It's been one year since my wife of 32 years passed away from pancreatic cancer. I've had help grieving helping a friend with her grieving for her parents. Together we have been helping each other by talking and listening and helping to bring emotions to the surface so they can come out and help us become less stressful.
She can tell when I am stressed and need to bring the emotions up to get rid of the stress. That is done with an old fashioned bare bottom spanking. Before or after my shower I get undressed and lean over the bed. With my bottom sticking up and out, she will start with the 4 fingered tawse and give me ten on each cheek. She will put that down and then pick up the wooden spoon and give each cheek another hard ten swats which made my tush tingle. After putting that down she would pick up the oak paddle. By the time she reaches twenty I have been reduced to tears flowing down my face. I would cry for a good ten minutes or more while she gently rubbed my back and bottom round and round telling me to let it all out. In another five minutes or so I would finally calm down enough to get up and take a drink of water. This scene took place several times during the year. I expect it to continue to take place many more times in the years ahead. I do feel better once it is over so I know they are working.