When did the kinky thoughts begin?
I was recently talking to someone who offered the opinion that people who watch porn build up a tolerance and as a result desire more extreme experiences. I started to think about this since I have some interests that are outside the mainstream and began thinking about whether my medfet kinks evolved due to porn-watching habits I picked up as an adult.
Honestly, I think they were always there--or at least the basis for the desire for kinkier, relatively more extreme forms of play. When I first started having obsessive thoughts about sex, CMNM play was always a constant--such as me in front of classmates or an authority figure. Bondage, but to a very minor degree. (I remember enjoying the idea of other men being restrained while they had their dicks milked.) I liked the idea of bodily orifices below the neck being plugged or played with in some way. And, of course, there was the fixation on my annual physicals between the power dynamics, the confused rush of feelings by being touched by another man, the tease of having my genitals felt up when I really wanted a lot more attention to be paid down there.
So, when I was old enough and had my own internet connection to browse around as I wanted, it was kind of mind blowing to find that people out there were already into similar things. (Confirmation bias at its best, right?) In some ways, my interests expanded into more extreme territory--electro play and a curiosity about urethral play--but in the main, I don't think my interests have changed all that much. I'm still interested in simple CMNM medical play where I have my body thoroughly worked over by an attentive, dominant man. (And I've also done JO parties, living out that fantasy of being naked in front of a group--and I really enjoyed it.) I've certainly been in moods where I sought out more extreme stuff to watch, but in the main, I can't say I've ever wanted to act out on those fantasies. There's always the rare exception where I think, "Yeah, I'd try it if the conditions were 100% perfect--but even then, I'm not gung ho about diving in and trying it.
While I think my sexual tastes were more or less baked in, is that the case for others?
Comments
Edevotee 2 weeks ago
No, watching porn does not cause us to become more extreme in our interests IMHO. Sure it stimulates your interests, that's obvious. The real cause of our evolution in kink is human curiousity. The same facet of our being that takes us into space, the bottom of the oceans and makes life generally interesting for us.
Imagine how boring it would be if everyone was missionary position, sexually vanilla, monogamous etc. We live in an interesting world in all sorts of ways. Fetishes help make it a bit more so.
submissivepatient 3 weeks ago
Hello and a fine question.
My personal experiences are similar started in childhood. Like you I thought I was the only one with such strange desires. Porn or the internet made my desires less extreame. Once I found others with like fetish desires. I was astounded to find so many. And found my fetish fell in line with that of others. Maybe it was just to be able to experience them. No porn did not make me a pervert but less of one.