B...as in Big, Bad Bitch...yep! That's me, well at least that is what my daughter-in-law thinks of me lately.
You see, I asked something simple, a cell phone Bill payment.
My son, daughter-in -law and my toddler granddaughter moved in with me in February. They were in a Bit of a Bind and I offered to take them in Rent free, no utitlities, what more could they ask for? Well, there was the tiny little matter of continuing to pay their half of the rather large cell phone Bill I receive each month. Each adult on the plan, and there are 4, are expected to pay their fair share each month. I faithfully pay it Because it is a priviledge I hold dear. (Yes, I am slightly addicted to my iPhone But who's counting)
They had been paying all along, so I thought nothing of it. Then they got lazy. First one quit their job then the other, Before long they were Becoming Big mooches and not lifting a finger around the house, not paying a single Bill and NOT paying their cell phone Bill! This went on for a couple of months and while I understand hardship, there is an end to my seemingly endless patience.
I asked nicely the first few times then it came down to kindly worded threats. Pay the Bill or the phones go Bye Bye!
Next I tried setting a deadline and this actually worked and I received a payment, Begrudgingly, but I received one. I also was "Banned" from the grandbaby. Now, keep in mind they LIVE IN MY HOME! So imagine how this is supposed to work....
Two weeks later, I asked for another small payment to pay down the ever-increasing Balance (now over $450). Well this time I was greeted with threats and ugly words via text message. But, instead of responding in kind to the threats, I simply stated what the terms were if they wanted to keep the phone service going, they simply needed to abide by the terms.
This turned into name calling and personal threats on the part of my daughter-in-law and of course, Facebook entries were firing quickly on her end. I do need to mention we are NOT Facebook friends and for several very good reasons. However, I do have other friends who are unfortunately exposed to her vile and ugly spouts of venom every time she is upset with someone. (She is one for whom Facebook has taken on the form of therapy.)
I find this rather amusing, I use Facebook to connect with old classmates, current friends and family and to share funny things that happen throughout my week (sometimes day). Occasionally, I will ask a question or ponder some thoughts or just ask for a quick prayer on my own Behalf but I do NOT use it to try to hurt people.
The ugliness continued to spin out of control and since I have ALL the control in this situation (i.e. my cell phone plan, my house) I chose to exercise some of that control and finally do some well-needed house cleaning and Butt-kicking!
I told them they were no longer welcome in my home and that they needed to move their things immediately. I called for someone to come and change my locks and I then turned off the service to BOTH their cell phones. I made a report to the local police in case she decides to damage my property and after completing all my tasks, I climbed off my Broom, poured myself a glass of Dr. Pepper and settled in to watch a favorite movie Before Bed. I am quite proud of myself for finally taking the Bull by the horns and dealing with "the Bully".
I've been doing this a lot lately. Hmmmm....I kind of like this "empty nest" thing and checking one thing more off my midlife crisis to do list! In the words of James Brown....another B word...I Feel Good!