The first instances, of where I avoided a spanking when I should have really got one, were ones that I cannot even remember, myself; but have been told by my Mum, happened!
One incident was as follows: Me and my Mum had gone out somewhere and met a friend of my Mum's Mother (my Nana). For no reason I said to this Lady, "You stink you cow!" My Mum was really shocked and told me off but there was no spanking or punishment of any further kind!
Another case of me being rude to another Lady was this: again a friend of my Nana's gave me some socks as a Christmas present and I responded by saying; "what a boring present!" Again I think my Mother told me to be not so rude; but once again no spanking or further punishment!
The third incident that I want to cite happened as thus: We were driving home in the car of one of Mom's friends, when all of a sudden I opened the car door before the car had stopped! My Mum's friend understandably, out of concern and shock, shouted at me! My Mum instead of supporting her friend jumped to my defense and said, "come on Simon lets go!" and we promptly left the car! My Mum subsequently fell out with her friend! Again no spanking or further punishment!
My Mum once came out of a small shop only to discover, in my pushchair, a number of small items that I had taken from the shelfs in the shop without her knowing. To be fair she did take me back to the shop and make me hand the items back to the shopkeeper and he was very kind, telling me in a gentle way that stealing was wrong! There was no further punishment or spanking though! Do other Members think there should have been?
For part of my life when growing up, before I can remember anything, we lived in an apartment block with a couple of Scottish Families! The two other Mothers Christine and Jane were much stricter than my Mum! Many years later I remember My Mother telling me, she was not happy with me for some reason, I can't remember why, that she wished she had been a lot stricter with me when growing up - I would have been about 11 or 12 now- adding that I had not had enough 'good hidings' when I was younger! I should have been more like Christine and Jane she went on to say; "some of the hiding’s their kids used to get" I asked her, how did she know this? (That they got spankings) She replied, "because I would hear the screams!" (Obviously as they were being spanked!) I mention this because it provides a very localized example of the difference between my Mum's approach to discipline and that of a lot of, indeed, probably the majority of, other mums/dads back in those days!
Imagining, we are living in a parallel universe, it would be interesting to hear the opinions and views of other members concerning my experiences with or, in my case - lack of experiences with - spanking!
How would their mums/dads have dealt with my behavior if they had behaved like that!?
Or how would their parents have dealt with me if they had some sort of responsiblity for and authority over me!?
How would the members themselves have dealt with me if they had been my mum/dad!?
I fully understand if members do not want to respond to my questions for some reason; or are simply not interested in them!
I am simply 'testing the water!'