For parents of AB/TB/DL children

I have from time to time tried to offer advice to those who are looking for it when they find their kids are ab/tb/dl, but the idea of a case by case way of trying to help is not very efficient to say the least, so i have decided to offer advice and ideas as well as warning in a blog form so hopefully it will reach those who are looking. I do this because yesterday on an online poll site i know that i go to from time to time (because they are custom, the site is free, and if you register only you can see who voted which way, but anyone can see how many vote for each option, but not see any typed in answer for essay style or fill in the blank, those are for your eyes only) but the poll was from a parent, who found their child was abdl, and when going to talk to them about it found them in a diaper drinking from a bottle, and also knows the child wants to be babied and said they want to teach the child a lessen. the child is listed as 18 by the way.

But on to the poll and my issue with it, i vote and pretty much was full against EVERY idea. the parent said i want to teach my kid a lesson and made a poll of idea on how to teach the lesson, including making them go diapered 24/7, having to use them mashing their food feeding them making a highchair with restrains and turning their bed into a top cot so they cant get out, as well as the child has locking plastic panties and the poll asks if they should be locked or not. But those werent even the worst questions or idea. It also asks if they should be forced to only wear their AB clothes, and probably the 2 worst, holding the child to a bedtime regiment like that of the parents 2 year old, and the worst you are wondering. SHould the parent make the child go to the same nursery as the 2 year old, and apparently the nursery already said they would take the 18 year old and treat them like the rest of the kids there.

Now i ask to ALL the ABs, does that sound like punishment to you, or with your AB side, if you were 18 and your parents didd all that to you would you like it. one thing it doesnt mention is if the child uses the diapers or just wears them, if the child just wear, or only wets, you could get the child to start messing by choice with these ideas.

Now for my advice section.

If you find your child is ad/tb/dl (adult baby/ teen baby/ diaper lover) the first thing you need to be aware of, is if you make an issue out of it chances are they will be MORE likely to continue. Plus look at it this way, out of all the things they could get into, diapers and baby items are neither illegal, or dangerous. Your best bet to deal with it is to talk to your child about it, try to find out how they started and why they like it. PLus it will work out better between you and your kids IF you listen (i cant stress this enough, most parents dont listen to what their kids have to say about thing that the parents dont agree with or dont understand)

I am admittedly DL, and sadly to many assessments of ABDL consider it a fetish or sexual thing, however for me they are NOT, they are stress and anxiety relief, when I wear and wet, i feel in a better mood, i seem happier and i feel and people can tell my stress level is lower.

Now after you have ACTUALLY discussed, (and i dont mean you tell them you dont like it and want them to stop) then you discuss rules for it, allow them to do it, but under certain guidelines. Example can include:

Diapers are only allowed at home when no guests are there.

AB cloths and other baby items while in your room only (tell them you prefer them dressed their age at dinner)

Let them know that if they want diapers, THEY must buy them with THEIR money. (and offer an allowance for good grades and daily and weekly chores, you may see grade improvements)

Also the "not with guests" rule, let them know that IF they are willing to tell their friends, IN YOUR PRESENCE, about their diapers and that they like them ( they must be honest about why they wear and use if they use) But make it understood that their friends are not allowed to partake of this without their parents permission, and let them know that the permission must be either in person or over the phone, no notes, and the punishment for breaking this rule is being grounded, notifiying the friends parents (which includes letting them know your rules and that your child is being punished for breaking it) as well as not allowing the friend back until you and the firends parents agree to allow it (minimum 1 month)

They are to learn to do their own laundry. (leaks happen, and if they use reusable products, they should learn to care for and clean them themselves.)

Allow them if they want to dress in ab clothes to bed to do so.

Also set rule for using their diapers (if they do that) such as wetting only, or you can allow them to mess once a week or something, But i would say, do NOT say no using (they are likely to use as a form of rebellion)

The next set of ideas are based on the idea they have been following the rules you set in place for it for a while, the way i see it is as they get older you should allow them more freedoms:

Allow them to reveal their choices for diapers or AB items to family (infront of you of course)

Allow them to partake of this at a friends house (require discussion with friends parents, and friends parents MUST give permission. Their house so if they say no you say no)

These ideas are a starting set, but they cover a lot.

Now with all this being said, i hope that those that read this, (and i give permission to do so) copy and post this on ANY AB/TB/DL they know. I do have a couple requests, I will be signing this (sort of) i ask you leave that on there. I ask that when you post it elsewhere you and a form of signature yourself. And if you are copy and posting a copy, you leave the signatures of those who copied it before you. I think it would be interesting to see this posted on a site in a few months with a decent number of signature of those who agree and passed this on.

Signed and written by Psykira/Janessa

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