I was recently contacted by a new member who wanted advice as he started his medfet journey. I thought that would be a good blog post entry, so here's some of what I told him (plus anything else that comes to mind 😉).
Zity is a wonderland for those with a medical fetish (medfet). We have stories for those who like stories, we have galleries for those who love pictures, we have links sections for those who want new videos to watch, and we have chat rooms for people to interact with others who are kinky like them. The discussion boards are wonderful places to ask questions and gain knowledge, and then there are the blogs, PMs, and Chat Gram for other communications. To be a good functioning member here, I see 3 areas that key: medical knowledge, communication skills, and interpersonal skills.
- Medical knowledge: No, you don't need to go to medical school to be “successful” in medfet! A key aspect to medfet is understanding how and why something happens in a medical scenario. How does a blood pressure cuff work? What are they listening to when they have me take a deep breath? What are they feeling for when palpating? Being somewhat educated about what is going on will not only help you feel empowered about your own body and experiences, but also makes it more enjoyable when you have opportunity to chat about medfet, participate in an online roleplay, and perhaps even meet someone in person for play. There are myriad opportunities out there to learn from. Youtube has a crapload of medical teaching videos out there that cover the gamut of the human body. I would advise those over the porn videos from XHamster, lol! 😉
- Communication skills: Whether responding to an ad, a PM, or in chat, communication is important. After all, that is how we interact with each other! One of the easiest ways we can communicate with someone else here about who we are and what we like is our profile page. When someone has taken the time to fill out their profile page, you can learn so much about them! Write a good introduction about yourself! Fill out your interests section! And when you encounter someone for the first time, check out their profile. You might have friends and interests in common!
- Interpersonal skills: Some people look at this and roll their eyes, but hear me out. Who wants to deal with someone who is rude all the time? If you're in chat, be nice. Talk to the people there. Don't lurk! Understand that not every conversation will be about your, your favorite kink, or even about kink at all. Familiarize yourself with the Zity rules, especially what is not allowed… and abide by it! If you don't think a behavior would be allowed when you're with a group of friends in person, it probably won't be liked in chat.
Lastly, have fun! Meet people and chat politely. Listen and learn from others who have been involved in the medfet arena for several years. Ask questions. Don't expect to know everything from the start, because you won't. And know that even the “old hats” here still learn new things all the time.
I hope that helps!