I feel really disappointed and disturbed. I have so many questions in mind. And this is the only place I feel is correct to post my such thoughts.
Is it bad for kids (girl and boy) to play doctor?
What's so bad if a 8 year old boy raises clothes of 6 year old sister while playing doctor game?
They are kids who are curious, being different genders. Their bodies are different. Why can't they be permitted to raise clothes and see the others body to calm down the curosity. What's wrong if they raise clothes and play doctor. Why is it a taboo. They see that when they go to a doctor, the doctor raises their top to examine or bottoms get pulled down for injection. So they feel it's ok.
It's the parents duty to explain what a child is allowed to do in a doctor game and what's not allowed. And children should be taught to follow it. Else parents should not get a doctor set for children.
That's why my mom let me play doctor with friends freely. With top raised and even pajama off at times. She was of the opinion that if I don't allow freely she will hide and do it and maybe even harm self.
This is what I saw today.
I was working when my neighbors came and said they were going to get food supplies would back soon. Kids are home, playing. I just keep eye on the door. I was ok with it. I also kept my main door open. I heard them leaving.
After about 15-20 minutes kid came running. He said his sister was crying. He was very scared. I ran with him thinking that she might have fallen or something.
But I was surprised. He took me to his room. His 6 year old sister was on bed completely naked faced down She was bleeding little in the behind. I saw doctor set game ,toy injection and a small sewing needle (must have picked up from somewhere in the house) I immediately understood the whole thing. The boy had given the girl an 'injection' and the poor girl had gotten unconscious from pain. All this in absence of parents because they may have put restrictions on raising clothes and playing.
I immediately called the gyn over phone. It took her 5 minutes to come from her flat. Meanwhile I turned the girl to one side and sprinkled water, rubbed her chest and back. I was counting. She gained consciousness in 90 seconds but she was in pain obviously. I was unsuccessfully trying to calm her down.
Once the gyn came she took care while I informed kids' parents and mine. My parents were out to get things too.
The gyn said that luckily the injury was superficial. She had cleaned the girl by then and also helped her with wearing her top. Her parents also came. They had brought pain killer and tetanus injection as advised. She would have given the injection. I came back from there after her parents came.
After some time I heard the parents scolding. I knew this would happen. I saw from eye hole of the door, the mother was dragging the naked boy in the corridor. He was crying and apologizing. She asked him to stand outside and closed the door.
I wanted to open my door and yell at the mother and the father. Had they educated the children about what they can do playing doctor and let them play freely today's incident wouldn't have taken place
But I thought this would mess things up so I just opened the door and calmed the boy down. I rang doorbell of his house. His mother immediately opened. He said sorry again, to his parents and to the young sister. She was obviously angry with the brother.
But at least in front of me his mother forgave him and he went inside to wear clothes. I came back after that. When they got back, I immediately gave my mother a hug for letting me explore myself freely as a kid. I told her everything. Mom praised for what I did.
But despite the hug I still have anger against the neighbors which I couldn't tell mom about.
After reading this, do you think it's right to make playing doctor a taboo for kids? Was it right to punish the boy in similar fashion? I think he is scared for lifetime now
What do you think about the whole situation
Good thing is, the girl is not injured seriously. But I still am very angry about the whole thing.