I have thought a lot about this topic. It does not seem to be my strong suit. I hope that it is not perceived as a selfish character flaw. It is not just having an affair with two men simultaneously for sex. Each stimulates my mind and feed my curious nature.
When @geminitom and I first met I told him straight up that I had been having a love affair for twelve years and that I would not give him up. We talked about it and he was graciously accepting of the arrangement. It was a long distance relationship with only occasional visits. Exchanged letters that always included a fantasy or the telling about encounters with one of his local lady friends. He had a bevy of beautiful women in his life and I got to meet each one. He would not tolerate jealousy so he encouraged them to establish a level of friendship.
Tonight I am laying beside Tom and he is sleeping peacefully but my mind is filled with memories K and I had shared. I have some of his old journals that I revisited today. We always spent the week after Christmas together. Memories, photographs and those few journals are all that I have left of him. He died of colon cancer one month after his fiftieth birthday. I still miss him dearly. And another Chistmas without seeing this mischievous brown eyes, feeling his soft lips on mine, hearing his contagious laughter and laving together on a road trip so we could visit. My Tom shared me generously as long as I was home before New Years Eve.
He was the first lover that Tom gave sincere blessing for what we shared before Tom entered my life and my heart. He told me that K brought me happiness and he wanted me to change nothing.
There have been two more lovers. They came at different times.
One was younger than me by eleven years. I could not take my eyes off him! He is so sexy. We saw each other from across a crowded room and our eyes connected amd we both smiles warmly at the other. He ignited a sexual fire in me that I had never experienced prior or since. Tom and I were sitting together and tall dark and handsome came over to visit us. Before the evening was over we were all still together when I looked at my husband and asked Tom if I could keep him. The answer was yes. We are still friends but no longer lovers for we a geographically too far apart. We emailed each other several times a day when we were in lust. I shiver thinking about the things we did together. He was not shy in any way.
Lastly, there is a current man sharing parts of our life. He has been part of our life for 21 years. Sometimes we three travel together to remote and private places.
The thing all my men have in common is brilliant minds, tender hearts, a love of adventure and life, and they all likes me, desired me, and love me.
I am a vert lucky woman.