I've been asked, in the past and just recently, what I look for in an individual. Well I am attracted to those that can command the attention of a room without raising a voice. Having the look of someone who could be in complete control if the need arose. Those that I ignore completely are the ones that have to use loud voices and sway back and forth while speaking and having the need to use tons of hand gestures to make a point.
Oh yes, and if your drawers are below the curve of your ass... I'm not interested. Period.
Some might say I enjoy those that are stoic. Yeah that's a good word.
Now if I am "Hunting" that might be a different issue.
I have to say that I am most drawn towards oriental women. Chinese, then Japanese, then Korean. I tend to avoid Philipenio (spelling issues today) women. Just too loud most of the time. I like Latin women and Black women as well. But not in any intended order White women. I tended not to be drawn to blond women. More brunettes and other red heads. But I never completely ignore anyone because I might get surprised.
Now to the topic at hand.
A couple of years ago I was at one of my favorite watering holes in Chicago when I saw this beauty walk in. She was Black and very tall and very slim. Her features were more European (Scotty Pippen type) high cheek bones and narrow sharp nose. She was almost 6'2" in heels and very slim. Maybe 105 lbs. But not scrawny at all. Nice form and shape.
She approached the bar and took a seat and wasn't in any hurry. She wasn't looking for anyone. So I drifted up to order a drink. I engaged her with some light conversation and then went back to my seat. I observed her for several minutes. I decided on my next trip to the bar to invite her to join MA and I. I did and she accepted.
The conversation was light but throughout it I learned that she had pretty much had it with being touched and hit on but everyone. She had no need for race of jive guys or the self important ones either. She was tired of the White guys in the suits that were obviously married asking her to dinner and the like. And the Arab guys just made her feel creepy.
I smiled and just let her rant.
MA took the cue and ventured off to hit on a couple attorneys that she knew and this just left me and .. we shall call her Pam.. Pam to talk. She was about three large drinks in and she mentioned she wondered what it would be like to be on a real date. I asked her to give me her phone number and I would call her and ask her out on a real date.
Her eye brows raised and I smiled. She told me she wasn't gay. I smiled and told her that I was BI/Lesbian but if she wanted a real date she should think it over. I gave her my number and told her when she was ready give me a call.
It took a month, but she did call. And it did take four dates but I did ... wait for it... I did score. I didn't dominate this one. Just showed her a real good time. We talk now and then and every now and then she calls wanting a real date. It's all cool and she is still one fine woman. And I highly approve of her and her attitude and view on life.
So a word to those who are interested any thing worth having is worth waiting for. Just be patient. And good things will happen.