One year on....

.... and I didn't expect to be feeling like this!

Yes folks - it is one year to the day since I discovered Zity (though it took me 3 days to find my way out of the library and get around to registering, so I have not quite been a member for a year yet), and I am about 30 years the wiser for it, especially when it comes to kink. So why 'and I didn't expect to be feeling like this'?

Well, when I first discovered Zity I was (like many people I suspect) like the proverbial 'kid in a candy store'. It was my first contact with the kink community. For the first time in my life I was not alone in my thoughts and feelings, not the only one any more. Those were heady days, but like all kids who stay in candy stores for any length of time, it eventually started to feel 'ordinary', even 'normal', and for the last couple of months I have not been feeling at all kinky; Or may be I have? It's possibly part of what happens when being kinky feels 'normal'. Certainly for me it is part of a normal cycle of feeling kinky and then not feeling that way for a while (yes, I have been through the 'throwing away my 'toys'' several times in my lifetime). This time seems to have lasted longer than other times, but maybe it just seems that way because I now know I am not alone in my kinks, and I spend much of my day most days chatting to the friends I have made through the site (though usually about anything other than kink). Indeed the principal reason why it has taken me most of the day to get around to writing this blog entry is because I have spent most of it chatting to friends I met through the site - in fact I am chatting to 2 as I type this!!

And (never started a paragraph with 'and' before as far as I can recall 😉 ) that is another reason why 'I didn't expect to be feeling like this' - when I found Zity, I never expected to find such a strong sense of community, of belonging, certainly never expected to make so many good friends whose real lives and troubles actually matter to me. In one short year Zity really has revolutionised my life, in so many ways... I'm so glad I stumbled upon this site!