I’ve thought of this throughout the years. Does a person choose a particular kink like spanking or enemas or does it just happen, like the kink chooses you?
For myself I initially did not make any conscious choice of what was a turn on. Growing up I liked girls. They were a huge attraction from the age of 12 to the present. No kink just attracted to females.
But at about the same time I became fascinated and attracted to both spanking and enemas. (Other blog posts explain the how and why) I didn’t choose to become aroused by either, it just happened from things I saw or heard. (Again explained in earlier post)
It made me think that others experience the same regardless of the kink. It’s not like one looks at a menu of kinky fetishes and picks out a couple. Something leads to it that most likely is not a free choice. I got a desire for spanking after witnessing a neighbor spanking her daughter on her bare bottom. It didn’t feel like a choice. I got interested in enemas from hearing a mom talking about giving enemas to her daughters.
So I’ve come to believe the kink may pick you. Guys who are into womens shoes or wearing womens lingerie most likely didn’t simply choose it at random. Something led to it.
I will concede that I had a choice to further my interests in spanking and enemas. I could have denied or ignored the feelings I got or I could pursue them. I chose to pursue them.