If it's one thing I can't stand...

If there’s one thing I can’t stand…

It’s a liar. I’m a big girl now, and I’m fully aware that there are some people that just can’t tell the truth. I was married to one of them. Believe me when I say I get it. I even understand white lies that are told to spare someone’s feelings. I get that too, because I’ve done it.

What I don’t understand is people that tell “whoppers”. For instance, this happened to a friend of mine several years ago; he had made contact with a woman online. He’s a fetishist and thought he had come in contact with a potential play partner. They were in contact for several months, spoke on the phone, and finally made plans to meet. About a week before he was supposed to fly to meet her, he received a lengthy email from a “friend” of hers that informed him of her recent, sudden demise. Certainly, these things do happen, sometimes our timing is just really bad. Imagine my friend’s surprise, however, when he was on another fetish forum several months later and found the same person, using the same handle, from the same location, and with the same fetishes. What are the chances? He says he wishes he could check IP addresses because he wagers they are the same.

Interestingly, I’ve had the same experience. And I have to wonder, how bad things have to get that a person feels they have to commit “cyber-suicide". I know that we form some very meaningful relationships on forums like this and that we feel that we come to “know” people, but do we, really? I know that in the situation that I experienced that there was a serious ongoing mental disease process and that this particular writer couldn’t control his/her actions without medication. I’m not so much upset for my own sake as I am for many others that were caught up in a vortex of lies.

I suppose it never occurs to the people that tell such lies that they hurt others and they make it difficult for us to trust again, even in an online environment. I suspect that there is a pathology that makes some liars immune to the hurt they are causing and to any guilt that a “normal” persona might have.

In the end, it’s just another lesson that LadyDoc has learned.