18 inches out of their ass.
Will-Power Driven
The ultimate retention-enema punishment is the will-power driven one. It goes along the lines of, "If you really love me, if you respect me as your master, you WILL hold this for 30 minutes." You can work this into a fabulous approach-avoidance conflict for your sub. You command your sub to take a large enema and then spend 30 minutes on the couch kissing you and getting you really hot. You tell them that, if they do it without leaking a single drop, they can have their favorite sexual treat as a reward. You warn them that, if they fail, they can go dump the rest of the enema then drive you to a fine furniture store and buy you a brand new couch. And since the new couch won't match the other pieces in the room, they can just make it a complete living room set. Approach avoidance conflict. Delicious suffering.
Retention or Else
The bottom line of retention is that anyone can do it. Yes, it is terribly painful to retain a large enema for a long time, but anyone with normal control of their anal sphincter can do it provided the consequences of failure are sufficiently agonizing to motivate them to endure the suffering of retention. It may take some training on the consequences of failure, but your submissive can learn to hold an enema until their body completely absorbs the fluid. For most purposes, it is better to not take retention to such lengths, but to let them expel after they have held the enema through the heaviest of the cramping.
This kind of punishment is particularly effective for slaves who cry easily. As master, I can kiss away her tears and continually reassure her how much I love her. Here is the place for the cliche, "This hurts me worse than it hurts you." Warning. To sell her this, you've got to be the kind of salesman who could sell a milking machine to a farmer who only has one cow, and take the cow as a trade in, so practice your salesmanship
Here is the essence of DS play. It gives a couple an opportunity to work through psychological challenges the like of which they wouldn't see short of a death-bed scene in a daytime soap, only here it's not acting, but it's not death either. It's life. Abundant life for those who are willing to reach out and grab such a live wire.
Methods
As I'm sure you are seeing, the how of giving an enema can easily have more impact than the event itself. The basics of the procedure -- the injection of a fluid into the bowels for the purpose of cleansing -- are straightforward. It is the subtle twists in style that take enema play from a mundane and somewhat unpleasant hygienic routine into the realm of the most exotic of erotica.
Equipment
Every klismophile I know is an equipment freak. In this category, each individual is unique. For one, it may be the color and style of bag or type of nozzle that a loving mother or aunt used to cleanse them as a child. For others, it is size. Still others are excited and shamed when they see a table full of different gadgets to be used in enemaing them. The variety confirms their fascination with the procedure, which adds to their humiliation. Talk to your slave, and find out what makes them hot. Then keep their erotic thermostat cranked up to sweltering.
The Large Nozzle
Whether male or female, few enema submissives have missed the connection between the enema and anal intercourse. Using a large, dildo type nozzle really (you should pardon the pun) drives this point home. Let's just say that, properly applied, it will give a slave a deep-seated understanding of the feelings of being buggered. Thus, dildo nozzles are great for two uses. For the male slave with anal active desires, his mistress can show him what he's asking a woman to endure. Mistress, if you're a bit of a switch by nature, this can provide a delightful game of tit for tat. "First, let me do you. If you take your enema ass fucking without a whimper, I'll let you fuck me in me ass tonight."
Of course, whenever you use a real large nozzle, you want to use lots of active fucking into the slave's waiting rectum. You also need to know a thing or two about anal sex insertions, or this can rapidly move from hurts-so-good to truly unbearable pain. The anus must first be well lubricated. If your submissive would be turned on by it, you might force them to lube themselves again and again, making sure their greased finger slides well up into their rectum and that they properly spread the lubricant all over. It probably will require three or four separate applications to get this right. Have them start with one finger and work up to three or four to help stretch the anal opening. All the finger fucking loosens them and helps prepare them for the bigger thing to come. When they are really greased and slippery, have them push the tip of the big nozzle against their anal opening and tell them to push out hard as if straining to shit. If they do so, a little gentle pressure on the nozzle will sink it right in with a minimum of pain.
Of course, some pain is part of the target. The more their anus clamps down -- opposite of pushing out -- the more the insertion will hurt. But the pain of anal rape is almost impossible to describe, and way off the scale of what most slaves will find to be a turn on.
The Diaphragm Pump
Get a small diaphragm pump run by a 12 volt battery. You want one with a flow rate between 4 to 20 gallons per hour when pumping into a 6 foot static-head. The lower number will deliver a 2 quart enema in 7.5 minutes. The high-end flow would cut that delivery time to 1.2 minutes, which is a pretty fast flow. For most folks, the slower rate is better. Such pumps can be purchased from large industrial-supply houses. Even if you haven't a clue about flow rates and static-head, the pump sales-staff will know what you're talking about. They will also ask what your application is, so be prepared with the stock line, "For obvious reasons, I will not divulge anything about the use." They'll assume you're an inventor with some new secret, and generally drop the 20 questions routine.
Mistresses, this is a particularly effective treatment for a horny male klismo, because the vibrations in the water, the back and forth spurting action produced by the diaphragm stroke, delivers vibrator-like stimulation to the male prostate. Most males, if already sufficiently hot, will experience an incredible, very long lasting orgasm before they get the first two quarts in them.
Female slaves are less physically, but often more emotionally attached to this style of enema. The rectum is rather rich in nerves when compared to the deeper reaches of the vagina. Most women cannot feel the ejaculate spray into their pussy during ordinary intercourse. Anal is different. Most women can feel each spasmodic spurt up their bowels. The feeling is utterly unique and exciting, because she really can feel every rapid, rhythmic squeeze of her lover's internal muscles as they spurt his love juice deep in her ass. The diaphragm-pump enema will remind any anal-erotic woman of this feeling, but the waves of cum spurting into her will just go on and on. The water flowing deeper and deeper into your intimate recesses is like a cock going in and just pushing further and further till your entire being is filled with hot sex. Use a dildo nozzle or strap-on as the delivery vehicle to complete the analogy.
The Strap-On Dildo Nozzle
This is the perfect enema for a boyfriend that is always wanting to fuck his lady in the ass. She gets a chance to teach him what it feels like. It can be a great sensitivity training tool in the need to hold back instead of just ramming a hard dick up her nether hole. If he's ever done that to you, and left you doubled over in cramps to your anal muscle, do him the same way. He will not only suffer exquisite pain, he'll catch on to the need to let you sit back onto his erection instead. He'll be much less likely to just ram it home in the future if he knows he'll get a double dose of the same for each transgression.
Properly arranged, a strap on can be set up so each stroke gives your pussy and clit enough stimulation that you can eventually cum just from fucking him with it. You can find specialty nozzles like this through equipment suppliers like Beth Tyler.
The Pump Nozzle
This is the master's counterpart of the strap-on dildo. It takes quite a bit of ingenuity to construct. It is a condom covered by a second condom with a rather heavy covering of latex. The two condoms are sealed together at their bases. There is a small hole in the outer, latex-covered condom right where your pee hole would be. The base of the outer condom has a connection for an enema tube to attach. You will need to purchase a small, low-pressure check valve suitable in size to fit in-line in the enema tubing. Then attach the dildo to a short length of hose, on which goes the standard hose clamp. Next, attach the check valve set to allow flow toward the nozzle. Then more tubing, and finally the enema bag.
You will need to slide this device over your flaccid cock, then have her tease you to a powerful erection. Lube her rear very liberally. Use the slow approach to insertion, making sure she controls the rate and she pushes out as if trying to shit your dick out of her as she sits back onto it. Wait till she is really comfortable and ready for you to begin stroking into her, then open the hose clamp and begin to stroke. The water inflates the space between the two condoms. Each back stroke lessens the pressure and permits some water to flow in inflating the size of the instrument boring into her core. Each forward stroke increases the pressure, but the check valve prevents the water from flowing back up the hose. Instead, a stream of water spurts out of the small hole in the nozzle's end. Stroke after stroke she gets pumped fuller. The water surrounding your cock cuts the stimulation to the point you can pump into her until her own movements in orgasm take you over the top.
Not an easy one to set up, but definitely worth the bother.
Setting
The where and when of a punishment enema can often have just as much emotional impact as the event itself. Don't believe it? Imagine you are the star of a documentary on dominance and submission, and the scene calls for you to take a huge enema in the before a sell-out audience at Carnegie Hall.
Sexy settings are great
Sexy settings are the best. Mistresses, how about having a group of friends over to a lingerie party and let them watch your submissive get a large enema. Want to make it worse on him. Require him to expel it in the presence of the crowd.
Want a cruel twist. Pass out gas masks to your lady friends so they don't have to inhale the offal. He must stand there in front of this crowd and enema himself as they sit, spread-legged with nothing on but sexy undies and gas masks. They can have a great time masturbating to the spectacle he is providing.
You might want to make him tell the whole crowd how much he loves it when you enema him each night before bed, and how he will do anything you ask of him so long as you keep him as your enema slave. Have him answer all the girl's questions about how the process feels to him.
Medical Settings
Masters, how about an examining table, your sub in the stirrups, and a gathering of "med students" around to learn the proper method for inserting and using an inflatable balloon retention catheter. Each can take turns putting it in her, inflating it, deflating it and withdrawing it. This, of course, requires that she be thoroughly cleaned out first, so no little flecks of brown come back out with the catheter. After each has had a turn penetrating her pretty bottom, you, the Specialist, step forward to impale her and fill her with hot fluid. This setting also provides an excellent opportunity to teach the med students how to handle things if a patient becomes sexually aroused during an extended enema procedure.
If you want, you may hand over control of the clamp to one of the students, and step to the head of the table where she can give you head. You then issue voice commands to the med student in charge of the clamp, telling him when to start and stop her enema based on how well she sucks your cock.
The Walk in the Park
There is an almost pregnant look that comes with the stomach distention caused by a large enema. For female subs, this can be fun. Get her some maternity clothing. On days when she's been bad, have her strip butt naked. Give her a series of cleansing enemas to prepare her. Finish by pumping her up with at least three quarts of water. Push a large butt plug in to hold all that water in her swollen belly. Now put a sanitary napkin belt and a Kotex on her to hold everything in its appointed place, then dress her in a maternity outfit. Go for a walk in the park. How long a walk? Depends on how bad she's been.
Smile to everyone. Hold hands and discuss the plans for the new baby's room. Will it be a boy or a girl?
The Go-Go Bar Enema.
This one takes a bit of preparation, but the results are definitely worth the effort. You first modify an inflatable double balloon retention catheter by removing the balloon-inflation bulbs, sliding enema-hose clamps onto the two inflation tubes, and then replacing the inflation bulbs. Use hose clamps that snap tightly shut, with no chance of inadvertently opening. You'll see why in a moment.
On the delivery tube of the inflatable balloon retention catheter, place another of your trustworthy hose clamps, and position it near the end of the tubing away from the balloons. Before inserting the catheter in the slave, fill its delivery tubing with warm water and close the clamp on the delivery hose.
For discussion, let's say I have a female submissive who's rather fascinated by the antics of the Chippendale's men. The idea here is this. I insert the inflatable balloon retention catheter into the my slave's ass in normal fashion. I inflate first the inner and then the outer balloons. Now, I clamp the hose clamps on the inflation hoses and remove the inflation bulbs. With adhesive tape, I secure the delivery hose so it feeds up the crack of her ass to near the small of her back. About 2 inches below her waistline, I turn the delivery tube and tape it to her flanks so that, when I slip a loose skirt on her, the end of the hose and its clamp are just poking out of the top of her skirt on her side. It is best to put a pair of loose fitting panties on her, and protect them with a panty liner. Otherwise, she will probably have a big wet spot on the back of her skirt before her pussy stops juicing this evening. I complete the ensemble by putting a loose fitting blouse on her, one that does not tuck in at the waist, but hangs down and covers her feed tube.
Now, all dolled up like this, I take her to her favorite male strip club to see (and feel) the excitement. In her purse, I have hidden a small rectal syringe. Periodically, as the show raises her temperature, I send her to the ladies room with instructions to fill her rectal syringe with warm water and bring it back to our table. I have chosen a booth in a more private area of the club. Under the cover of the table I lift her blouse to expose her feed tube. The rectal syringe will fit perfectly into the catheter end. With a room full of people swirling around her and a sexy hunk shaking his buns seductively before her eyes, I will pump bulb-full after bulb-full of warm water into her bowels.
When she is so bloated that she is tearfully begging to be allowed to expel, I will threaten to make her do it here in the women's room, but I will not. I will lovingly lead her to the car, kissing her and nuzzling her neck all the way. I will take her home where she can finally expel this massive load without further embarrassment. And, all the way, I will tell her what a wonderful, sexy submissive she is to have endured this treatment.
Self Administered
It is often more degrading to the sub to be compelled to enema themselves before the dom than to have the procedure forced upon them. At least, when the enema is given by another, the sub can rationalize that they are being compelled to take it. When they fill the bag, kneel humbly at my feet, and enema themselves for my pleasure, they are admitting that they wish to please, and are willing to do painful, degrading things to themselves for my gratification. They are also demonstrating that they are an enema lover.
Submission to a Submissive
Perhaps the ultimate humiliation for a slave is to have to submit to another submissive. The imagination is the limit on ways this can be done.
Enema that Slave for Me
The slave can be required to submit to enemas given by another submissive. I can order my sub to help me with the dirty parts on enemaing another slave. Depending on the balance of sexes involved, a number of dynamics can be tapped. The jealousy factor can come into play powerfully here. Also, homophobia can be exploited to the advantage of the punishment, but you must really know your slave's psyche to play this card.
Using a Slave as an Enema Bag
If both subs are absolutely free from disease (as proven by current testing) you can use one of them as the container to bring the water to the other. In advance, you must prepare a 6 foot long section of large diameter tube by rounding and smoothing both ends.
When E day arrives, you first clean "the bag" out enough to get rid of all the solid wastes. You give "the bag" a large enema. Then position the bag slave at least 3 feet above the receiving slave. You then insert the large-diameter tube in both, open the clamp, and let the transfer take place.
The Teeter-Totter Enema
This one is great for doms who have a male and a female slave. The teeter-totter enema is not one for beginners. All parties must be experienced in enema technology. A grasp of particle physics and a certain degree of lunacy are additional prerequisites. You will also need two inflatable double balloon retention catheters connected by about 6 feet of tubing. And finally, you must own or build a teeter totter.
Here's how it works. First, both slaves must be enemaed till they run clear. Best is to have them do this work for you, under your close scrutiny to assure proper workmanship is followed throughout. With their innards emptied, you carefully put them in bondage on a see-saw, both slaves lying on their backs with feet toward the center of the teeter totter and roughly balanced about its axis.
Now, toss a coin and have them call to see who goes first. The winner gets one of the inflatable double balloon retention catheters stuffed into their anus. For the moment, remove the inflatable double balloon retention catheter from the opposite end of the hose and connect it instead to a large-volume enema bag. Enema the slave that won the toss with a good three to four quarts. As their internal cavity fills with water, they become heavier and the teeter-totter dips downward at their end, putting their head below their bowels so they can fill really well. When they are full, temporarily clamp off the hose, then remove the bag from it and attach it back on to the other slave's inflatable double balloon retention catheter. Push this inflatable double balloon retention catheter into the upper slave's ass, then open the hose clamp.
In order to empty the enema, the bottom slave must push hard enough to force their water up into the empty slave. If the teeter-totter is arranged so that the upper slave's bowels are no more than 1 foot to 18 inches above the lower slave's, then the expulsive force of the large enema will be sufficient to allow this. The upper slave must relax and accept what the lower slave pushes into them. At some point, half the huge enema is in each, and the teeter-totter swings level, then downward in the other direction, making it far easier for enemaee number 1 to empty their enema-swollen guts into their waiting partner.
This dance can be greatly enhanced by sexual teasing of the two enemates. If they are orally inclined, let only to one who is down lick you. Use whatever turns them on, but always the benefit goes to the one on the low end of the teeter-totter. Work them this way until they are both exhausted from the considerable exertion involved.
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Footnotes
Water -- The Solution to Enema Happiness
One note; Throughout this discussion, I'll talk about plain tap-water enemas. For most people, these seem to work fine. However, some folks are particularly good at absorbing water through their colon. If your slave complains of light headedness after one or more enemas, try this. For each quart of water used, add one tablespoon of baking soda and a teaspoon of salt. The salts bring the solution close to the salt content of the blood, and thereby essentially cancel the body's tendency to absorb the water by osmosis. While this should limit any absorption of the salts (sodium compounds) wisdom would suggest not using this with someone on a sodium-restricted diet.
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How Big is Big
The first important point to recognize in discussing large-volume safety is that human capacities vary widely. Each person has their own safe limit. Everyone needs to develop an inner sense of what feels OK and what hurts. When going for high volumes, it is vital not to obstruct the rectal sphincter. You should not use a retention nozzle or mammoth plug to let you stuff more inside than safety warrants. The average human develops pressures of 50 PSI in their colon during normal peristaltic action to move feces along the colon. Pressures nearing this level would normally just blow past a normal enema or douche nozzle, protecting the colon from excessive inflation. However, if you blocked up the escape route and deliberately poured in more than the body could stand, you could rupture their intestines and this would probably be fatal!
Is Four Quarts Safe?
I have taken 4 or more on many occasions, and have done no damage. Typical adult capacities vary between 3.5 to 6 quarts. To take this much, it is necessary to first clean out the lower intestines with a standard 2 quart enema, then take a second 4 quart or so to clean the large and small intestines. (Anything over about 2 quarts generally goes above the large intestine into the upper, small intestinal tract) Finally, go for the real volume on # 3.
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Who's On First?
If your knowledge of SM/DS sex comes mainly from popular literature or porno novels, you probably see all masters as born dominants, overflowing with control and confidence at best, reeking of sadistic cruelty at worst. Granted there are plenty of people who fit both these molds. They are not the mainstay of DS life, however. Most really good Tops start at the bottom and work their way up. They are individuals with a strong submissive streak who have learned to sublimate their own desires in favor of the pleasure they can bring another. Such a Top will be fully able to understand the bottom's complex psychology and empathize with their need both for safety and for an almost unsafe level of pain. Tops who are true sadists sometimes fall victim of unbridled lust and take things too far. We hear of such sessions occasionally when a scene ends in tragedy. Switches, submissives who have learned to play the dominant role, don't fall victim to such urges.
Note that this entire discussion deals with the D and s relationship as if it were static. In other words, it speaks of Dom and sub as if they are always played by the same individual, and there must always be one and the other in a pair. Actually, two switches can have an ideal relationship. At times, they may choose to play out a scenario where one takes the dominant and the other the submissive role. At other times, they may both fill both roles. For instance, the couple go 69 and just hold their mouths on their lover's genitals without any motion, then each drives a dildo nozzle in and out of their honey's rectum to produce the rhythmic stirring that finally takes them both over the top into an enormous climax.
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Enema-Nausea Tips
It is best if she is lying down for this procedure. Position her comfortably on her right side with her lower leg bent at the knee. Be sure to have her head near the edge of the bed and a bucket ready for when she begins vomiting. Tell her in advance what is going to happen and caution her not to make any sudden moves to jump up once she is fully distended with 5 to 6 quarts of enema water in her.
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Caution: Slippery When Wet
Don't overuse soapy enemas. They are fine if done once a month or so. Too often, and the intestines become so desensitized to ordinary stimuli that the massive irritation of the soapy enema becomes the only thing that will get the bowels to move. Use plain soaps such as Ivory or a castille soap. Do not use harsh deodorant soaps or ones having lots of chemical additives. Also, after giving a soapy enema, you must give one and preferably two clear-water enemas to rinse the soap out of the recipient's system. Hey, that's part of the fun of soapy enemas in the first place.
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Daily Flushings
Some experts warn that enemas taken too frequently can become habit forming. They are quite right. Other experts, however, argue that, while this is true, that habitual use of enemas may actually be good for both physical and sexual health, and should therefore not be discouraged. What's the bottom line. When it comes to D and s, an enema addicted bottom is a treasure. You can keep her seething in bodily awareness either through too much or too little in her enema routine. If you want to hear her beg to be enemaed, cut her daily enemas off for a few days and see that she gets plenty of gas producing foods like refried beans, cabbage, onions, etc. When she does plead with you for relief, make her agree to tackle some as-yet-unreached goal in her training.
Note that in this or any enema punishment, good enema practice is to be followed. Never start a session with a high-volume enema. Instead, flush the solid wastes from the colon first with a standard 2 quart filling using water no warmer than tepid.
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Where Does It All Go?
If you give a slave several decent size enemas, or even one enema that they must retain for a period of time, it is a safe bet they will soon need to pee. The entire intestinal tract is a very efficient water absorber. Use your creativity. Perhaps you can find interesting ways to work this knowledge into enema discipline and humiliation scenes. If your repertoire includes a love or Golden Showers, here is a perfect way to get a two-for-the-price-of-one bargain
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Anal Exercise 101
Anal exercises? Is this what they mean by anaerobics? Not exactly. You see, there is a set of muscles that support the pelvic floor. They go by the $5.00 word Pubococcygeous muscles. Most folks shorten it to PCG muscle. Some women may have heard of the Kegel exercises to strengthen these muscles. These exercises take their name from the late Arnold H. Kegel, M.D. who pioneered knowledge of the PCG's relationship to orgasmic function in women. Dr. Kegel showed that, in women who infrequently or never achieved orgasm through intercourse, a series of exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor would dramatically increase orgasmic response.
Even among people who know of the PCG's existence, the muscle is often ignored unless associated with women having orgasmic difficulties. Actually, this little knot of brawn serves numerous important duties in both men and women, and strengthening it will benefit almost anyone's sex life. The PCG muscles surround both the male and female genitalia and anal regions. The muscles spasm during orgasm in both sexes. And finally, of great importance to enema eroticism, they are a major player in the production of anal orgasms. This is because this muscle group is full of nerve receptors that become increasingly aroused by the sensations of anal penetration. Also, good PCG tone will enable your slave to reach new heights of enema retention.
To build up tone in the muscle, practice this exercise three times a day. Sit on the toilet to pee -- that's right, male or female, sit. As soon as you get a good rendition of Life's Golden Stream going, stop the flow. You just contracted your PCG muscle to avoid being called I. P. Freely. Now, start again and stop the flow. Begin with ten interruptions in one bladder emptying. Build up to where you can stop and start 30 times at one sitting. By this point, you know your PCG pretty well. You can contract it at will whether peeing or not. Ladies, you can use PCG contractions to massage your lovers cock while he holds still in your vagina. You will definitely set him free.
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WOMEN!!! Where are the FEMALES!!!
Attend a few chats on the undernet's IRC channel for enemaphiles and you're sure to encounter some guys who seem to be obsessed with chasing skirts. Two minutes in the chat with no females present and these characters go totally ballistic. As soon as a female or even an obvious male with a pretender screen name appears, they are on her like flies on shit. Of course, I'm not privy to everyone's motivations, but I'm observant enough to see that something is really driving these guys. I suspect that homophobia may be the seat of their obsessive need to chase the opposite sex. I mean, the natural urge to couple doesn't seem to explain it, cause their geeky behavior only chases women in one direction, and that's away. Could it be that they have made the connection with enema nozzles and buggery, and they are in a panic to convince themselves that they are not queer?
If you have a slave suffering from this syndrome, get him to talk through his homophobia and recognize that his love of enemas has nothing whatsoever to do with gender identification or choice in sex of a mate. He is a heterosexual guy who has discovered the quite normal male reaction to certain types of anal stimulation.
There are gay guys that have discovered the same thing. Enemas serve both gay and straight men and women equally well. I have never heard of enema sex causing either a hetero or homosexual person to change their sexual orientation, so the homophobes should just relax and enjoy the thing.