I have had a lover of eleven years. We see each other 3-5 times a year with three being the norm. It is a sanctioned affair. We have all known each other for about 20 years. There was several years of flirting and teasing/taunting the other......I finally took the initiative and called him. He is so much more educated than I that it intimidated me at first. He reassured me that I was brilliant in ways that most people never get a chance to know and that is embracing life and doing what I want to do. He called it street smarts which initially got my red headed temper in a lather. But, he added that it was not that I was uneducated, it is that I had been under-educated.... and, since I have been an avid reader all my life that I am also self educated.
When I met my husband he was my boss. He rescued me. Really long story here about how one's life can be totally screwed when survival panic sets in especially when you have "cubs" to protect. When he first interviewed me I myself believed that maybe I was in a break down. But the interviews went well and he hired me. He has told me often that he saw fire within me and a determination to succeed. He said he also noticed me as a woman and lusted for me from the first day.
He is a very understanding man. I told him from the beginning that I did not particuarly thrive in monogamy. Afterall one does not partake in a buffet and only choose one item.
I am very very excited at this time for I am in count down mode until I see my lover again. This time he is coming to me and my part of the country. So, we invited hubby to join us. It's fair to do so once in awhile. He is so generous in understanding that this is my kink and he has his own kind of kink; so we support each other in the pursuit of pleasure. 29 days and he will be here! I just had a shudder of pleasure just thinking about it.
Life has been such an adventure that there is so much to remember and so much to tell! I have written stories about many encounters while they were fresh in my memory. Others I have had to draw from the deep secret places of memory.